Ok OP here - a small update or maybe not much of an update .
I didn’t before because I have been quite ill the last few months -mainly MH and stress related which this thread added to . During this time I have dealt with a close family bereavement on my husbands side, a major unplannned operation ( me) and very significant MH symptoms which had worsened and only now there are tiny glimmers of improvement. I say all this for those begging for updates for their own amusement. I don’t intend to give a running commentary on things . The most you can expect would be an update in late August if they arrive . I am only doing this because I too find non updates a tad annoying!
Health wise for me is that I am slowly recovering but have not been well enough to travel to see my parents and I need to be careful.
Up until this weekend I had assumed the visit was gong ahead, despite my parents health decreasing rapidly and them both becoming more physically unable . Given the stripping off I got before for trying to get cousins to book somewhere locally and just visit, I have stayed completely out of it.
However this weekend I saw a message on Facebook to another cousin saying they were planning a trip to Ireland the very same dates as they were going to see my parents!
A bit of background.
The group originally coming could be divided into 2 uneven sized groups .
One group are 2/3 newly retired folk who if they visited would usually come on their own steam , muck in, want to actually see my parents and enjoy their company and in short not be too strenuous for my parents . It is this smaller sub group my parents would be most keen to see.
The other group of 4/5 are the ones I am most concerned with consist of the younger family - the couple who if you recall were planning to go to the party in Italy and sightsee whilst here. Basically the ones really using my parents and in my view the ultimate CF . They have visited my parents before about 5 years ago which was very stressful at the time ( however my parents appear to have a selective memory about that occasion)
if you can do maths you will see that one person could fall into either camp and it is this person who wrote the Facebook comment.
I suspect the younger crowd and her may be having second thoughts about coming to my parents which I really hope they are .
So , if the first small group do come, it wouldn’t be anything like as bad and if the other crowd inflict themselves on the wider family in Ireland so be it. No surviving 90 year olds over there!
I have no intention of asking my parents or contacting my cousins to check . If they haven’t contacted my parents to inform them of updated plans well that is between them . (but I wouldn’t put it past them frankly given past behaviour)
And if my parents already know but not saying anything to me so as not to open old wounds well so be it. I am happy to wait till august to see what actually happened.
That’s probably it till August folks, I will update you then.