“I didn’t think we were bothering this year”

[BBOA]

Arghhhhh! What a twat! Speaks volumes! Are men/partners/ wives / significant others that stupid?

@SmellyOldOwls so you didn’t get anything either?😂

I feel it too. Those who say they don’t bother with it, must be nice for you to be shown love all year round, some of us have shit oh who don’t show love all year round so when it comes to the day of love and they still don’t bother it hurts.

Leave and get a new guy….Yh, cos it’s that easy and he will just be head to toe perfect won’t he.

All the good ones are taken.

@BBOA maybe in future define plans a few weeks before.

Never understand why valentines is a hallmark made up money making day but Mother’s Day and Father’s Day aren’t? They all are but anything for a bit of celebrating those you love in my eyes on either of those days.

We do cards and a small gift like flowers/chocolate/beer. Takeaway later and went out for a meal at the weekend. We both enjoy it and we are a couple that appreciates our relationship all year round. We can do both!

We haven't bothered for decades 😉. What gets me is all the Facebook posts "love my husband to the moon and back" for crying out loud you live with the man just fucking tell him. Can you tell I just hate virtue signalling shit.

We always do cards, he sends me flowers at the office (bc the whole point is that your colleagues see them and we have a nice meal in the evening - home cooked usually.

But with WFH rending the office flowers pointless this year we are going for dinner at our favourite (fairly distant) Thai restaurant on Wednesday instead.

@Endofdaysarehere

Aww OP,

Did you want to post a #blessed#loved ? And now you can’t?

Sad for you.

I'm not in the slightest bit interested in Valentine's Day, and I don't use social media - but this is a really mean comment.

I haven't seen any sneering

Just one exampke:
Aww OP,
Did you want to post a #blessed#loved ? And now you can’t?
Sad for you.

Missed that. Yes, that was horrible and completely unnecessary. Have to wonder what prompts people to be so bitter and snide to complete strangers, but it's not a good luck.

And I was wrong.

Good look* even. Now my grammar as well as skim-reading skills are lacking!

There's plenty of people going on about it being tacky and commercialised shit etc.

They're just giving their opinions on Valentines Day though? How is that sneery? I said something similar, I certainly wasn't sneering at anyone, people can do what they like, like what they like, it's no skin of my nose, I was just giving my own thoughts on it?

We keep it low key but exchange cards - other than the cards we will behave towards each other just as we always do.

It's all hyped up shite OP. Don't worry about it. Keeps the card companies in business. Millions fall for it every year.

We don't often bother other than a card but our anniversary was a few weeks ago and we both pretty much overlooked it (ended up going together to buy cards the night before....) So we've bought small gifts and I'm not working late tonight as I usually would, pasta evangelists are providing dinner and pudding and we'll probably watch something together.
I think a lot of couples who've been together a long time don't make much of a fuss about valentine's.

They're just giving their opinions on Valentines Day though? How is that sneery? I said something similar, I certainly wasn't sneering at anyone, people can do what they like, like what they like, it's no skin of my nose, I was just giving my own thoughts on it?

This. Why is dissenting from the consensus always put down to "sneering"?

We swapped cards but we never eat out on valentine's Day or pay over the odds for some tacky themed gifts. We might crack open a bottle of wine later.

vm.tiktok.com/ZML6doVjA/

Watch that.
Valentines really isn't that important tbh.

@YungBludForPM

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZML6doVjA/

Watch that.
Valentines really isn't that important tbh.

FYI the video is not me.

I do think it's a bit ridiculous when a couple I know post loved up photo collages on FB when they fight like cat and dog all the time often publicly, and haven't been out alone together for years because 'it would be weird' (they have plenty of access to babysitting and both go out all the time with groups of friends alone and together). My world 😍......

Tbh I think that if Valentine’s Day is the only day you expect something based on the fact that your partner does nothing the rest of the year then the relationship is already in trouble.

IMO if they only bother because it’s Valentine’s Day then it’s all wrong anyway.

I knew a couple who would go all out on valentines, hotel rooms filled with rose petals, magnums of champagne, you get the gist. And for the rest of the year all they did was bicker and tell anyone who wanted to hear (and most people who didn’t want to hear) how much they hated each other.

If your partner only bothers on valentines then it’s completely meaningless.

We’ve never bothered, and tbh I wouldn’t want my DP to buy me something just because the day of the year says he should.

Never understand why valentines is a hallmark made up money making day but Mother’s Day and Father’s Day aren’t? They all are but anything for a bit of celebrating those you love in my eyes on either of those days

This!!!

@Endofdaysarehere

Aww OP,

Did you want to post a #blessed#loved ? And now you can’t?

Sad for you.

What must it be like to be so miserable as to feel compelled to post spiteful shit like this on the internet?

My DH always gets me a bunch of flowers and last year he forgot. I was pretty upset tbh and i think it was because we had been struggling with our toddler and it felt like it compounded a period of disconnect in our relationship. I actually don’t care about gifts, xmas/birthday meh, love the occassions not bothered about presents (I specifically tell him not to buy me anything) But that really got to me, it was a bit of a symbol of how we had drifted I guess.

Is that the reason OP?

@AryaStarkWolf

There's plenty of people going on about it being tacky and commercialised shit etc.

They're just giving their opinions on Valentines Day though? How is that sneery? I said something similar, I certainly wasn't sneering at anyone, people can do what they like, like what they like, it's no skin of my nose, I was just giving my own thoughts on it?

Perhaps we read it with different tones of voices in our head, but when someone tells you something is important to them and you tell them it's tacky commercial shit that isn't important then yes, I think that comes across as sneery. And the other comment "Aww OP, Did you want to post a #blessed#loved ? And now you can’t? Sad for you* WAS sneery.

We’ve never bothered with it, not really into the whole holding hands and hearts and flowers stuff. In fact I’d forgotten it was Valentine’s Day until I went to the shop for a sandwich at lunchtime.

Valentine’s Day is just a ridiculous commercial opportunity. We don’t bother with it. Our anniversary means more.

Did you get him anything.

Perhaps we read it with different tones of voices in our head, but when someone tells you something is important to them and you tell them it's tacky commercial shit that isn't important then yes, I think that comes across as sneery.

Well, but using that logic no one would ever challenge the truth of religious faith. I know people of faith take it very seriously and I respect that but equally I have the right to think its a load of nonsense and say so.

Some things which people cling to as being important are false friends. I happen to think people get unhealthily over invested in Valentine's Day which I think is more malign than benign and I stand by this. I think we would generally have healthier relationships if we didn't get so hung up on these ritualistic bits of symbolism.

I accept that not everyone else feels like me and I fully accept their right to feel as they do, but don't tell people they can't express a negative opinion.