What would YOU do?

[Lyonic]

I have twin boys aged 2 and a half who will be starting nursery soon. While it has been a struggle to get to this stage theough covid, the idea of freeing up some time to get the house in order unmolested! Cant wait.

The issue is that my mother who has been retired for over a year has not offered any support for childcare. I was left in the care of my grandparents for 3 hours a day, Mon - Fri, yet us asking help for 1 day a week is crossing a line?

I feel im im the right but wanted to know what you think?

Maybe your mum doesn't want to help you out because you are total piece of work? Just an inkling.....

Op you will get slated on here but i agree with you. My in-laws are similar to your mother and I think it's them missing out. Thankfully my parents were more family orientated and offered (demanded!) without needing to be asked. My children had a closer relationship with my parents as a result and I know how I plan to be with my grandchildren. Was your mum not very maternal? My mum has died now (my children still relatively young) and I know my children treasure the time they spent with her.

@Lyonic not a different class, no. Just not as entitled as you. Some of us disabled people take our (more than 2!) children to the shops (yes, Aldi!) without much fuss.