Chippy tea

[feminarste]

If your other half said, do you fancy some chip shop chips on the way home from work-both if you in the car.
You pull up and he goes in, you stay in the car as you've not got a coat and it's a wait outside situation.
He come out
Having bought you and his son chip but himself a massive cod and chips.
Would you be pissed?
It just feels like a proper reflection of how he views "us"
I said that's selfish and he said it was absent minded.

Please explain what you mean by 'lack of tag' and GF as not familiar with this MN jargon

And yet you claim to be familiar with how threads on MN work?🤔

Maybe read the talk guidelines
I suspect you aren't familiar with social interaction at all from your behaviour in this thread

He was being selfish.
If he was getting just chips , then you all get just chips. If he was fancying fish and chips then he should have said so, if he changed his mind on entering the shop then he should have put his head out the door and said so.
In NO situation EVER would my husband but me and son a 'snack' and himself a whole meal!!
It was not up to you to speak up.

A useful benchmark is to stop and ask yourself "What would happen in a healthy, positive relationship?"

Possible answers in this scenario include (1) DH asks if you want fish, (2) you ask for fish, (3) you share the fish he bought, (4) one of you goes back into the shop to buy a second portion of fish, (5) a bit of gentle teasing DH for being so greedy / thinking of himself, (6) an apology for not asking you / you not saying what you wanted. Any of these responses would be fine

In your case, you want a divorce and he tells you to F Off. This thread was never about fish and chips. It's far bigger than that

Can you start divorce proceedings op?

Possibly, my financial situation isnt great but not insurmountable.
This has been rumbling on for years now, typical keep it together for the kids.
I had a dawning moment where I thought "why do I want to break us up" and I realised I don't, I dont want a divorce - but I also recognise that his behaviour is such that he clearly doesn't care that that's the likely outcome.
It's not me destroying the relationship it's him-I'm just the one calling it

That's the way to look at it, along with why would you want your kids to watch their dad treating their mum (and them) like second class citizens, and disrespecting you in that way.

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

Love the way everyone has a go at you because your husband is a selfish shit. No woman on this earth would go in and buy herself a massive bag of fish and chips and only chips for everyone else. It's totally entitled, misogynistic, selfish behaviour only ever seen in people with penises who think they are more important than anyone else.

I'm sorry but this made me laugh! So much truth in this and so clearly articulated!