So he's basically depriving his family of at least £4800?
Wtf!
And who is caring for the dc while he's doing this extra work?
You of course
You KNOW he's taking the piss op!
He also has a gambling addiction
I was just gonna say the ONLY reason to not have all family money in one pot is addiction
Why are you still with him?
Do you have proof he hasn't already gambled away the money he claims to have in that account?
They don’t need a holiday - they need financial security.
This
Do not put your earnings into a shared account. Get your own account completely separate from him and quite honestly prepare to leave as soon as possible.
Gambling addiction, plus what sounds like financial abuse?
Better off on your own I suspect op
I'm also not buying the £10k crap! Sounds seriously dodgy to me
Has he had a big gambling win that he's trying to hide from you?
A definite possibility
He has used joint money for gambling before but I wouldn't say raided....
I would!
How long have you known about the gambling?
Your husband is emotionally and financially abusive, doesn't want to be a dad to his kids, is an alcoholic and a gambler
If so then you need to stop pussyfooting about op and get out!
Have you checked his, yours and the kids credit history? (I know not really the kids credit history but he could be using their names)
Start building up an emergency fund because your husband is going to fleece you.
Yep!
I know.... You're right. It's just so hard. It's one thing after another.
Your life will be MUCH easier if you leave him. Plan for it but not overly so and then do it.
Enough is enough
If I knew this guy I'd be raising with the exam boards that the quality of his marking is likely very poor too
He had to pay off all of his debt so we could move house and get his credit score back on track.
Yea I'm beginning to doubt the veracity now too - that doesn't happen in such a short time period! It takes years for a credit history to recover from debt
Either he's lying or op is.
He's definitely marking. I've seen him doing it.
Would be very easy to fake!
I'm also wondering if this apparent windfall will actually come from the inheritance which was a lot more than he admitted to op and he's using to cover his tracks?
Whatever is going on op, you and the kids will be far far better off in every way if you leave him. Stop dithering about that, get onto womens aid, https://www.ncdv.org.uk, your gp, social services, family...whoever can help you get the hell out!
Alcoholic teachers are hardly a new thing I had at least 2 during my time at school who were regularly obviously drunk and stank of booze!
My dd had 1 too.
No, he isn't drunk while working.
I find that hard to believe too esp as he seems to deceive you quite easily so I'm not sure you're best placed to judge/know.
I haven't seen any contracts or his bank statement which is where that marking money is paid.
I think it's pretty clear you have absolutely no idea how much money he does or doesn't have, what debts, even if your home is safe.
Stop burying your head in the sand and start being realistic.
Check the credit histories, speak to gambling, debt and domestic abuse organisations and most importantly get out of this relationship!