… if you are married 20+ years do you still do valentines?

[FastFashun]

Just curious if it is something that people still do having been together a long time? On one level I understand it’s a marketing ploy. However, I do also take it as a reminder for me to be thankful for my kind and wonderful partner. Maybe that’s just me, because aware I’m not always the most thoughtful a lot of the time …

Not married, but together 32 years. We just do cards - even if we aren't liking each other very much.

@PickledOnionSandwich

I think it’s sad when couples don’t do Valentine’s Day actually. Given that you can get cards for about 25p in card factory, what’s wrong with taking 5 minutes just to tell the person you love how much they mean to you? Yes, you should be telling them regularly, but there’s something nice about receiving a special card that someone has chosen for you.

I'm sure it's lovely if you like cards. I don't, nor does he, so it's really not 'sad' for us! We don't exchange them on birthdays, either.

I think it’s sad when couples don’t do Valentine’s Day actually. Given that you can get cards for about 25p in card factory, what’s wrong with taking 5 minutes just to tell the person you love how much they mean to you? Yes, you should be telling them regularly, but there’s something nice about receiving a special card that someone has chosen for you.

It’s not sad if you’re happy with not celebrating it. And it’s not about the cost of a card. We don’t send to cards to each other for any occasion. I recycle birthday cards as soon as I’ve opened them. 😬 If a cards important to you, then of course your partner should send you one but if it’s not, it’s hardly ‘sad’.

Never have done.

Regularly do thoughtful/surprise things for each other year round and neither of us in any doubt about how much we love and appreciate the other, plus we have our anniversary for celebrating that specifically.

Yes, we always do a card and something small - a token gesture.

No.
Didn't do it when we were first going out. Didn't do it after we got engaged. Have never done it.

We don't and never have.

No, he commercial crap.

We do celebrate the dates that are meaningful to us, just not some arbitrary day set by the greeting card industry.

Yes, we will drink champagne and have a special dinner and exchange cards and small gifts. He will very likely buy me flowers.

We’ve been together for over 20 years and regularly make an effort to do romantic things, not just on Valentine’s.

Sort of , we normally either go out for a meal or cook something nice. We never do cards though. This year DH got his weeks wrong so we're eating out on Saturday.

Married 33 years.

I hand-made a card, as usual, while semi-watching the Super Bowl. My wife sniffed and said "not one of your best". She didn't get me a card.

We've been together for 45 years. LTB?

we buy cards and still do 25 years later! but never done the meal out...yuk...cliché. And no flowers sent to office/work ever ever ever...so naff.

@CanadianJohn

I hand-made a card, as usual, while semi-watching the Super Bowl. My wife sniffed and said "not one of your best". She didn't get me a card.

We've been together for 45 years. LTB?

I couldnt find a card that wasn't vomit inducing. Had there been one saying " you are a lazy bastard who doesn't help enough round the house" I might have bought it.

Yes! He bought me choc and champagne and I got him a ❤️ beer glass and chilli making plant set - two of his favourite things! - the romance is still here 🥰💕😜

We'd normally do some small thing together, like a nice cake to share, or an extra nice bottle of wine to share. Never did the cards.

My DD sent me a text earlier to say that DH had got me lovely flowers which I'd like, and they . I'm working in office today, and have not got anything! So I'll have to try get some nice wine on way home, or plan to do something else this evening

We haven’t been married this long but don’t bother with it. I usually get DH a tongue in cheek card but think he’s only returned the favour twice. Don’t buy gifts. It’s definitely a huge marketing ploy.

Been married thirty plus years and he did buy me a bottle of wine and chocs today which was nice
We don't bother with cards.
Sometimes we don't bother at all though!

Married 10, we've rarely bothered even when we were younger.
It's just not a special day, birthdays and anniversary's are but this - meh.

I recycled my card from last year. He is not going to be happy if he notices

This year we did, but haven’t ever really bothered before.
It’s our 20th Valentine’s together this year, and so we stayed overnight in a spa hotel last night, had a treatment each, a nice dinner etc and came home this morning.
Was 🥰
Maybe we’ll do it again when we reach 40 years ☺️

These ' special days ' are just there to make stores and restaurants money.
Next up , Mother's Day. Big racket.
Then Easter , Father's Day , then by September the choc tubs are out for ready for Christmas!
I'm sure that the card makers would have even more days if they could too ( happy single 's day ? Happy pet day ?)

Been together since we were 15 - nearly 25 years. Absolutely not, don’t do anniversaries either. Waste of time. He always gets me something from my boys though - he says it’s good training in case it matters to their future spouses!