Page 5 | … if you are married 20+ years do you still do valentines?

FastFashun · 2022-02-11T22:41:03+00:00

Just curious if it is something that people still do having been together a long time? On one level I understand it’s a marketing ploy. However, I do also take it as a reminder for me to be thankful for my kind and wonderful partner. Maybe that’s just me, because aware I’m not always the most thoughtful a lot of the time …

SkiingIsHeaven · 12/02/2022 00:10

We buy each other a card and normally just cook something extra nice. Nearly 30 years together and married for 21 years of them, so far.

Partyatnumberten · 12/02/2022 00:12

I also make my kids a special breakfast, decorate with 💕 and put a little treat in their lunch. I know it's frowned upon around these parts. Who cares it's always nice to spread a little love.

buddylicious · 12/02/2022 00:28

Just a card

Cocolapew · 12/02/2022 00:34

No, I think we only did cards for the first couple. If my local butcher still has tomahawk steaks tomorrow I'll buy one, mainly because DH wants to try it.

Teeturtle · 12/02/2022 01:21

Nearly 18 years and no we don’t do valentine’s and I don’t think we ever have.

TeaAndStrumpets · 12/02/2022 01:38

Ooh I win! Married 50 years, yes we still buy Valentine's cards for each other.

Wingedharpy · 12/02/2022 01:43

No - never have, it's just a commercial gimmick.

I will, however, be cutting his toe nails.
Now that, really is love

LorelaiDeservedBetter · 12/02/2022 01:53

We've been together 20+ years. When we started dating, our approach to Valentine's was always slightly arch and humorous eg a hand-drawn picture; a packet of our favourite fruit; home-made cards. The aim was always to make the other person smile or laugh. When we were busy with small DC, Valentine's became about buying tickets for a concert we'd like. Now DC are young teens, we're back to our homespun, quirky approach.

Iwannabewherethepeopleare · 12/02/2022 01:55

You always get comments about showing you love someone every day so don’t need Valentine’s Day. It’s not an either/or thing surely? We go out for dinner or do fun things a lot and have a loving, affectionate relationship as a generap thing but we can still enjoy a card and fun gift or something. Happy to celebrate all occasions

fallfallfall · 12/02/2022 02:03

over 40 and retired so i take advantage of all and any special occasions. cards/chocolates/meal out for all and sundry occasions out for chinese in early feb (year of the tiger), chocolates and cards already purchased for the 14th just not the lunch location. flowers always welcome.

maybe more my input than his but he never complains and enjoys the day. shrove tuesday coming up, he'll be doing fancy belgian waffles!

LorelaiDeservedBetter · 12/02/2022 02:08

@Iwannabewherethepeopleare

You always get comments about showing you love someone every day so don’t need Valentine’s Day. It’s not an either/or thing surely? We go out for dinner or do fun things a lot and have a loving, affectionate relationship as a generap thing but we can still enjoy a card and fun gift or something. Happy to celebrate all occasions

That's what I think too. If anything I enjoy Valentine's Day more, the longer we're together. I've lost that self-conscious search for cool and am quite happy to participate in every opportunity to show we love each other. We still say we love each other every day. We still make meals for each other or run bubble baths for each other if we've had a stressful day. Valentine's Day for us, slots in alongside being in a loving relationship.

oncemoreunto · 12/02/2022 02:09

28 years and yes, in a low key way.

muckandnettles · 12/02/2022 02:19

35 years and always card and present.

echt · 12/02/2022 02:36

My late DH and I were together for 25 years, and always exchanged cards and a present.

user1487194234 · 12/02/2022 02:48

Yes we do

whitewashing · 12/02/2022 04:16

We do cards, have a special dinner at home, tables with candles etc…for over 30 years here.

Hydrate · 12/02/2022 05:04

Yes, this will be our 37th Valentine Day together. We exchange cards and go out for dinner, though we often have a special dinner at home.

Hydrate · 12/02/2022 05:04

@whitewashing

We do cards, have a special dinner at home, tables with candles etc…for over 30 years here.

Almost the same as us!

Acorndetector · 12/02/2022 05:50

We've been together 20+ years. We usually get each other cards. Some years a small gift but we have never been that interested. We were speaking the other day and realised Valentines day is coming. We both decided we are not bothering. He treats me well all year. Small random gifts and gestures that show he cares. I don't need an artificial day for him to show he loves me.

JustJam4Tea · 12/02/2022 06:14

10 years married….he usual cooks us steak, get a card and bunch of flowers. Not the most thoughtful of people like that so it’s nice. Thoughtful in other ways I suppose.

whitewashing · 12/02/2022 06:49

@Acorndetector

We've been together 20+ years. We usually get each other cards. Some years a small gift but we have never been that interested. We were speaking the other day and realised Valentines day is coming. We both decided we are not bothering. He treats me well all year. Small random gifts and gestures that show he cares. I don't need an artificial day for him to show he loves me.

Luckily, we don’t either, but it’s nice to make one day even more special!

whitewashing · 12/02/2022 06:50

@Hydrate

Yes, this will be our 37th Valentine Day together. We exchange cards and go out for dinner, though we often have a special dinner at home.

Have a lovely time!

NumberTheory · 12/02/2022 06:51

Together 30ish, married 25. Never done valentines.

Diditopknot · 12/02/2022 06:56

Absolutely not, never have.
Funny though as he always just checks with me…”are we still not doing cards?” Makes me smile.
Don’t do birthday or Christmas either, it just doesn’t mean anything to us.

MumWithYOPD · 12/02/2022 07:19

Nope, Valentine’s Day is for secret love. Signing off a card or flowers with ? is slightly stalkery if you think about it.