… if you are married 20+ years do you still do valentines?

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Just curious if it is something that people still do having been together a long time? On one level I understand it’s a marketing ploy. However, I do also take it as a reminder for me to be thankful for my kind and wonderful partner. Maybe that’s just me, because aware I’m not always the most thoughtful a lot of the time …

I’d not dream of not getting my parents a Mother’s Day or Father’s Day card. Maybe that’s why I also do Valentines Day? I also do Christmas, Birthdays, Anniversaries, have haggis on Burns night usually, a pancake on pancake day, an Eater egg at Easter and a glass of bubbly for the bells. All of these commercialised dates. Take it that makes me a mug. Fine by me!

And @Keladrythesaviour apologies, it looked like you were saying he did like valentines. Didn’t realise someone had told him to. That wasn’t their business! As much as I do a valentines card, if you both don’t like it that’s your choice! I just know couples where one would love these things and the other has decided for them both that ‘they’ don’t do these things. That’s a bit sad.

I also don’t mind commercialisation so much if there’s still meaning behind it. We need to keep money flowing in the economy so I don’t grudge it too much. I’m not talking about spending what you don’t have.

Married 20 yrs this coming August, but decided no Valentine cards this year. However, we did buy each other some chocolates from a local independent chocolate shop, as we think supporting them is more important.

If 'do Valentines Day' means flowers and cards and balloons and chocolates then no. We do mark the occasion, this year he took me out for lunch yesterday and today I gave him a t-shirt he wanted and we had steak for dinner.

It doesn't have to be a big fan fare. So far this year we've also marked Burns Night and Chinese New Year. We'll do pancake day in a few weeks. We think it's nice to have little celebrations* here and there.

I find it really bizarre that some people are so bitter and joyless that they feel the need to look down on people who acknowledge Valentines Day. I really feel sorry for you.

*We also have nice meals/celebrations outside of these dates obviously.

No, we demonstrate our love every day, never needed a piece of card or the rest of it.

Together nearly 40 years. YES we still do it.

Still as much in love now as we were when we met!

There is nothing wrong with doing it - or NOT doing it. But the sneery, snarky attitude (from some) towards people who DO do Valentine's is nauseating. It smacks of jealousy and bitterness.

Together 24 years. Some years we do, some we don’t. Really don’t mind either way though. If I buy him a card it’s usually a naff funny one.

Opened the door today to a delivery of flowers and chocolates, which was a lovely surprise.

Nope never

@dementedma just for you!

Haven't done cards this year but I got him some chocs he likes and made a nice dinner at home.

He'd usually buy me chocs too but I'm trying to lose weight so instead he's taking me to my favourite local shop tomorrow to choose something for my hobby. Couldn't go today due to work schedule. And he wouldn't have a clue what to get so wiser to let me choose!

It was our 31st Valentine's Day today, she counted!

We made each other a card (we've always done this), he bought Tesco roses when he went to get a bottle of wine for our steak dinner. I'm not very well just now so he made the dinner, and it was so nice just to sit down together, kids were all out with partners so nice and quiet (apart from ddog asking for bits off the steak! (Bit like having a toddler again!).

We don't do the hallmark side of it, but we're quite soppy generally and so any excuse to celebrate!!

silversprinkles lmao. Thank you

The date wasn't even acknowledged in our house. Together 16 years.