… if you are married 20+ years do you still do valentines?

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Just curious if it is something that people still do having been together a long time? On one level I understand it’s a marketing ploy. However, I do also take it as a reminder for me to be thankful for my kind and wonderful partner. Maybe that’s just me, because aware I’m not always the most thoughtful a lot of the time …

It's about consistency I guess, isn't it? We have been together 30 years and never noticed Valentine's Day. Our best friends have been together 22 years, and do something thoughtful and sweet for each other every year. It would raise an alarm for them if one of them were to 'forget'.. it would raise huge alarms for re us if flowers suddenly appeared on the 14th 😁...

No. I’d find flowers any other week a million times more romantic than flowers on Valentine’s Day. And I hate restaurants on Valentine’s Day overcrowded with crap set menus. Valentines is for teenagers and relationships in their early stages.

Yes together 27 years and going out for dinner on Monday. Always exchange cards and there will be champagne and flowers. Didn't realise we were so naff!

The thing is, date nights are really good for us but we are so busy we kind of forget to do them unless it's an "occasion".

We usually cook one of our favourite dinners. Something like a fish bouillabaisse with crusty bread.

Married 20, together 30. Nope.

He'll get a card but can't be arsed with that shite.

32 years and yes we do.

It’s fine if you’re not into it, but some of you sound a bit bitter about it - there’s no need to be spiteful about something that other people enjoy.

IT’S JUST A BIT OF FUN.

Lighten up.

No, but it isn't a question of "still". Like many others, we've never done anything for Valentines.
Bit odd to have a "secret admirer" if you are a couple.

Yes we do.

We’ve been married 3 years and together for 6 and don’t do it, nor have we ever done it.

We've been together 17 years, we have always done something small. Our wedding anniversary is a few days after so we don't do much more than a meal out and a card.

@DixonD

It’s fine if you’re not into it, but some of you sound a bit bitter about it - there’s no need to be spiteful about something that other people enjoy.

IT’S JUST A BIT OF FUN.

Lighten up.

I find these “we love each other every day” comments quite funny - as if those of us who do Valentines hate each other the rest of the year.

never have, small gift at xmas and birthday only

40 years married always have and always will do cards. Sometimes dinner out, sometimes dinner in.
Table booked for Monday!

Yes! Past the overpriced meal out but I have a 1990s oasis back stage pass from the gig he went at Loch Lomond when he was 18 and some nice toiletries for him. He’d better sort a good meal snd flowers 😉 we were married in 1999.

After nearly 30 years of doing nothing, my dad had the most beautiful bunch of tea roses delivered to the house for my ma. She thought they were for my sister, put them to the side and continued to ignore the day.

When dad said he'd sent them, her first thought was that he was dying.🙄 Her second was that he was having an affair.🤣🤣🤣

Not surprised by the responses, some people really dislike it, for others it’s a fun day, see the same mix with my friends. Marmite?

I’ve never enjoyed going out that day, too busy and rushed. However, even though not a big deal for DH, we do stuff at home. I’m typically busy and frazzled a lot of the time, and make an effort to be more appreciative of my great DH … in theory it could be any day of the year though!

We’re not sure of the date we met, but it was after valentines, so we do mark it as anniversary too.

Been together 19 years, married 17 years and yes we do - cards and we'll have a special meal (at home).

My parents have been together over 30 years and my father always buys my mother flowers and card. He is a very thoughtful man though and does this through the year.

Me and DH have been together 14 years (from teens) and I always get a gift on valentines but we don’t go out.

We'll be apart. I am taking the kids and the arsehole dog away in half term without him
That is actually a lot more of an act of love than sharing an M&S meal deal would have been

Also, it’s fairly easy for us really, since it’s the only day I eat chocolate:) and DH is fairly easy to please, I know exact what to do

We exchange cards and generally go out just the two of us within a couple of weeks of Valentine's Day - but never around the actual day as so many restaurants offer a special Valentine's Menu...and we often don't want to order what's on it!

I'd rather go to a favourite restaurant a week later and order whatever I fancy from the full menu.

Overall, we prefer to do little things/buy little gifts year round.

Yes, we do cards and whatnot although we're not precious about it and I'll be out that evening at my hobby.

DH still buys me flowers, but we long ago agreed to get them a week beforehand, before the price goes up.

Yes. Life is hard, any excuse for a celebration.

Valentines day is a big commercial activity, just like Easter, Christmas, Halloween, etc. It really depends on the couple. It’s an important part of some couples calendar, and not for others.