… if you are married 20+ years do you still do valentines?

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Just curious if it is something that people still do having been together a long time? On one level I understand it’s a marketing ploy. However, I do also take it as a reminder for me to be thankful for my kind and wonderful partner. Maybe that’s just me, because aware I’m not always the most thoughtful a lot of the time …

Before we married, the most we did for each other was buy chocolates and wine to share and made a meal at home.

My wedding anniversary is on the 24th (26 years this year) so we don't do anything for Valentine's Day and save our nice dinner and gifts for ten days later.

Nope. Card and some chocolate. But we go away together to a nice hotel for 1 night, just us, a few times a year.

We’ve been together more than 20 years, we’ve never celebrated it. We do nice things for each other/do things together all the time so don’t make a special effort for Valentines Day. Each to their own although I do roll my eyes at men who treat their wife/partner like shit all year and then do the big romantic gesture on Valentines Day. 🤮

Been together 41 years and married for 36, never done Valentine's and find being expected to be romantic unappealing.

I find these “we love each other every day” comments quite funny - as if those of us who do Valentines hate each other the rest of the year

In fairness, I'm enjoying all the "but then, my husband is quite thoughtful" comments, too. As if... well, you get it...

We do a small gift, a nice card and I either cook something a bit special or we go out. It’s not a need as people keep pointing out, but it’s still nice. We’ve been together 20 years and married 18.

Together 15 years tomorrow and yes! We still do Valentine's. Not a secret obviously but we still do a special meal and make it a romantic event. 💕

We don't, never have in 20 years. My mum and stepdad do the whole flowers, meal, card thing and have done for the past 30 years. We all love each other, that's what matters. Whatever works for you is what counts :)

Yes, 30 years for us.

No. 41years together 33 of them married. That says enough for us.

It’s a good think to be cognisant of having a compatible partner. Lots of different ways to show appreciation for that, it certainly doesn’t need to be Valentine’s Day.

He used to buy me flowers and take me out. We both lost our occupations during Covid and now barely make ends meet with odd jobs. Last year he must have got up during the night and he made me a card. It meant just as much. We have been through a lot of tragedy and this 44 year old man got up in the middle of the night to make me a valentine's card - Oh - and I am old, fat, grey and ugly.

Always a card and small gift. Just a little something to say I love you. DH is very thoughtful anyway but sometimes everyone needs a little prompt

We do fuck all and never have. I show my husband in many ways, that I love him every day and vice versa.

I don't need a wilting bouquet of roses from the petrol station to know he feels the same.

It's absolute bollocks.

Nope. Loved each other truly, madly, deeply for over 4 decades and never felt the need to add to Hallmark's profit margin or landfill by buying shit to prove it.

Although, to be fair, there may have been saucy undies involved at some point, including, if we're spared, this year 😂😉

I find these “we love each other every day” comments quite funny - as if those of us who do Valentines hate each other the rest of the year

I know lots of couples that are unhappy, live in a tit for tat relationship, the man treats the woman like his personal assistant, they spend their time moaning about what a cunt the other is, so when they then have the big show for Valentines Day, it’s a bit 🙄. If they have a good relationship and then celebrate Valentines Day, then I think that’s sweet, we just don’t bother.

Married 4 years, not even a card will be exchanged on Monday. We find little ways to show our love daily and can’t be arsed with cards and stuff that costs more because it’s associated with a specific day.

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That’s lovely.

Yes always! Together 25 years. We make cards and use it as an excuse to have a fun night together. It's not corporate if you don't do anything corporate. I usually get a bunch of daffodils, the least expensive flowers and I love them

Nope, but we never did. Dh works in advertisement and he is all "it's just a made-up day" so the answer would have been the same 2 years in

Hell yes

Jo Malone all the way

Didn't do the valentines the first year we were together, definitely not going to 20 years later!

We have an Asda valentine's meal. Starter, main, two sides, pudd and bottle of rose cava for £15. Been together 20+ years, don't do cards.

Together 27years. He still sends me flowers every year & I buy him a couple of his favorite beers. It's nice to take a minute and let each other know we are still good after all these years.