To think there is an appalling lack of comprehension on these boards?

[DijfunvKd]

Honestly, the lack of basic comprehension skills from grown adults is mind blowing when you read the AIBU board.

OP 'I have £100 left until Monday. All my bills are paid, plenty of food in, AIBU to splash out on a new dress?'

Replies 'YABU to spend so flippantly when you can't feed your children'.

'£100 isn't very much, OP. Will you be able to afford your bills if you buy a new dress?'

Or

OP 'I am going to a wedding in June and staying in an Air b&b. I am single and don't have any children. My brother is also staying in the air b&b, along with his wife and two children. There is no one else staying with us. He wants to split the cost of the accommodation and food 50/50. I think I should pay less. AIBU?'

Responses - 'YABU. Presumably your husband and kids will be staying too'

'Who is staying in the house OP? YABU if you are also bringing your kids.'

'When you have children OP you will understand why your brother doesn't want to leave them at home just to go to a party.'

Why can't people read and understand what the OP is saying without having to make up and invent half the story, or alternatively ask things which are quite blatantly obviously written in the OP?

AIBU?

Look at the fancy wedding dress thread. Christ alive. The OP has answered about her age, she's asked her son's opinion, she's now bought it, there is no bride. Yet on and on they go. Ask your son OP, we don't know your age? (why that is rendered as a question is beyond me), you'll upstage the bride. It is painful Imagine working with people like that.

Ask your son, your dil prob won’t like it either. And you’ll look like a mad crazy woman. Hth

I used to think maybe it was because I used the website, not the app - maybe everything was harder to spot on the app. Then I gave the app a try and nope, the app shows all the key details you can see on the website which so many posters resolutely ignore.

Why are you even on MN if you don't have children?

Couldn’t agree more. I’m one of those people who everyone complains about for getting a thread deleted (a long time ago). I had really risked outing myself and it just got more and more frustrating to the point where I wished I hadn’t posted. The consensus seemed to be that I didn’t like what I was being told but it was far from that! I just couldn’t understand why people were making up extra bits (that weren’t even remotely accurate) and then fixating on these other things en masse!

@Movingonup22

I think that’s something only someone who has give birth could know OP

This drives me mad! MN needs to introduce a reading comprehension and grammar test before allowing registration. With perhaps a 100 word test post? If prospective users don’t post in paragraphs, they should also fail!

I also hate it on threads, especially on AIBU, where someone responds with a nasty post after reasonable replies which opens the floodgates for similar horrible posters to have the confidence to crawl out from under their stones and pile on too.

You have it spot on OP. I've only posted a couple of times but it's been an awful experience because people judge and offer opinions when they haven't read your post properly. It's very frustrating!

Well if you do decide to starve your children just so that you can splash out on a dress for the wedding, for goodness sake don’t hang it outside in case it gets darked on and you can’t wear it!

@Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g

YANBU at all, OP. These same people are the ones who browse through Active threads or AIBU or Trending, glance at the opening post or its title (rarely both) and reply. They pay no attention at all to how many posts there already are on the thread. They don't look at the date of the OP. And then we get something like this. ************************* AIBU to think a newborn baby shouldn't cry all the time? (989 posts)

MillenniumBlues Fri 01-01-00 03:04:12

My baby was born last week, he cries all the time, is there something wrong? At my wit's end.
***

A few hundred posts follow from 1st January 2000, some helpful, some not.

The next few hundred posts are assorted zombie posts from the past 22 years, all on the following lines.

• How old is the baby?
• She shouldn't cry all the time, call an ambulance
• Have you tried changing the nappy?
• We've all been there, wait till you've got 4 kids under 4 like me!
• Could it be Covid?

Meanwhile, the crying baby is now 6'2 and qualified as a nurse last year.

This made me laugh out loud.

Agree with the pp who said it’s 30 second concentration on social media. Everything is bite size, lack of reading skills, similar to lack of listening skills. Social interaction skills are being lost. I can’t imagine some people could concentrate long enough to write or read a letter any more.

I liked the second dress. 💃🏼😄

999 now!

YABU to have such high expectations of an internet board

YANBU, I think this all the time. How do these people manage to hold down a job?! Surely they must make so many errors each day?

@DijfunvKd

Honestly, the lack of basic comprehension skills from grown adults is mind blowing when you read the AIBU board.

OP 'I have £100 left until Monday. All my bills are paid, plenty of food in, AIBU to splash out on a new dress?'

Replies 'YABU to spend so flippantly when you can't feed your children'.

'£100 isn't very much, OP. Will you be able to afford your bills if you buy a new dress?'

Or

OP 'I am going to a wedding in June and staying in an Air b&b. I am single and don't have any children. My brother is also staying in the air b&b, along with his wife and two children. There is no one else staying with us. He wants to split the cost of the accommodation and food 50/50. I think I should pay less. AIBU?'

Responses - 'YABU. Presumably your husband and kids will be staying too'

'Who is staying in the house OP? YABU if you are also bringing your kids.'

'When you have children OP you will understand why your brother doesn't want to leave them at home just to go to a party.'

Why can't people read and understand what the OP is saying without having to make up and invent half the story, or alternatively ask things which are quite blatantly obviously written in the OP?

AIBU?

YES YES YES!!!!!! THIS!!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Drives me absolutely round the bloody twist

OP, love that you’re venting over your baby friend thread and all the ridiculous posts on there that clearly haven’t read the OP properly.

YABU, buy the dress another time and pay your fair share for the hotel.

YABU to have such high expectations of an internet board

Sincerely hoping this is sarcasm.

Who knew taking the time to read and comprehend what one is reading which is something many children learn in primary is considered a high expectation for a platform full of supposed adults.

My favourite is the current post about mother of the groom(gay wedding:2 men) and god knows how many said 'you'll upstage the bride' ffs 🙄

But why should people be prevented from posting fighty posts, or scolding the OP, just because what they want to say has nothing to do with what has been written?

I think that is the root cause - people decide what they want to say and then twist the OP to make it fit, rather than the other way around.

Also, ^^ is it a destination wedding? Because if so, everyone involved is being unreasonable. Don’t you know the only decent weddings take place on a wet Monday morning in November, with the bride wearing a dress she’s sewed herself out of bin bags, and the reception held in Costa.

@Marchingredsoldiers

It bugs me more when they examine the op in exact detail, then extrapolate some minor point to undermine or negate the op.

Or ask for lots of detail then complain they "don't need your life story, thanks" in the next post

Sadly this has evolved to rl too in my experience. Judging by some of the replies I get from work emails where I’m left wondering if they’d actually read what I’d written. I don’t know what’s causing it but it’s real!

@Goitalone2022

I think most people are doing something else while reading and not giving their full attention.

I think that’s it, yes.

@Faevern

Agree with the pp who said it’s 30 second concentration on social media. Everything is bite size, lack of reading skills, similar to lack of listening skills. Social interaction skills are being lost. I can’t imagine some people could concentrate long enough to write or read a letter any more.

I liked the second dress. 💃🏼😄

Agree with this too.