To think there is an appalling lack of comprehension on these boards?

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Honestly, the lack of basic comprehension skills from grown adults is mind blowing when you read the AIBU board.

OP 'I have £100 left until Monday. All my bills are paid, plenty of food in, AIBU to splash out on a new dress?'

Replies 'YABU to spend so flippantly when you can't feed your children'.

'£100 isn't very much, OP. Will you be able to afford your bills if you buy a new dress?'

Or

OP 'I am going to a wedding in June and staying in an Air b&b. I am single and don't have any children. My brother is also staying in the air b&b, along with his wife and two children. There is no one else staying with us. He wants to split the cost of the accommodation and food 50/50. I think I should pay less. AIBU?'

Responses - 'YABU. Presumably your husband and kids will be staying too'

'Who is staying in the house OP? YABU if you are also bringing your kids.'

'When you have children OP you will understand why your brother doesn't want to leave them at home just to go to a party.'

Why can't people read and understand what the OP is saying without having to make up and invent half the story, or alternatively ask things which are quite blatantly obviously written in the OP?

AIBU?

I'm on a thread a the moment where some of the replies make it clear that not only have some of the people posting not read the thread, they haven't even read the OP (which is very different from the thread title).

I'm not sure why anyone thinks that their advice will be taken seriously when they can't even bring themselves to read 3 sentences in an OP, yet they simply must reply with their words of unwisdom.

YANBU at all, OP. These same people are the ones who browse through Active threads or AIBU or Trending, glance at the opening post or its title (rarely both) and reply. They pay no attention at all to how many posts there already are on the thread. They don't look at the date of the OP. And then we get something like this.
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AIBU to think a newborn baby shouldn't cry all the time? (989 posts)

MillenniumBlues Fri 01-01-00 03:04:12

My baby was born last week, he cries all the time, is there something wrong? At my wit's end.
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A few hundred posts follow from 1st January 2000, some helpful, some not.

The next few hundred posts are assorted zombie posts from the past 22 years, all on the following lines.

• How old is the baby?
• She shouldn't cry all the time, call an ambulance
• Have you tried changing the nappy?
• We've all been there, wait till you've got 4 kids under 4 like me!
• Could it be Covid?

Meanwhile, the crying baby is now 6'2 and qualified as a nurse last year.

I have noticed that people quickly skim read and miss important details

A case of have not got time to do it right first time or read the complete post 😳😔

YABVVVU. If I have to read the whole OP it’ll cut into my time to write out a long scoldy comment telling the poster off for stuff I’ve misread or misinterpreted or just made up in my head, and that just wouldn’t be fair.

@phoenixrosehere

Its just mumsnet.....a 2 bit forum to waste a bit of time. Not an exam!

That may so but it takes away from the thread when people commenting are even too lazy to read the OP’s responses and it having to be repeated over and over what the OP has said. If people can waste time commenting, they can waste time reading at least the OP’s posts.

That drives me nuts as well. It's so easy now to see all the OP's posts! So rude not to bother.

Get an STD test asap!

I don't think it's a lack of comprehension skills, it's just laziness. I agree with the pp who said that years ago people read all posts in threads and now (if you're lucky) they just read the OP. Loads of people seem to have no idea about the 'see all OP posts' function.

Because they are stupid.

I get the odd mistake, like when you're sleep deprived or whatever, but some posters make the same constant mistakes. They are just stupid.

I think most people are doing something else while reading and not giving their full attention.

Get your ducks in a row.

I agree with @AllOfUsAreDead

It's not fashionable to say so, but lots of people are stupid.

YANBU but I’m with @Marchingredsoldiers

I find it worse when someone picks up on some irrelevant tangent in the post.

eg: OP: “My husband beat me because I spent £10 on a Gregg’s sausage roll. Should I LTB?”

Poster: “You should be able to get five Greggs sausage rolls for a tenner”.

Can’t See The Wood For The Trees syndrome. It’s so irritating.

TBF it sometimes seems like the OP doesn't read the OP either, especially when they conveniently remember details that they omitted from the OP. Usually happens when the thread isn't go the way the OP is hoping. 😅

@GirlInACountrySong

Its just mumsnet.....a 2 bit forum to waste a bit of time. Not an exam!

op..can't quite comprehend your username though

But even if its just a bit of crap you use to fill a few minutes, any would you waste your time worrying nonsense rather than read all the words on the op

"can I wear this to my gay sons gay wedding to a man?"
"no, the bride will hate you, you can't do that to your sister"
is surely just a waste of effort

I quite liked the first dress.

@isthismylifenow

I quite liked the first dress.

Me too 😁

@DoctorSnortles

I agree with *@AllOfUsAreDead*

It's not fashionable to say so, but lots of people are stupid.

That's because now you can't say anything slightly negative about anyone incase it hurts their feelings. Can't even tell them they are wrong anymore.

World would be a better place if people would admit when they are wrong, but they won't. Look at our government and the shit we are in because of it. Run by stupid people sadly.

Loads of people seem to have no idea about the 'see all OP posts' function.

They know, they just can’t be arsed.

You’ve got 2 kids with your brother & how you split b&b costs at your mothers wedding is the issue... I mean, really?

And people who don't read the thread! And ask a question repeatedly which was answered by the OP after about three posts.

With that £100 you could buy a penis beaker and still have enough money to put towards your brother's wedding

I think two dogs is fine, we have three.

YABU to spend £100 on a cottage for your kids when your brother needs a wedding dress.

What about all the locals priced out by Londoners like you? Just wear a fucking mask fgs.

You just need a spa day.

Why would you spend your last 100 quid on a dress for your brother? Use it for your kid's wedding.