Annoyed with friends/family...house purchase

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So we bought a good 4 bed house recently (in Sussex), after upgrading from a 1 bedroom flat (in a more expensive London area).

And some of the comments from friends/family make me furious:

-You must have got a hand-out from your parents.
-Must be good to have rich parents.

Also, it's not just the comments but some of the attitudes people have had when visiting. E.g. pointing out flaws, rolling eyes, nasty looks, veiled comments.

Has anyone else experiend this?

It's quite hurtful for 3 reasons:

1. I only wish friends/family well, and don't see their success as my downfall.

1. It took 10 years of saving, making money on the side, savings 50% of salaries, forgoing holidays/nice cars to be able to afford the house.

1. My/our parents are not rich at all. Since and even before buying the house, we are/were more well off than our respective parents by far. (But I guess no one knew/knows as we never spent/showed off our money, etc...).

I mean, why are friends/family such ***.

I can relate to this. I'm a first time buyer, buying on my own and have recently had an offer accepted on a masionette. It's about 45k lower compared to the houses I was looking at but not much seem to be on the market or they are sold at ridiculous prices. Anyway, the masionette is in a nice area where I'm from, it's one floor and has a front facing garden but it's relatively private. I told my friends about the masionette and they all had comments to say about it and said it's much better to get a house (there are like no houses in a relatively ok area where I'm from at the moment and I can't afford to do loads to house). It needs a bit of modernisation but nothing that can't be done. I feel a bit disheartened that I've been fortunate enough to buy it without any help from family and was looking forward to inviting them round but they all had opinions of it. Some of them are renting or have bought in a not so good area. I know you shouldn't listen to what others say but it's hard not to notice...

God, green eyed jealousy. I’d just (lie) and say yeah, my parents are so generous, they wanted me to get a bigger house but I was concerned about all the cleaning.

I just cut people off who do this. Then you keep the nice friends and never see the arseholes again.

Plenty of people are not actual friends. They just like to hang around people they feel superior to.

Family, people need to get tougher. Just because you're accidentally related to some random doesn't mean you have any obligation to contact them.

Your friends sound odd but I do know a relation who lives in an amazing house who goes on & on about how hard they worked & cant understand why others can't buy or are stuck on the ladder. Her parents bought her a flat in London at 18 for 350k cash. Which she sold for 700k & is now in a 1m home with a tiny mortgage. This is not the norm for most people.

@ShavingTheBadger

Horrible. I got similar when I inherited half a house - "you're so lucky" etc. I pull them every time by reminding them that they have parents to spend time with, make into grandparents, etc whereas I lost my mum at 23, my dad at 34 and my brother last year. I have a house but no family, and I'd give everything I have to get them back even for an hour.

So sorry OP, of course you would, I feel exactly the same. Money just doesn’t compare, at all.