Ex has thrown cat litter on me when asked to leave tonight

[Nightowl1989]

I allowed my Ex who I had been friends with since the break up a year ago, to stay in my spare room for the last two weeks as he has recently become homeless. I have a 2 year old daughter who went to bed tonight at 18:30, at 10pm I said I was going to bed and he said I'm gonna go to my bed too he goes upstairs I'm cleaning up (more of his mess) all he does is lay on his bed most of the day and go down for food and leave a mess (doesn't work he's far too lazy for that) I'd been at work got home and tidied it all up, anyway he started singing really really loud! I said X stop singing please your going to wake my DD up he started shouting and singing louder, I shouted up to him "shut up" which probably isn't the nicest thing to say but I just feel he has no respect for me my house or my daughter and he said "eww fuck off you fat cow" under his breath but I heard it so I asked him to get out of my house and he proceeded to throw a dirty cat litter box full contents all down stairs and on me at the bottom, then told me he was "on his dad's grave" (very immature thing for a 32 year old to say) going to smash my window and car tonight. He left after calling me some more names and I have reported it to the police but I feel so bad for some reason because I asked him to leave at 10pm and he doesn't have any where else to go he's just so snappy and can be nasty and makes me feel like I'm walking on egg shells in my own home and I don't want my daughter around him to be honest. I gave him a set of rules when I allowed him to stay such as don't smoke in the house don't be too loud don't go to sleep with lights on tidy up after yourself and don't slob around on my sofa all day and night and since he stayed he's smoked in my house left his stuff everywhere woke us up at half 4 in the morning yesterday being so loud and sitting in my front room watching stupid YouTube stuff not allowing me time to relax after either work or looking after my daughter all day.
Abiu for asking him to leave at 10pm for shouting and singing upstairs when my daughter is asleep?
Sorry if it doesn't read very well due to bad grammar I'm just so angry!

You've done brilliantly, you got him out and kept him out, in spite of him trying his nasty mind games on you. I'm so pleased you've got such caring neighbours. Don't be afraid to call on them if you need them.

@Nightowl1989

I'm just kicking myself as he beat me up last year and for some stupid reason i made "friends"with him as I guess I felt sorry for him so you could say it's my own fault and I abiu because I should have seen it coming!

He is a danger to you and to your daughter.

What a disgusting cretin, please have nothing more to do with him ever again, OP.

Some men are vile and entitled fools. Your error was being nice to him and letting him stay in the first place. A lesson learned. Never, ever let him stay again. Even if his car breaks down outside when he’s returning your child after visitation. Instead of being grateful and helping you out, he has behaved like your worst lodger. Please never let him over the threshold again.

Just wanted to add... I think a lot of women here who make disparaging remarks don't know how hard it is for you to deal with all of this, or the reasons why you could be in this situation. You are amazing and standing your ground and doing things right.

But please contact a therapist, it really will help. You need to learn how not to get involved again with men like this. Women's Aid probably has a list of good people to work with.

It’s not just hard it is the most dangerous time in a woman’s life. If she’s lucky he won’t stalk her or threaten her or make life difficult and she can move on. Let’s pray that she is lucky. Sorry to overdo it and hopefully he’s just a bad tempered person who will calm down. Some people who have kids with dangerous men suffer for years.

OP has said he is not the father of her little girl. Thank goodness.