DSD booked afternoon tea but not paid

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So it's my birthday on Saturday. DSD and her DH have booked me and DH in for posh afternoon tea on the Sunday afternoon at top restaurant.

I thanked her tonight for such a thoughtful gift etc and asked her to clarify time and is there a reference number for the gift etc

She gave me a photo of the reservation booking and said it's all booked under my name and have a wonderful time I just have to pay on the day

So the gift is she reserved a table. This is so like her. She genuinely thinks she's given me a gift. I gently asked again, to be clear, I pay on the day and yes, that way I can have whatever I want.

I'm just flabbergasted.

AIBU (clearly fucking not but feel free to comment if you disagree)

Oh, and I'm going to go as I do like the place and you do have to book well in advance but never heard that making a reservation is the gift!!!!

My sister pulls this sort of stunt. At Christmas, she will ask for present ideas for me, DH and DC. Then she'll ask me to buy them (including my own). Then she'll forget to reimburse me. She still expects lavish thanks, mind. She has ADHD, and I have learned to "ask" for stuff that we were planning to buy ourselves anyway, so there's no real harm done, I suppose

I get nothing from her at all.....our birthdays are days apart (mine is first) and I always give a gift separate to what her my DH gives her.

I really don't understand this mentality of giving gifts to people who never give you anything back and then be all offended. Just stop buying her a gift!

This sounds like a sitcom plot!

While she glides through life and everyone runs around after her just saying " that's how she is but isn't she lovely and witty and nice" she will never learn. I really think your DH needs to tell her that booking a table is not a gift and that it is insulting to you think it is.

Book her a lovely holiday, Barbados, world cruise....

@Bearlet - next time, try saying no. "No i can't buy them for you this year, im super busy." See if she actually sorts a gift. Or even say "we don't have wish lists this year, just surprise us."

The system you have fallen into only works for her. If someone asks you to do something for them, it is ok to say no.

@sonypony

yanbu but that is very funny. Hope you have a lovely time and treat yourself!

"and treat yourself" 🤣🤣🤣

Because someone has to pay for it! 😂

She’s not a fashion influencer by any chance? 🤔😆

Well you know what present to get next. But, she'll probably love it

Omg you could have such fun with this on her birthday !

Why isn't anyone direct with her

Wow, I'm sorry about that. She really must be dense.....perhaps your DH might have a quiet word, if she genuinely thinks that's a gift, then she needs a few life lessons before she embarrasses herself again 😂

[quote MargosKaftan]@Bearlet - next time, try saying no. "No i can't buy them for you this year, im super busy." See if she actually sorts a gift. Or even say "we don't have wish lists this year, just surprise us."

The system you have fallen into only works for her. If someone asks you to do something for them, it is ok to say no.[/quote]
Oh, I already know she wouldn't actually sort gifts. And to be honest, I don't mind not getting one from her; that's not really the issue. It's a total charade, but harmless and rather amusing, if somewhat infuriating. But yes, one year I'll say no. Either that or ask for something outlandish, like a stuffed iguana, tell her that I've bought it, and then make a big song and dance about how grateful I am. We rarely see each other at Christmas, so she'd be none the wiser.

This made me laugh. Dear lord! You couldn’t make some people up

OP "She's a wonderful guest at any occasion, really makes an impact. You really can't help but like her."

I couldn't even watch Alice on TV. If i met someone like that IRL, I'd run away 😂

@Onthedunes

Sit her down in a circle, along with Hamble, Jemima, Humpty and Little Ted.

Explain that gifts cost money and whilst you appreciate the thought, tell her not to do that concerning other people and presents, they may not understand.

Finish off with Wheels on the Bus and if that doesn't work you're going to have to bring in the big gun.....

Big Ted.

😂😂😂

This is hilarious!! Thanks for the laugh 😂

Is there something more to it? Has she perhaps paid some of it? Or paid for prosecco or something?

@CaroleFuckingBaskin

Book her a 3 night stay at the ritz for hers

I would keep upping her game, and book more and more outrageous events

Yeah this thread was fun but I have a real fear that the DSD is going to be our next prime minister.

@JackieCollinshasnoauthority

Yeah this thread was fun but I have a real fear that the DSD is going to be our next prime minister.

Happily I think she lacks that desire 😂

Seriously though, pp said "If she ever does have to stand on her own two feet, it's going to be a very hard landing for her."

The thing is, not just her. Her children and everyone around her will suffer. Unless she is just taking orders from the nearest man when the time comes. But it will get too irritating to deal with. Everyone will run a mile if they haven't already. I hope she doesn't have kids. All the nannies won't compensate for the burden of that mother.

Was just wondering … was there a reservation/booking fee?

She's a few scones short of a tea party!

Omg that’s just ridiculous!! Who does that !!!!

I don't give gifts to anyone except those who deserve one. Not even family if it goes against the grain.
I might be an oddity but I don't feel the need to appease anyone or fall in with plans that I don't want to go along with nor do I make excuses, just tell people straight.
Yes ..I don't spare people's feelings and they don't need to spare mine. I can take any criticism and it won't affect me.
That woman needs to be told what's what and I certainly wouldn't go after her utterly stupid reservation.