AIBU? DP doesn’t want me to volunteer

[VioletSky1234]

Honest opinions please. I have been looking for a volunteering role, and have found something I am interested in, and am good at. My partner however has objections. Should he have the right to ‘veto’ this? He has said if I continue he will leave me. I don’t want to say exactly what the role is, but it is a reputable organisation. I do understand why he is uncomfortable but don’t agree with his objections. Should I continue regardless of the consequences? Or stop something I enjoy because he doesn’t like it?

@VioletSky1234

Helping to rehabilitate them so when they're inevitably released they're less likely to offend,

Yes this is exactly it

It sounds extremely worthwhile, Violet. In your place, if I felt fully equipped to fulfill the role, I would just do it and say nothing more about it. If you don't mention it again it won't be a big deal for your partner. FTR, I don't think he is necessarily a controlling person, there are some things beyond another's comprehension which freak them out. No doubt he is only thinking of you.

Remember, if you go ahead, you can stop if you want to.

Good luck.