To feel hurt by MIL & others, helping Ss's DM

[Sittingatawindow]

MIL & GMIL are forever helping her, they say its because of SS, but they will help with things that wont even effect SS.

I get they can do what they want and its their time/money etc etc but...

I am also a mother of their S's child as well as the DP, it just feels like they are not being considerate of my feelings.

It does make me feel hurt, it's as if they care more about her.

IMO they of course should maintain a good relationship with the mother of their GS but they go above and beyond which she now relies on, and it would be nicer if they let her get on with her own life and problems and just care for gs.

Too much to ask?

Im sure I will get a tonne of abuse for this, but it honestly upsets me.

Well no @5keletor as I said she's not coming across well. But that doesn't mean she isn't allowed to feel crap about the situation.

OP why do you hate your DPs ex so much that you begrudge her having such a close relationship with your in-laws?

Well considering the op has decided to not come back after dropping the neglect claim when it wasn’t going her way.

I’m imagining more of a toddler type strop because it’s not fair. Even through her poor poor trapped dh would clearly be one of those many men in and out making children she claims the mother has.

[quote Sittingatawindow]@GreenTeaMom Yes I am because she is.

She has a constant stream of men through the house, several children all with different dads. Leaves them home alone, generally neglects them, but will gladly accept help if it will benefit her. Spends money on herself meant for the poor kids.

So actually no Im not the nasty one.

I don't particularly like her, but that is solely down to how she behaves as a mother. [/quote]
So you and your partner know that his child has been neglected and didnt/isn't doing everything within his power to remove the child from her care and get residency? What a catch he is if that's true. And keep in mind the string of men include your partner, he's one of the men who chose to fuck her and have a child with her (or is he the type of idiot who says he never trusted or loved her but suddenly trusted she was on the pill and chose not wear a condom?).

Maybe if your partner stepped up and did the caring for his neglected child his family wouldn't have to help them so much?

You called her the victim but you're the one expecting grandparents to stop helping their neglected grandchildren because you're jealous. You're the one painting yourself as a victim, if what you say is true, the children are the victims in all this. As well as a neglectful mum, their dad hasn't got them out of there so I'm pleased the kids have extended family looking out for them if both parents aren't stepping up.