Husband wants to take Covid Positive son out for the day….

[DontWantTheRivalry]

I’m in such a quandary.

Me, DH and DS (aged 7) tested positive last week.

DH was ill for a few days but was back at work on Day 7 after two negative LFTs.

I’m on Day 7 and my line is now starting to fade. I’ve been asymptomatic throughout.

DS is on Day 6, he has also been completely asymptomatic but his LFT is still positive.

My quandary is this…

DS and DH have got tickets to go to an event tomorrow that DS been looking forward to for about 6 months and this morning (after his latest LFT) we had to break the news to him that he wouldn’t be able to go and he was absolutely devastated. He started crying and it broke my heart.

He asked me if he could still go if he promised not to eat all day so he didn’t have to open his mouth and I just wanted to cry

Everything is a 1000 times worse because he’s absolutely fine, he’s not ill at all and it seems so unfair on him. This event is something that means a lot to him and his dad and I’m genuinely gutted that the positive LFT means he can’t go.

However, my problem is that my DH has just phoned me and said that he wants to take our son anyway as the event is outdoors and DH said he doesn’t want to DS to miss out on something that means a lot to him when he’s perfectly well. DH said that if we repeat the LFT in the morning and it’s faint then he’s going to take DS on the trip.

I feel so torn. I know it’s awful because I really do know that if he’s LFT positive he shouldn’t go, but as a mother of a distraught little boy it’s so hard to be the bad guy.

Do I need to put a stop to this?

Or would it be ok to just hand control over to DH and say “I don’t agree with what you’re doing but I physically can’t stop you taking him.”

I hate Covid.

I don’t know what to do or what to say to DH.

My husband sband was negative day 6 and positive again on day 7, was told by T&T that swabbing several times in a day affects the amount of virus present in the nose and can give you a false negative

Is this proven though?

If there is research/information on it I would like to read it as it will obviously impact on our decision - and perhaps prepare us for another positive in the morning .

@EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall I have not tested positive on LFt at all and now day 5 ( checked ) so yes it does happen
Eithrr that or my pcr is wrong ? But ds has covid confirmed by both pcr and LFT

Please let him go this is really awful, these poor kids.
Flu is far more dangerous to CEV people and we have never isolated for it. Fair enough in early stages of Covid we had to be cautious but it is ridiculous now. I cannot wait until all this isolation and staying at home when you have no symptoms ends.

@Choux your posting the wrong guidance so clearly is a minefield as you can't find the latest gudance it been posted on here several times

Are you letting him go?

If he’s positive tomorrow then no he won’t be going

Honestly, why are you still stressing about this? He’s tested negative, he’s asymptomatic. LET HIM GO

Op he had a negative test - let the poor boy go!

i have followed every rule throughout covid, i have never once broken them (also a goody two shoes here)! But i am so so fed up of the kids just missing out.

I would not go say if it was day 4 or 5, but its day 6/7 and hes negative.

Don't test him again tomorrow and break his heart - just enjoy the football!

Honestly, why are you still stressing about this?

Some of these replies are what’s causing me to feel stressed. I’m the bad guy if I send him and I’m a bad guy if I keep him home.

I think I just need to step back and see what the results show tomorrow.

@DeirdreRashid

Honestly, why are you still stressing about this? He’s tested negative, he’s asymptomatic. LET HIM GO

This 1000% - please let him go.

Good grief, some responses on here are nuts.

I'd let him go

@DontWantTheRivalry

My husband sband was negative day 6 and positive again on day 7, was told by T&T that swabbing several times in a day affects the amount of virus present in the nose and can give you a false negative

Is this proven though?

If there is research/information on it I would like to read it as it will obviously impact on our decision - and perhaps prepare us for another positive in the morning .

Stop. Just stop.

The 24 hour thing doesn't exist, and over swabbing will only reduce what's up the nose if you're doing one swab after another (say three swabs in an hour) so there's barely any mucus up there any more.

You are almost panic-thinking now.

None of this matters. He's negative today and he's likely to be negative tomorrow. Now stop complicating things in your head and your DH's.

This misunderstanding the guidance is up there with the fictional hour a day of exercise which is stil sometimes quoted

@DontWantTheRivalry

Honestly, why are you still stressing about this?

Some of these replies are what’s causing me to feel stressed. I’m the bad guy if I send him and I’m a bad guy if I keep him home.

I think I just need to step back and see what the results show tomorrow.

Yes, please do. The Covid obsessives are not doing you any good at all.

It's fine. He'll be fine. Please send him and don't inflict any more insecurity on the poor kid.

@Choux that is when isolation was 7 days not 5, now find one that says 24 hours apart on days 4 and 5

@DontWantTheRivalry

Are you letting him go?

If he’s positive tomorrow then no he won’t be going

I'm sorry, but after a negative today, I think that would be a terrible thing to do to your son. Please let him go.

I think people are forgetting that not everyone knows if they are vulnerable. Some people think they will be fine if they get covid but then end up very sick in ICU or life changing long covid. Therefore saying vulnerable people know the risk is ridiculous. Also, what do you expect these vulnerable people to do? Spend the rest of their lives inside just so people don't have to isolate for a few days. Selfish attitude.

Meanwhile, CEV families like ours are not able to take our kids to even outdoor fun things because we are still waitingnfor vaccine for under 11 yr olds.
Letter arrived so not long now about 13 weeks till coverage kicks in then maybe those kids can go somewhere too.

He’s negative, let him go but my god, some of the dramatics (not from you OP, you’ve been sensible) about it being heartbreaking is ridiculous. That said, I recognise children and young people/adults have missed out on a lot and deserve to have lovely opportunities.

I tested negative on days 7 and 8 but then showed a faint positive on day 10 (was asked to do an extra lateral flow before returning to work)

Has anyone said let him go?

Please do so.

Please let him go!

I am massively paranoid about covid and have followed all the rules, and I am saying unequivocally - let him go! The chances of him being infectious are tiny and he’ll be outside. I bet there’d be a lot of people there who are more infectious than him.

By the way, I don’t understand the voting, I bet nearly everyone is voting let him go! I wasn’t sure if that meant YABU or YANBU though!

Last month my DH was on day 8. Still positive LFT.

He gave the eulogy at his brother's funeral. So stood at the front of the church talking.

A risk, we knew, but not a chance he was going to miss it. And family there knew he'd had it the week before.

Then after in the golf club chatting etc. Of course family and friends hugged him lots etc too.

No one there caught it. We were open and honest and everyone was double vaccinated.

He'd been symptomless for a week after one day of a headache when he first got the + results.

So I'd say your son should go.

I've read that by day 4/5 you're not contagious at all and the tests had gotten a lot fainter by the end of the week.

Just let the boy go to the event.

He's a little boy: how much virus can he possibly shed outdoors, after 7 days in isolation, without sneezing and coughing or shouting all the time.

Young children shouldn't carry such a heavy burden to feel they are endangering other people's lives by simply breathing.

He clearly understands the situation and is considerate and taking precautions over and above what he, realistically (forget about the rules for a second) can take.

If there is a good quality mask of the right size for him, which you can buy for him tomorrow, do that.