Husband wants to take Covid Positive son out for the day….

[DontWantTheRivalry]

I’m in such a quandary.

Me, DH and DS (aged 7) tested positive last week.

DH was ill for a few days but was back at work on Day 7 after two negative LFTs.

I’m on Day 7 and my line is now starting to fade. I’ve been asymptomatic throughout.

DS is on Day 6, he has also been completely asymptomatic but his LFT is still positive.

My quandary is this…

DS and DH have got tickets to go to an event tomorrow that DS been looking forward to for about 6 months and this morning (after his latest LFT) we had to break the news to him that he wouldn’t be able to go and he was absolutely devastated. He started crying and it broke my heart.

He asked me if he could still go if he promised not to eat all day so he didn’t have to open his mouth and I just wanted to cry

Everything is a 1000 times worse because he’s absolutely fine, he’s not ill at all and it seems so unfair on him. This event is something that means a lot to him and his dad and I’m genuinely gutted that the positive LFT means he can’t go.

However, my problem is that my DH has just phoned me and said that he wants to take our son anyway as the event is outdoors and DH said he doesn’t want to DS to miss out on something that means a lot to him when he’s perfectly well. DH said that if we repeat the LFT in the morning and it’s faint then he’s going to take DS on the trip.

I feel so torn. I know it’s awful because I really do know that if he’s LFT positive he shouldn’t go, but as a mother of a distraught little boy it’s so hard to be the bad guy.

Do I need to put a stop to this?

Or would it be ok to just hand control over to DH and say “I don’t agree with what you’re doing but I physically can’t stop you taking him.”

I hate Covid.

I don’t know what to do or what to say to DH.

Really hoping he gets to go!!!

When I had it after new year I was told consecutive days, not 24 hours . I'd let him go

Anyone who is cev should really not be going to a football match if they are worried about covid. There could be loads of people out there who are asymptomatic and not know it

Took me 3 days to test positive on lft. I knew I had it though as had the same symptom as last time which was the most awful headache and insomnia

If it hadn't been for my oldest ds testing positive on the day my symptoms started I'd have probably put it down to excess drinking over new year and my crappy sleep pattern though!

@Dguu6u where does it say that with those figures though

@EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall i still haven't tested positive on LFt or had any real symptoms , DID a pcr as ds was positive and something wasn't quite right with me , sure enough positive , day 5 and no positive LFT any day including 4 days before PCR

Let him go OP!!! He’s asymptomatic, outdoors and it will be day 7. Let him go! He can make a commitment to try to stay a couple of meters apart from others , and no hugs etc x

Let him go!

[quote worriedatthemoment]@Dguu6u where does it say that with those figures though[/quote]
“Under the current testing rules, around 6% of people will be infectious when they are released from isolation on day 7 following 2 consecutive negative rapid lateral flow tests.

Once the guidance is changed to end isolation on day 6 with 2 consecutive negative rapid lateral flow results, modelling from the UK Health Security Agency shows this figure will rise to around 7%.

If you leave isolation on day 6, after 5 full days of isolation, between 20% and 30% of people are still infectious.”

@Wheelz46 but that was for day 7 release it doesn't seem to be there for doing tests from day 5
So confusing all this changing

@Dguu6u nowhere does it say 24 hrs though ?

This thread is utter pointlessness as OP was always going to let him go, hence the 36 pages of heartstring-tugging stories about him saying he wouldn’t eat or breathe, jumping around living room, singing the chants etc.

Good he’s getting to go but he always was, let’s be real.

Yeeeeh let him go!!

It's such utter bullshit now.

@Blondeshavemorefun again your quoting guidance from when it was day 7 it doesn't say that anymore so either an error or they have changed it

This place has gone nuts.

I honestly wonder what family life must be like for the spouses and children of some people on here.

I thought I was a rule follower, but jeeze.

Let him go

You may be able to end your self-isolation period before the end of the 10 full days. You can take an LFD test from 5 days after the day your symptoms started (or the day your test was taken if you did not have symptoms), and another LFD test on the following day. If both these test results are negative, and you do not have a high temperature, you may end your self-isolation after the second negative test result.

Report your LFD test results after taking each test.

You should not take an LFD test before the fifth day of your self-isolation period, and you should only end your self-isolation after you have had 2 negative LFD tests taken on consecutive days. You should stop testing after you have had 2 consecutive negative test results.

Absolutely nothing about 24 hours in between.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-stay-at-home-guidance/stay-at-home-guidance-for-households-with-possible-coronavirus-covid-19-infection#SymptomsPositiveTest

I’d 100% let him go.

Let him go

I’m glad it was negative.

DH knew I wouldn’t be comfortable with DS going if he’d still tested positive. I would have hated stopping him from going but I would have felt so uneasy about it - people always joke that I’m a “Goody two-shoes” though.

My DS knows he has to test negative in the morning too so he knows it’s not a definite yes yet.

[quote worriedatthemoment]@Dguu6u nowhere does it say 24 hrs though ? [/quote]
It’s the next paragraph:

“The self-isolation period was previously reduced from ending on day 10 to day 7, with a negative rapid lateral flow test result taken 24 hours apart on day 6 and 7 on 22 December 2021.”

Oh for god sake let the poor boy go

So glad it was negative OP! I'd be letting him go if tomorrow's test shows anything except a massive thick line

There will be people there at the infectious stage, shedding the virus and they won't even know they have it yet. Your poor son has done his time and is at the other end of the risk scale.

I hope he has a lovely day!

Yes, the 24 hrs was from 22nd December until whenever they changed it to 5 days, I guess it was changed to get more people back to work quicker because you would have to do it very early on day 6 to leave 24 hrs to get to work on day 7, a bit ridiculous really.

@Dguu6u yet again your reading the guidance from when it was reduced to 7 days not now its 5 days , read the latest one

@Leftbutcameback

Why wouod you think people who are CEV wouldn't go to football *@turkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek*? That's so bizarre

The people I know who are CEV, including a CEV 8 year old who is still unvaccinated, would not be going to a football match.

One I know who is now triple jabbed but is still cautious about going anywhere in a crowd, same with her family (all jabbed). The family with the CEV 8 year old have basically not gone anywhere crowded, or indoors with others for two years (including home-schooling both children and parent taking a sabbatical from work) as she is completely vulnerable due to lack of vaccine.