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Husband wants to take Covid Positive son out for the day….

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DontWantTheRivalry · 28/01/2022 12:39

I’m in such a quandary.

Me, DH and DS (aged 7) tested positive last week.

DH was ill for a few days but was back at work on Day 7 after two negative LFTs.

I’m on Day 7 and my line is now starting to fade. I’ve been asymptomatic throughout.

DS is on Day 6, he has also been completely asymptomatic but his LFT is still positive.

My quandary is this…

DS and DH have got tickets to go to an event tomorrow that DS been looking forward to for about 6 months and this morning (after his latest LFT) we had to break the news to him that he wouldn’t be able to go and he was absolutely devastated. He started crying and it broke my heart.

He asked me if he could still go if he promised not to eat all day so he didn’t have to open his mouth and I just wanted to cry Sad

Everything is a 1000 times worse because he’s absolutely fine, he’s not ill at all and it seems so unfair on him. This event is something that means a lot to him and his dad and I’m genuinely gutted that the positive LFT means he can’t go.

However, my problem is that my DH has just phoned me and said that he wants to take our son anyway as the event is outdoors and DH said he doesn’t want to DS to miss out on something that means a lot to him when he’s perfectly well. DH said that if we repeat the LFT in the morning and it’s faint then he’s going to take DS on the trip.

I feel so torn. I know it’s awful because I really do know that if he’s LFT positive he shouldn’t go, but as a mother of a distraught little boy it’s so hard to be the bad guy.

Do I need to put a stop to this?

Or would it be ok to just hand control over to DH and say “I don’t agree with what you’re doing but I physically can’t stop you taking him.”

I hate Covid.

I don’t know what to do or what to say to DH.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 28/01/2022 21:20

[quote worriedatthemoment]@Blondeshavemorefun see i read that on here 2 24 hr apart but I couldn't see it on the guidance am I looking in the wrong place?
My ds done test 11.30 am and he is due to play sport tomorrow if negative again
We plan to test at 11:30 as I read 24hrs apart as well but quick look at the guidance and I couldn't see?
Its also mentions limiting contact when coming out early either you can come out or not
Im now wondering should ds play contact sport game tomorrow even if negative ( which will be 2 in 24 hrs) and on day 10 ? Guidance can be contradictive [/quote]
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Husband wants to take Covid Positive son out for the day….
EarringsandLipstick · 28/01/2022 21:21

Easy enough to fake.

For what purpose? The gang of us on MN?

She doesn't need to 'prove' to anyone that he's negative, so why bother?

User7698365 · 28/01/2022 21:21

The 24 hours apart was for 22nd Dec is what it says it has since changed, it's not written very well. That was what it was previously, now it is just two consecutive days. It reads like the 24hrs is no more

Wheelz46 · 28/01/2022 21:21

@worriedatthemoment if you scroll down to the heading 'background' (I think I have uploaded a screenshot of it)

Husband wants to take Covid Positive son out for the day….
MonkeyBeard · 28/01/2022 21:23

I really hope you let him go, OP, and that he has a great time.

User7698365 · 28/01/2022 21:25

That bit circled is previously not now, the stuff above doesn't mention 24 hours, it has be subtlety changed, obviously to get people back to work quicker

MumofBoys79 · 28/01/2022 21:25

I would also let him go.

Dguu6u · 28/01/2022 21:25

@ShallWeTalkAboutBruno

Unless the event is after 20.30h tomorrow this doesn’t matter - you are legally obliged to keep him in isolation as he can still spread Covid. You need to do a second test after 24h and if that’s negative, he can end isolation

So let me get this straight… at 20.15pm he can spread covid, but at 20.31 he can’t?

Haha, is is really that hard to grasp? He needs to do a test then and not earlier. Who knows OP bodged the test
LittleBearPad · 28/01/2022 21:26

@Wheelz46 but the new 5 day guidance says consecutive days. It doesn’t say 24 hours.

YerAWizardHarry01 · 28/01/2022 21:26

I'm so invested in this but PLEASE let your DS go, ignore all the negativity on this post. We need to learn to live with it, he probably had it before you tested therefore his 10 days would be up. If you're still positive on an lft on day 10 you can leave the house regardless. Maybe he can channel his inner boris and not realise it was a public football match? Tell him to wear a mask, wash his hands and have the best time ever

LittleBearPad · 28/01/2022 21:26

Haha, is is really that hard to grasp? He needs to do a test then and not earlier. Who knows OP bodged the test

To prove it to who - MN?

User7698365 · 28/01/2022 21:27

[quote LittleBearPad]@Wheelz46 but the new 5 day guidance says consecutive days. It doesn’t say 24 hours.[/quote]
Yes!

Frazzled2207 · 28/01/2022 21:27

I’d let him go.
I am CERTAIN that lots of kids in our kids’ school are positive but aren’t being tested, in some cases quite deliberately so we don’t know about it.

We would have been none the wiser if we hadn’t tested ds- only did because his best mate was positive.

If I thought for a moment that your ds would be the only positive person there that would be different. But it will likely be full of people with covid!

SecretKeeper1 · 28/01/2022 21:28

Seems the 24 hour thing was previous guidance and it’s now just consecutive days. It also says on day 7 only 6% will still be contagious. On day 6 it’s 7%, presumably why the government guidelines nudged it forward a day.

www.gov.uk/government/news/self-isolation-for-those-with-covid-19-can-end-after-five-full-days-following-two-negative-lfd-tests

He can go with a clear conscience.

Wheelz46 · 28/01/2022 21:29

@LittleBearPad well my eldest tested positive on an lft and pcr just 2 week ago, we were contacted by track and trace and they confirmed he could leave isolation if 2 negative tests 24 hours apart which was also confirmed by school 🤷‍♀️

Dguu6u · 28/01/2022 21:29

@YerAWizardHarry01

I'm so invested in this but PLEASE let your DS go, ignore all the negativity on this post. We need to learn to live with it, he probably had it before you tested therefore his 10 days would be up. If you're still positive on an lft on day 10 you can leave the house regardless. Maybe he can channel his inner boris and not realise it was a public football match? Tell him to wear a mask, wash his hands and have the best time ever
They don’t know this. He could have tested negative on the first days of testing and then the ten days would not have been up yet.
FooKingDong · 28/01/2022 21:31

Let him go. I would, a million times over.

AngeloMysterioso · 28/01/2022 21:33

Do you realise how thick you sound?

This thread is making me quite nostalgic… we’ve got hypothetical Grandmas dying of covid because of selfish people daring to step outside, we’ve got people calling other people thick, endless “but the rules” comments… it’s like April 2020 up in here!

YerAWizardHarry01 · 28/01/2022 21:33

The rest of what I said still stands. Hes negative now anyway, I feel he shouldn't miss out, I havent researched the stats for how long someone is contagious for but logic tells me they allowed for a bit of leeway hence its since been lowered twice.

Hesma · 28/01/2022 21:34

I don’t know how your own moral code would let you take him

Dguu6u · 28/01/2022 21:34

@SecretKeeper1

Seems the 24 hour thing was previous guidance and it’s now just consecutive days. It also says on day 7 only 6% will still be contagious. On day 6 it’s 7%, presumably why the government guidelines nudged it forward a day.

www.gov.uk/government/news/self-isolation-for-those-with-covid-19-can-end-after-five-full-days-following-two-negative-lfd-tests

He can go with a clear conscience.

The link you posted still mentions the need to take the tests 24hrs apart. It says you do your first test one day, the second the next. You don’t do two tests on the same day. It also tells you to stay away from crowds.

What does OP do? Tests twice on the same day hoping for a negative result, then sends her kid out less than 24hrs later to a football game, with a shitload of other people. Thanks for helping to spread Covid!

Dguu6u · 28/01/2022 21:36

@SecretKeeper1

Seems the 24 hour thing was previous guidance and it’s now just consecutive days. It also says on day 7 only 6% will still be contagious. On day 6 it’s 7%, presumably why the government guidelines nudged it forward a day.

www.gov.uk/government/news/self-isolation-for-those-with-covid-19-can-end-after-five-full-days-following-two-negative-lfd-tests

He can go with a clear conscience.

Forgot to add, those 6 and 7% figures only apply to people who have two negative tests 24hrs apart
siestalady · 28/01/2022 21:37

I'd also totally let him go, enough of this now. I hope you let him go OP and I hope he has the best time

Wizzbangfizz · 28/01/2022 21:37

My god I can't wait for the day when this pointless and endless testing stops.

Delatron · 28/01/2022 21:38

and the pointless, endless quoting of the ‘rules’

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