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Odd text message from partner

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OtherNameblahblah · 25/01/2022 16:11

Hi all,

I've been on here for ages - name changed for this as I want it separate to my usual account.

My DP has gone away overnight for a course, he says he told me about it ages ago but I have no memory of this. We were chatting on WhatsApp and while he drives he uses a voice to text feature. We had a normal conversation up until I got a message that said the following;

'I'm waving at Stonehenge for you, it's very misty'

I asked what he meant, he said he meant he was waving at Stonehenge for me as it's cool and it's what people do. I said I'd never heard of this before, and asked if he meant to message someone else saying 'I'm waiting for you at Stonehenge...'

He's insisting that he meant he was waving 'for me' at Stonehenge, which sounds really weird to me. Is this a thing that I've just not heard of?

I'm a bit worried that he was trying to message someone else and sent it to me instead, and his voice to text changed 'waiting' to 'waving'.

Am I being paranoid? He's just changed the subject entirely after doubling down that he meant he was just driving past Stonehenge and that was quite cool. He's a great bloke and I have never had any reason to doubt him until this very moment. I just have a horrible feeling he's fibbing...

Can anyone reassure me that I'm just being a silly old bint??

We've been together on and off for almost 2 years.

OP posts:
WhyMeLord · 25/01/2022 16:20

@LIZS

You are overthinking it. It is the sort of thing I would say.
Me too, and I do actually wave!
PatriotCanes · 25/01/2022 16:21

We always point out how small it is from far away - part Spinal Tap, part Father Ted but mostly because the first time I drove DP past it he declared it couldn't be Stonehenge because 'it was too small' Never waved though.

Was it just now? Would he be driving past it? Wouldn't it be too dark to see?

Karwomannghia · 25/01/2022 16:21

Completely normal! You wouldn’t wait for someone at Stonehenge, I mean, have you been?

MooSakah · 25/01/2022 16:21

If it were my DH he would have waved at it and said it was misty as a sort of "no photos but I've waved at it"

Polecat03 · 25/01/2022 16:22

If it doesn't make sense to you and is setting off alarm bells I would take note, when I've had this weird feeling in the past about something that just wasn't quite right (yet fairly innocuous, like yours) I did push it further and turned out to be quite right.
The potential typo makes more sense than waving (waving?? Eh?).
Coupled with saying you knew he was going away, but you're quite sure you didn't - I'd be feeling the same as you, OP.

FlexibleWorkingDenied · 25/01/2022 16:22

@MooSakah The OP said he was using voice to text in the car, not typing texting

Oldtiredfedup · 25/01/2022 16:22

Hmmmm…I dunno. Ivd BEVER heard of anyone waving at a monument on behalf if someone else.

MooSakah · 25/01/2022 16:22

It's also a rubbish place for a date imo

SamphiretheStickerist · 25/01/2022 16:22

@PatriotCanes

We always point out how small it is from far away - part Spinal Tap, part Father Ted but mostly because the first time I drove DP past it he declared it couldn't be Stonehenge because 'it was too small' Never waved though.

Was it just now? Would he be driving past it? Wouldn't it be too dark to see?

Still light, as far as I can see.
Footprintsinthegrass · 25/01/2022 16:22

I didn't think you could see it from a main road?

eejervis · 25/01/2022 16:23

Where would you wait for somebody at stonehenge? Waving at it sounds far more likely

MrsTimRiggins · 25/01/2022 16:23

I think you sound completely paranoid based on this post tbh. I don’t think there’s anything strange about the sentence structure, it makes sense to me!

MooSakah · 25/01/2022 16:23

[quote FlexibleWorkingDenied]@MooSakah The OP said he was using voice to text in the car, not typing texting[/quote]
Ah I see. Yes makes sense as can't stop there. So no waiting. Definitely waving OP

MooSakah · 25/01/2022 16:23

@Footprintsinthegrass

I didn't think you could see it from a main road?
You can
AryaStarkWolf · 25/01/2022 16:24

Can't believe that all these waver-at-monument people Grin I never knew that was a thing!

sasparilla1 · 25/01/2022 16:24

I live close to Stonehenge and my kids always wave at it when we go past! I have to admit dh and I are over it completely.....

You also can't stop to take a picture. Although it's the A303, that part is single lane and is generally congested. To take a picture you'd have to turn off at the roundabout and head towards the visitor centre.

What is a red flag for me though is him saying that he told you about the trip, but you having no recollection of it. It's not something you'd forget, well I wouldn't.

Lipsandlashes · 25/01/2022 16:25

I doubt he'd be waiting to get his rocks off (sorry!) at Stonehenge in the freezing cold pissy weather. Are you anywhere near Stonehenge in general?

rookiemere · 25/01/2022 16:25

His message doesn't sound odd to me. He was driving past a landmark at wanted to let you know .
The not being notified about the course is a separate issue, but maybe he already did and you forgot.

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 25/01/2022 16:25

@OtherNameblahblah

I think it's the way it was worded - wouldn't you say something like 'I'm at Stonehenge and just waved!' It just really feels like it's structured in such a way that he meant 'I'm waiting at Stonehenge for you'...

He's just messaged again saying that a car just stopped dead in front of him on the dual carriageway... deflection?

I'm absolutely prepared to be called paranoid - but my gut is definitely dropping as I think about it. But what can I do?

But you literally can't wait at Stonehenge There is a road that is always chocka There is the monument which is surrounded by fields and fences There is a coach park
Trisolaris · 25/01/2022 16:25

I think you are way overthinking it tbh. Sounds like the sort of offhand comment someone makes when they are thinking about you and so they start a conversation about what they’ve been up to.

Stonehenge is a rubbish place to meet someone.

LIZS · 25/01/2022 16:26

@OtherNameblahblah

I think it's the way it was worded - wouldn't you say something like 'I'm at Stonehenge and just waved!' It just really feels like it's structured in such a way that he meant 'I'm waiting at Stonehenge for you'...

He's just messaged again saying that a car just stopped dead in front of him on the dual carriageway... deflection?

I'm absolutely prepared to be called paranoid - but my gut is definitely dropping as I think about it. But what can I do?

Yes it is visible from the road. Although there is no much dual carriageway along there, always congested as lanes merge into one.
CustardGoodJamGoodMeatGood · 25/01/2022 16:26

You're either really paranoid or there's a massive backstory that is making you suspect he's up to no good that you're not telling us

cosmosforall · 25/01/2022 16:26

Totally normal. I wave at lots of landmarks including Stonehenge

Twizbe · 25/01/2022 16:26

It's a common expression isn't it?

Go past something interesting and say you've waved to it or said hello?

Or am I also weird for saying things like that?

MrsTimRiggins · 25/01/2022 16:26

And no, I’ve never really heard about waving specifically at Stonehenge but isn’t it more a way of saying he’s driving by at that time.

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