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Odd text message from partner

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OtherNameblahblah · 25/01/2022 16:11

Hi all,

I've been on here for ages - name changed for this as I want it separate to my usual account.

My DP has gone away overnight for a course, he says he told me about it ages ago but I have no memory of this. We were chatting on WhatsApp and while he drives he uses a voice to text feature. We had a normal conversation up until I got a message that said the following;

'I'm waving at Stonehenge for you, it's very misty'

I asked what he meant, he said he meant he was waving at Stonehenge for me as it's cool and it's what people do. I said I'd never heard of this before, and asked if he meant to message someone else saying 'I'm waiting for you at Stonehenge...'

He's insisting that he meant he was waving 'for me' at Stonehenge, which sounds really weird to me. Is this a thing that I've just not heard of?

I'm a bit worried that he was trying to message someone else and sent it to me instead, and his voice to text changed 'waiting' to 'waving'.

Am I being paranoid? He's just changed the subject entirely after doubling down that he meant he was just driving past Stonehenge and that was quite cool. He's a great bloke and I have never had any reason to doubt him until this very moment. I just have a horrible feeling he's fibbing...

Can anyone reassure me that I'm just being a silly old bint??

We've been together on and off for almost 2 years.

OP posts:
MissMaple82 · 25/01/2022 22:04

You're paranoid

MissMaple82 · 25/01/2022 22:05

Who the F meets at Stonehenge!

Whitefire · 25/01/2022 22:08

I can't see a train without shouting "train" even if I am the only one in the car. I would so wave at everything I went past.

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 25/01/2022 22:08

I think this is the most innocuous message to get worried about.

My cousin text me that he waved from the cruise ship when it docked in Liverpool as he wasn't allowed off due to Covid - it was just a funny throwaway comment same as this one.

I am perplexed that so many people think this is so weird? It's just a 'cute' turn of phrase.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 25/01/2022 22:14

@AskingQuestionsAllTheTime

NeverDropYourMooncup Being to something means the destination. He'd be to London and then to Cambridge. He was waving at Stonehenge, not going there in a motion rather like a large eel.

Are you by any chance Scots, and that a Lowland construction? It's not Standard Southern English. To be SSE, it would need "go" (or "going") before "to": go to a place, going to a place.

I would wave to someone, just as I might talk to someone. Or indeed sing to someone or drink to them (but not only with mine eyes).

That's a very good point. DP's from the arse end of Devon and my father was Lowlands.

The OP is in Devon - perhaps her DP is from the some area as DP?

boredwithfoodprob · 25/01/2022 22:14

Stonehenge is an odd place to wait for someone. Especially in the dark/winter. 🤷‍♀️

ChampagneLassie · 25/01/2022 22:18

It's a turn of phrase. My godmother says this. Sends me WhatsApps saying 🙋‍♀️Waving to you from Edinburgh when she was visiting. Stonehenge would be a very strange place for a, hookup 🤣

crackofdoom · 25/01/2022 22:24

I agree that waving at Stonehenge is really weird. Surely everyone knows that the correct procedure upon sighting the stones from the A303 is to go "STOOOOONEHENGE" in a Spinal Tap style?!

TheRemotePart · 25/01/2022 22:28

I would deffo text my DH and say I was waving at a landmark/cow in a field/his favourite takeaway

I mean, it would be a hellava long drive for a hook up , wouldn’t it?
You’ll laugh , tomorrow Grin

BraveGoldie · 25/01/2022 22:32

@Loveisthere

Red flag he did not tell you he was going away but made out he did. Come on pp when was the last time your partner said they were going away and you forgot
All the time for me personally. In one ear out the other. I constantly get confused about dates, and unless it's in the next 48 hours I file it in the 'don't need to retain for now' dark hole part of my brain. He's not responsible for childcare, so why do I need to know and remember the specifics of where he is when?

I'm surprised how many people find this suspicious.

crackofdoom · 25/01/2022 22:33

The A303 is more important to UK culture than history will currently allow.

Agree.

Just to address a point: you can still stop at Stonehenge. There's a drove that cuts across the A303 that's a public way, and you can pull in on your respective side (I would NOT recommend crossing the stream of traffic to do so! You have to have your wits about you to even turn off on your side). It goes for miles- on the opposite side to the stones you can walk up to some nice barrows. Great place for a picnic.

At the Stonehenge visitor centre you have to pay an extortionate sum to even park in the car park, which means you can't just stop to use the cafe- bloody irritating, as there aren't many places to get a coffee on that stretch of the A303.

(I'll shut up now Grin)

HaveringWavering · 25/01/2022 22:33

Oh bless you OP.

crackofdoom · 25/01/2022 22:33

Public RIGHT OF way.

BeMoreGoldfish · 25/01/2022 22:34

@TheVanguardSix I love the expression “bin your gut”! Grin

ChocolateCanon · 25/01/2022 22:36

Imagine you had craftily arranged a romantic but illicit tête-à-tête at Stonehenge and MN was onto you in real time Shock

MaybeMaybeNotJ · 25/01/2022 22:37

YBVU he drove past and waved and told you about it.

Latenightreader · 25/01/2022 22:38

I used to wave at a particular monkey puzzle tree for my best friend, and I would definitely do it to Stonehenge. I never thought of it as weird!

BraveGoldie · 25/01/2022 22:40

Well done OP!

I agree Stonehenge is probably the worst place for a romantic meet up ever! A long way from anywhere, Traffic,crowded, expensive, with spooky overtones, no cover in winter weather, and as a world famous site, somewhere you might bump into somebody you know or get photographed and filmed numerous times!!

I am glad you are feeling more relaxed now! Smile

HaveringWavering · 25/01/2022 22:45

Is anyone else thinking of Tess of the D’Urbervilles? Meeting up at Stonehenge did not work out well for her…

BoredZelda · 25/01/2022 22:52

My brother does some weird waving from the train thing, his mates on FB seem to all get it. I’ve no idea what it is all about.

egglette · 25/01/2022 22:54

Ahh this brings back the memories. In the early days of dating DH I used to pass through a particular station that had a connection to him and I'm sure I used to text that I was waving at it for him. Completely understand now how odd that sounds reading others' replies! I think it might come from my DM. I think you're all good OP Flowers

GatoradeMeBitch · 25/01/2022 22:55

If I was going to text something like that I'd back it up with a photo.

NoJaffaCakesAreKeptInThisVan · 25/01/2022 22:56

I’d me more concerned that he’s having a WhatsApp conversation with you (whether typing or not) while driving tbh.

Ohyesiam · 25/01/2022 23:04

@Footprintsinthegrass

I didn't think you could see it from a main road?
You totally can
HaveringWavering · 25/01/2022 23:05

@NoJaffaCakesAreKeptInThisVan

I’d me more concerned that he’s having a WhatsApp conversation with you (whether typing or not) while driving tbh.
Why? It’s no different to him chatting to her if she were in the passenger seat.