Odd text message from partner

[OtherNameblahblah]

Hi all,

I've been on here for ages - name changed for this as I want it separate to my usual account.

My DP has gone away overnight for a course, he says he told me about it ages ago but I have no memory of this. We were chatting on WhatsApp and while he drives he uses a voice to text feature. We had a normal conversation up until I got a message that said the following;

'I'm waving at Stonehenge for you, it's very misty'

I asked what he meant, he said he meant he was waving at Stonehenge for me as it's cool and it's what people do. I said I'd never heard of this before, and asked if he meant to message someone else saying 'I'm waiting for you at Stonehenge...'

He's insisting that he meant he was waving 'for me' at Stonehenge, which sounds really weird to me. Is this a thing that I've just not heard of?

I'm a bit worried that he was trying to message someone else and sent it to me instead, and his voice to text changed 'waiting' to 'waving'.

Am I being paranoid? He's just changed the subject entirely after doubling down that he meant he was just driving past Stonehenge and that was quite cool. He's a great bloke and I have never had any reason to doubt him until this very moment. I just have a horrible feeling he's fibbing...

Can anyone reassure me that I'm just being a silly old bint??

We've been together on and off for almost 2 years.

@OtherNameblahblah

Just to clarify I didn't accuse him of anything or mither him with paranoid messages - and I'm so glad I posted here instead of probing too far into it with him. He's messaged me, arrived at his friend's house and sent me a picture of himself with his friend's little toddler.

So there we are - no mystery Stonehenge woman! Just a silly bint after all :D

Thanks again!!

Pleased to read the update. Because I was worried. Despite its absolute importance Stonehenge is very underwhelming as you (try to) drive past on the A303. It's not a major landmark from the road. Fabulous once you are there and walking around. Day trip?

Waving at Stonehenge may be weird , but waiting at Stonehenge for a date would be even weirder!

@OtherNameblahblah

I think it's the way it was worded - wouldn't you say something like 'I'm at Stonehenge and just waved!' It just really feels like it's structured in such a way that he meant 'I'm waiting at Stonehenge for you'...

He's just messaged again saying that a car just stopped dead in front of him on the dual carriageway... deflection?

I'm absolutely prepared to be called paranoid - but my gut is definitely dropping as I think about it. But what can I do?

@OtherNameblahblah

I think he needs to stop using the phone altogether when he’s driving.

I love driving by Stonehenge. Do it maybe 2-4 times a year and and would probably send a text to DH saying something like this. BC every time I see it I'm a bit wowed and also it's a good landmark so he knows how far a long i am.

(And if I were in a bad mood I'd probably send a text 5 minutes earlier grumbling about being stuck in Stonehenge traffic.)

@Hugasauras

When people say 'I waved at X' for you, it doesn't mean they physically actually waver (although some do!). It's just an expression to mean you've gone to somewhere interesting/familiar. Quite surprised so many people are unaware of it!

This.

Glad you are feeling reassured OP. I read the whole thread and was coming on to be someone else to say I also don't think it's an odd message at all. Definitely something DH or I would send to each other and have done plenty of times.

@AskingQuestionsAllTheTime

It's such as shame that he said he waved AT Stonehenge; if only he'd said he'd waved TO it, all this trouble would have been saved.

You need to tell him that, @OtherNameblahblah I mean, make a joke about it, tell him how worried you were and you made it all into a terrible story of him being a Secret Druid there for a Dread Ritual, not that you thought he was meeting another woman there, obviously. If he knows about the anxiety, he'll understand, and you can turn it into a catch-phrase for use if you are upset about something.

Being to something means the destination. He'd be to London and then to Cambridge. He was waving at Stonehenge, not going there in a motion rather like a large eel.

I definitely say hello to landmarks for my partner if they're not with me and vice versa! It's a nice way to involve someone who isn't there. I would absolutely say, 'I'm waving at Stonehenge for you' and I would probably also actually wave

I saw I'll wave at Big Ben for you when I'm talking to my mum about being in London

I blow the super moon a kiss and tell my cousin in New Zealand it’s on its way.

I think it’s innocent

Yup.

That's a bit of a jump OP, unless you've any prior reason to be suspicious!

I live away from my home town but if I ever speak to someone who's visiting there or passing by there I ask them to 'wave to hometown for me'.

What?

@Footprintsinthegrass

I didn't think you could see it from a main road?

You can

I have a legendary knowledge of the history of the A303 for reasons that would be outing, but I’m glad you settled it OP

@ShadowPuppets

I have a legendary knowledge of the history of the A303 for reasons that would be outing, but I’m glad you settled it OP

You are either Tom Fort or married to him

The A303 is more important to UK culture than history will currently allow.

@jimmyhill not quite but I might have been involved in a certain documentary

@TheVolturi

All the people saying trust your gut, ffs! Why would he be waiting at stonehenge! For the druids to come? It's obviously a misunderstanding.

Hah exactly! Poor guy.

There must be more to this for the OP to jump to such a conclusion.

It's all done by voice. No touching of phone. No eyes off the road. All legal.

Driven past it loads of times, nowhere to stop.

My partner is always telling me things and I just don't take it in.

Glad you feel a bit better. We live in London and travel down to Devon regularly we usually get the A303 and pass Stonehenge. I am always happy to see it and the teens roll their eyes at me. You really can't wait for someone at Stonehenge unless you want to spend ££££ to go in. It's eyewateringly expensive and the really is nowhere to stop the car otherwise.

NeverDropYourMooncup
Being to something means the destination. He'd be to London and then to Cambridge. He was waving at Stonehenge, not going there in a motion rather like a large eel.

Are you by any chance Scots, and that a Lowland construction? It's not Standard Southern English. To be SSE, it would need "go" (or "going") before "to": go to a place, going to a place.

I would wave to someone, just as I might talk to someone. Or indeed sing to someone or drink to them (but not only with mine eyes).

In an on and off relationship for 2 years....how much on and how much off?

I'd definitely wave to Stonehenge for my DW in that situation, hell I say hi (in my head) to the sheep that I pass while on the train, landmarks, animals its all good :)

I’ve had similar messages from my OH. “I’m just putting up my hammock and waving at the alligators” had me worried all night.