To ask how long you were together before you got married?

[MeSanniesareBrannies]

How long were you in a relationship before you got engaged/married? I was with DP for almost three years when we got engaged, when we get married, we’ll have been together almost four. Speaking to acquaintances (not close friends) it seems like that’s unusual and we’ve been hasty. A work colleague was particularly taken aback and informed me that ‘short engagements are a recipe for disaster’. I thought this was a bit bizarre!

I’m unworried about my relationship, but I’m intrigued…what’s everyone else’s norm?

We’re early 30’s professionals in London, postgrad education, good jobs, good pay, no prior marriages or kids. I think that for our demographic 3-5 years is pretty standard, but happy to be told I’m wrong.

8 months.
We moved in together after 4 months and bought a house, got married and pregnant within a year. That was 10 years ago and we're still very, very happy.

We got engaged after 18 months and didn’t want a short engagement, so booked the wedding for early 2020. It got cancelled and is now the end of this year, so we’ll have been together 6 years and engaged for 4. I don’t think you’ve rushed at all!

We did move in together after 3 months which horrifies some people

Engaged at 2 years, married at nearly 5 years. We would have got married sooner but we were in uni when we got engaged and then had a baby.

Together 4.5 years when got engaged. Married a year after that.
Lots of people surprised we got engaged as apparently we’d been together “so long” they didn’t think we were going to marry(?)

We were together for 10 years before getting married. We didn't really do engagement but I suppose we started planning the wedding few months in advance so maybe that counts as engagement.

First date September, bought house and moved in together March, married in the August. So 11 months. Will celebrate our 28th wedding anniversary this year.

Engaged after 1 year, married after 2. We were friends before we started going put though.

Together for 13 years, engaged for 21 months, married for 10 years (and together for 25) this year.

That's not hasty at all!

We were together 7 years when we got engaged and 8 and a half when we got married. Should have been the year before but was covid cancelled. We only waited that long because we were young when we got together. If we had been late 20s or early 30s it would have been a lot sooner

And we already had a child anyway.

We decided to get married after being together for about 18 months, we then married on our second anniversary. We were going to wait until our third anniversary, but that was booked, so when we discovered our second anniversary wasn’t booked we thought fuck it and decided to get married a year earlier.

So only two years and 9 months together, live together, married, he’s a great step dad and now an amazing dad.

Engaged after a couple of months, married a year later, child born 5 years later. Have been married 15 years and people have seemed to have forgotten they weren't sure it was going to last after such a quick engagement! (We did know each other beforehand).

Together 18 months when we moved in together, another 6 months before we got engaged. 9 month engagement so together less than 3 years before getting married. Married 17 years this year.

Booked the wedding after 3 weeks and married 9 weeks later. Just celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary.

Engaged after 6 weeks, married a year later. Still together 27 years later. We were lucky though - in hindsight it was a stupid thing to do as you really don't know the person after such a short time.

PIL got engaged after a long weekend when they met on holiday and only saw each other 3 times when he was on leave from the forces before they got married - very happy together for many years until he died. Now that really was daft!

1 year and 7 months until engagement. Married 9 months after that so 2 years and 4 months after getting together. I was 25 when we married and DH was 22. Have been married just over 8 years now and have one DS and planning another.

2 years into our relationship, we got engaged. Married 2 years after that. Together for 12 years and going strong. We didn't live together before marrying and we both didn't want kids until we'd married, so a longer engagement would have felt like forever for us. We met in our early 20s.

Engaged after 1 year
Married 8 months after engagement

Been married nine years now.

But our shared faith gave us an 'all or nothing' view on romantic relationships. Which helps speed things along 😄

7 years although he proposed after 3 years, long engagement but we had a baby in that time so childcare etc took priority.

We have been married 7 years now and together for 14.

Engaged a year, married sixteen months later.

Oops - meant to add, we've been together almost six years now.

Met end of august 2003 married end of may 2005 still together
First baby born June 2006
Were possibly a bit hasty having kids as I do think in hindsight it would gave been good to have a bit longer just the two of us but getting married fairly quickly didn't really change anything and we were fairly young and the first of all our friends to get married so was a really fun wedding where lots of friends all knew each other as we were still at that stage of seeing lots of our friends rather than some very established couples where the friends might have drifted off a bit

Engaged after a month, married six months later. 23 years ago. BIL and SIL were married within three months and are celebrating 40 years this year.

Engaged after 2 years together and married after 3. Were married 10 years this year and still going strong. We lived together pretty much from the start as we met as we had flats in the same building. We knew very early on that this was for keeps, certainly within the first few months. It's probably considered hasty these days as a lot of people don't declare themselves as 'offical' until things are serious. People leave it longer to get married now because of the cost but what you describe definitely isn't hasty.

Dh asked me to marry him after 9 days. We booked the wedding right away but covid meant it was nearly a year before we said I do!

Bit of a whirlwind but we've still never even had an argument.