To ask how long you were together before you got married?

[MeSanniesareBrannies]

How long were you in a relationship before you got engaged/married? I was with DP for almost three years when we got engaged, when we get married, we’ll have been together almost four. Speaking to acquaintances (not close friends) it seems like that’s unusual and we’ve been hasty. A work colleague was particularly taken aback and informed me that ‘short engagements are a recipe for disaster’. I thought this was a bit bizarre!

I’m unworried about my relationship, but I’m intrigued…what’s everyone else’s norm?

We’re early 30’s professionals in London, postgrad education, good jobs, good pay, no prior marriages or kids. I think that for our demographic 3-5 years is pretty standard, but happy to be told I’m wrong.

Together for 5 years before getting engaged.

Got married after a 5 year engagement on our tenth anniversary of being together.

We got engaged about 18 months after meeting, then we were engaged for 2 years before we married, mainly just so we had the time to save up for everything.

We had originally planned for the year before but would have been too tight for money and because my brother was also getting married that year my parents said they wouldn't be able to help at all with money so we put it off a year to be sure we could afford it even if my parents still couldn't help.

Together 6 months, married 5.5 months later. Married 15 years now

Engaged after 2 years together. Married 2 years later.

We got married after just over two years together. No official engagement. We had talked about it already and then, because of family circumstances, we organised a wedding in four weeks.

4yrs isn’t rushing into a marriage. My friend got engaged within 6 months and married in 18. Just celebrated their 10th anniversary and seem genuinely happy. They were 35 and 45 at the time so didn’t want to hang around as they knew they wanted children

About one year between becoming an official couple and getting married. We didn't get 'engaged' as such, just decided to get married. Been married 10 years this year with 1dc. Second marriage for both of us.

3 months.

From meeting to wedding day that is.

We met and 6 weeks later we were married! That was 23 years ago and still together.

6 months

We were together for ten years before we got married. We didn't really 'get engaged'. The time period was mainly because we had no money in the early days to pay for a big wedding. Then we realised we didn't want or need a big wedding so we just went away and did it just the two of us. We've been together 18 years this year.

We met in the May & got married the same year in September, so 4 mths. No engagement.

I had already been married before & DH (hadn't been) but he didnt want any fuss so it suited us both then, we had a few messy years about 8 years in 🙂 but overall have now been together nearly 35 years.

Engaged 10 months after meeting
Married 7 months after engagement
12 years married now

5.5 years. We were about 3.5 - 4 years in when we got engaged. Now been married 3.5 years.

Met while still at school in 1984 and split in 1985 after a year together. After a year apart we got back together in 1986 and got engaged in 1988.
Moved in together in 1991, oldest son was born in 1997. Got married in 1998.

Two years to engagement and 2.5 to wedding. Don't think it was particularly hasty, we'd been friends for a few months before dating. We've been married for 20 years so seems to have worked out, well so far anyway

Your colleague is talking out of her arse.

6.5 years together before we got married.

Together 6 years (on and off, I should add) and then engaged 6 months. Now married almost 7 years.

Yours doesn't sound hasty! My parents got engaged within 6 months of meeting, and have been married over 40 years. They are the happiest couple.

Good luck!

engaged after 8 months married two years after that.

Congrats OP you are not hasty at all.

DH & I were both 18 when we met, engaged after 3 mths, married after living together for 5 years, had DS1, 7 years later, DS2 21mths later, been married 27 years.

We got engaged 3 years after meeting and married 4 years after meeting. Our wedding was a couple of weeks after my 28th birthday.
It will be our 7th anniversary in the summer. We have 2 children and a dog now.
I think long, drawn out engagements are strange tbh.

Less than six months from meeting to wedding.

Married 19 years this spring.

Together for 3 years before we got married, we were engaged for just over half that time. We didn't live together until we got married (although we did buy a house that dh lived in on his own 6 months before the wedding). Just about to have our silver wedding anniversary.

2+ years living together. No engagement.