To ask how long you were together before you got married?

[MeSanniesareBrannies]

How long were you in a relationship before you got engaged/married? I was with DP for almost three years when we got engaged, when we get married, we’ll have been together almost four. Speaking to acquaintances (not close friends) it seems like that’s unusual and we’ve been hasty. A work colleague was particularly taken aback and informed me that ‘short engagements are a recipe for disaster’. I thought this was a bit bizarre!

I’m unworried about my relationship, but I’m intrigued…what’s everyone else’s norm?

We’re early 30’s professionals in London, postgrad education, good jobs, good pay, no prior marriages or kids. I think that for our demographic 3-5 years is pretty standard, but happy to be told I’m wrong.

Engaged 5y, married 6y.

Got together August
Engaged September
Married March
So all in all 7 months.
Been married 13 years this year, happy with two kids!

I wouldn't say you've been hasty but then I'm probably not a good barometer on that - lol!!

Together three and a half years, two children, engaged... We'll, hopefully some time this month (🤞) and married this summer (🤞🤞).

Got together 2003, moved in together (bought house) 2007, child 2011, engaged 2012 - leap year - I asked him (live on mumsnet 🤣) on Feb 29th, married 2016.

6 years but I was only 22 when I got married and was waiting till I finished Uni. Been married 16 years now, been with him more years in my life than I was without him 😀

Met in December, engaged the following March, married that October. Married 30 years!

@ElCaMum Okay, now that is some impressive speed! 😂 You both clearly knew you’d met your person! Delighted it worked out.

@SmokeAndBone

Met in December, engaged the following March, married that October. Married 30 years!

How lovely!

Moved in together after six months, engaged after a year, married after two years. Still here over 30 years and three DC later. We were in our mid-20s so quite young but both knew it was right.

Going out until engagement 15 months

Engagement to wedding 17 months

Total meeting to married 32 months

Married 34 years this year.

Judging from the answers so far, we’re not unusual. I didn’t think we were, but some people can make such odd comments that I started to wonder.

Together 2 years when we got engaged, married 9 months later now happily married 10 years, early 30s when we met. Everyone does things in their own time, you'll get a huge range of answers on here.

We were engaged after 7 months and then married 5 months after that, it would have been sooner but we needed to work around jobs etc

@TheDogsMother

2nd time around for us. 7 years before we lived together and 14 years when we got married.

Sorry I didn't quite complete that. Married in 2020.

Engaged at 2 years. Married 6 months later.

Together for 17 years, married for 15 of them.

We was together 9 years before we got married.
We have now been married 6 years.

Together 6 years then bought a house, engaged at 7 years, married at 8 years. But we were still in our 20's at that stage. So I think we'd have been quicker along the stages if we'd been older.

Met aged 22 - he moved in with me officially after 2 years when we got engaged then married 2 years after that so together 4 yrs before getting married. We purposely waited a further 4 years before conceiving and I got pregnant at 30 and gave birth to our DS a few days after I turned 31. Together 28 years had some good times especially in the window of getting engaged but before having DS and now he is nearly 20. It's bloody hard work having kids and I never, ever wanted to do it alone- hats off to anyone who manages to do it but I always knew it was not for me!
Not always been a perfect relationship in case I sound smug BTW - He once said in frustration ' I'll just move out and get a flat shall I' - fine take 2 yr old with you! I'm not cut out to be a lone parent so you can get on with it if that is what you want.

Two years. Engaged after a year and then married the following year. We were both in our 30’s with established lives.

Married 3 years after we started going out - we’d been engaged for 6 months. Married nearly 13 years and still love him (despite the snoring!).

Met in 1968.
Married in 1975.
So 7 years and married still 47 years on.

We were together 3 months and got engaged.

Engagement was 13 months. So together 16 months in total. Been together nearly 10 years now and will celebrate our 9th anniversary this year. We were our mid twenties.

So many people thought it would never work, lots of negative comments, but like to think we have proved them wrong! Still young but going strong!

Would not say your situation was hasty at all!

My parents got married 6 weeks after their first date and have been married for 44 years this September!

1still time no official engagement, but took me 8months to organise the wedding.

Now been together 3.5yrs, engaged after 18months, hopefully get married next year. 🤞🏻

We were together about 18 months before we got engaged, which was winter time and we wanted a summer wedding (most of family are in education professions, plus weather in home town better) so we were together 3 years when married. Would have done it sooner though, knew at 3 months in I wanted to marry him. Told him so in a taxi back from a night out too