To ask how long you were together before you got married?

[MeSanniesareBrannies]

How long were you in a relationship before you got engaged/married? I was with DP for almost three years when we got engaged, when we get married, we’ll have been together almost four. Speaking to acquaintances (not close friends) it seems like that’s unusual and we’ve been hasty. A work colleague was particularly taken aback and informed me that ‘short engagements are a recipe for disaster’. I thought this was a bit bizarre!

I’m unworried about my relationship, but I’m intrigued…what’s everyone else’s norm?

We’re early 30’s professionals in London, postgrad education, good jobs, good pay, no prior marriages or kids. I think that for our demographic 3-5 years is pretty standard, but happy to be told I’m wrong.

Should add bought first home just before baby
All 40yrs ago.

Together 11 years, with cats, house and 2DC.
Married nine years now, about a 1 yr engagement.
It changed very little, if anything, we kept our original names for example.
Fancied a celebration, really.
We were living together after 3 months, went off to uni together.

We’ve been together 10 years. We might get married this year. At first we didn’t really want to. We changed our minds but we’ve kept on putting it off because weddings are a big hassle and we can’t be bothered.

Started seeing each other in January , were long distance from the May, got engaged in December and married the following September - celebrated our 30th anniversary in Sept 2021.

Engaged within a month. Married 14 months. Celebrated Pearl Wedding Anniversary last year.

We were together for five years when we got engaged, then another 16 months before we got married.

Should say we were both late 20s and yes it's not all been plain sailing but we've hada good laugh together along the way.

A colleague suggested that getting married after 4 years is hasty??? Huh???? I know 2 people who got engaged on 3rd dates and were married within a year. 1 person who got engaged after 4 weeks and married a few months later. This could be described as "hasty" for sure. I was 2 year till engagement, married a year later. I think 4 + years to get married is starting to get to point of it seeming quite late and box tickey rather than romantic. I now much prefer the old-fashioned way of getting engaged as a sign of commitment and intention - so like 6-12 months and then marrying in a reasonable time after that - going back a generation or two thats what most people did.

18 months. Got engaged after 6 months and married a year later. Together 28 years.

I agree with a pp who said when you know you know. I had been in a long relationship from the age of 18 -23 ( which shouldnt have lasted 5 weeks never mind 5 years) so when I met dh I knew I didn't want to spend years just ticking along - we did have a quite frank conversation after about 6 months about where we thought things might be headed - but I already knew he was the one for me

I don't see any point in being engaged for ages - as a pp also said ots engaged to be married.

4 years sounds very sensible and standard, particularly if you’ve been living together.

DH and I were together for 7 years before we married, aged 30. We’d have probably done it earlier, but DH retrained then we went travelling.

Got engaged 11 months after meeting, married a year after that and our first baby was born 11 months later. In hindsight it was all quite quick but at the time it felt right and so far so good!

I got engaged after being together 7 years . We got married after a 1 year engagement. I was a month away from being 32 when we got married. That was 6 years ago now . We are still happily married .

Engaged after 14 months
Married 6 months later in 2019

We were both late 30s, we got more of an it's about time response rather than a marrying in haste response from everyone that knew us as a couple. It does feel like we've been together forever (in a nice way!) and we're still very happily married.

We were together 1 month before we got engaged and 3 months together when we got married. Been together 9 years this year. I was 22 when I married.

Met him once (on holiday). Met him once again 6 months later (on holiday in same country). Three weeks later he came to visit me on the UK, supposedly for a few days holiday, he never left. Engaged within 3 weeks, married in less than 6 months. Still married 18 yrs later

Met June 2016 (on tinder)
Engaged May 2017
Baby Dec 2018
Married Nov 2019

11 years to the day from being monogamous to getting married. Short engagement of about 5 months prior to this as we sat down and said "Shall we get married on our anniversary?" and went from there.

We were 17 and 19 when we got together and had a lot of growing to do both together and individually before we got married, we lived in multiple properties, went through a still birth, both graduated and built our careers in our respective fields whilst supporting each other - at the time I did often feel quite down about the fact that we took so long to get married, but now looking back, waiting until we were established in our careers and financially stable was the absolute best thing to do. We've been married for 5.5 years at this point, so I think we're doing pretty well.

2 years from meeting to married.

Engaged at 3 years: married at 4 years exactly

3 years exactly to the day we met, I was almost 19. Still together now with 2 little ones and he’s given me the best life I could ask for. I love him so much

We were together for 12.5 years before we got married. I never wanted to get married and DH wasn't bothered either way. We got married in the end mainly for practical and financial reasons (I wanted to change my surname anyway prior to having DCs). We've been together for 29 years in total and being married hasn't made any difference to our relationship.

We dated for 16 months before living together and had been together 2 years before we got engaged. Married 2.5years later and we've been together 11 years come March.

Got together October 2007, got married in August 2011 (and we rushed it because I was pregnant, we'd ideally wanted to wait till 2012 so we could save up)

There is no right or wrong amount of time to be engaged/in a relationship - to each their own!!!

Together 4 and a half years before wedding, but we were 16 when we started dating. Married over 20 years now.