To ask how long you were together before you got married?

[MeSanniesareBrannies]

How long were you in a relationship before you got engaged/married? I was with DP for almost three years when we got engaged, when we get married, we’ll have been together almost four. Speaking to acquaintances (not close friends) it seems like that’s unusual and we’ve been hasty. A work colleague was particularly taken aback and informed me that ‘short engagements are a recipe for disaster’. I thought this was a bit bizarre!

I’m unworried about my relationship, but I’m intrigued…what’s everyone else’s norm?

We’re early 30’s professionals in London, postgrad education, good jobs, good pay, no prior marriages or kids. I think that for our demographic 3-5 years is pretty standard, but happy to be told I’m wrong.

5 years together before getting engaged, will be 9 years together when we get married.

Same situation as you OP. Hardly felt rushed

Together 10 years before engaged (starting dating at 17)
Planned an 18 month engagement but wedding was cancelled 4 weeks before due to first lockdown in 2020!
Ended up getting married after a 21 month engagement

First proper date was late November, engaged about christmas/new year, married in the July. Been 12 years so far

We met and got together when we were 21. Engaged when we were 29, married at 30 and now 3 years on have bought a house, had DC1 and have another on the way.

We did wait a long time before getting married but I think that is to do with our age when we met. We enjoyed our 20s and while we were in a committed relationship the whole time, didn't really want to get quite as settled down as we are now without having some fun - travelling, taking a few risks with our careers, weekends away with friends etc all wouldn't be possible now in the same way.

We moved in together after a year because we lived in different cities. We got engaged just over a year later, so two years into our relationship. We got married 17 months later, roughly 3.5 years in. We have been married for 6 years in the spring.

My parents got married after a year and they have been married 37 years.

We bought a house together after a year, were engaged a year after that, and then married the following year. Our first was born exactly nine months later. Looking back it does all seem rather hasty, but we're still married eight years later.

Engaged after 3 weeks, married 8 weeks later. Still happily together 20 years later

Engaged after 12 weeks, married at 9 months, baby 10 months after that!

Approaching our 10yr anniversary😍

Engaged after 2 years
Married after 3

We had just turned 19 years old. Engaged after 3mo. Together 7 years before marriage. Currently 16 years married.

4 years

Met - July 2011
Moved in - June 2012
Engaged - February 2014
Married - June 2015

I thinks whatever works for each couple. Apart from a woman I know. Her partner proposed after pressure from her after their 2 kids were born. She is desperate to get married and he isn't so she legally changed her surname to his. That is so weird to me

26 years

We might do it one day for simplifying paperwork

5 years before engaged, 7 before married. We were only 20 when we met at uni so waited to see how our life and employment plans worked out.

If we'd met later in life once more settled I think we'd have committed much more quickly, by the time I was 30 I knew what values and lifestyle I wanted.

Got engaged after four months, married a year after that. With hindsight I guess we were rushing things a bit but no one seemed to think so at the time and we are still married 32 years later!

Together 4 years, married at nearly 6 years. We'd have done it sooner if circumstances had allowed!

Together 18 months (met each other about 3-4 months before that), engaged for 9 months, big wedding, married over 5 years (with a 3yo). Were in mid 30s when we met which I think accelerated it.

That was meant to say together for 18 months before getting engaged, so just over 2 years together before wedding.

married after 10 months. 10 years into it.

Got engaged after 8 months, married 11 months after that. Nearly 47 years now and still going!

Married after 18 months, no actual engagement, celebrating 32 years married this April.

Engaged after 6 weeks.
We didn't marry till 6 years later as we had a child and he worked on the rigs and we couldn't sort a date that suited us both!

Together 2.5 years (ish) before getting engaged, engagement was just over a year, due to getting engaged early in the year and wanting a summer wedding, but not being able to conjure it all up in 3 months.

We've now been together for 13 years, married for 9 (nearly).

Engaged after two years, married another year and a bit later.

Together 20+ years, then got engaged and married within 6 weeks