To have my pyjamas on when MIL visits?

[ashorterday]

MIL is visiting this evening. Today I've been out walking, come home had a nice bath and put PJs on.

DH thinks I should get dressed, I'm willing to compromise with a hoody over the PJs but the spotty trousers will give it away.

Am I a slattern for even considering it? MIL is too polite to mention it.

I just really don't get the 'getting dressed in your PJs' thing. Not getting dressed when you wake up I could understand, as a 'can't be arsed' thing - ie staying in the nightwear you slept in. But what's the point of getting dressed in pyjamas if you weren't already wearing them? How is it any more effort than slinging on a pair of comfortable trousers and a jumper, or whatever? Wearing PJs for a visitor shouts 'I can't be bothered' to me - whereas wearing a pair of comfy trousers and a jumper would go entirely unnoticed. So why, when you have the choice, would you choose pyjamas, if you're going to get changed/undressed again anyway before you go to bed? I genuinely don't get it.

Some of these replies are hilarious! Such a funny read

Oh - and DIL is a size 6.

I think it looks lazy and like you don’t really want her visiting to greet her in PJs. Unless you’re ill.

I’d wear something comfortable like loungewear; soft joggers/leggings and a long jumper with baggy cardigan over it?

[quote KurtWilde]@ChargingBuck I'm the same, pjs are for being at home in, not for sleeping in.

Is it just me or is this place getting more and more bogged down lately with people intent on passing sneering judgement on just about everything? [/quote]
Reckon so @KurtWilde, plus sense of humour bypasses.

Not sure why so many PP's are pearl-clutching.
I pm'd OP just now, & she sent me a charming pic of her MiL-welcoming attire:

Seems perfect for an elegant family soiree.

Why are tracksuit bottoms or leggings more appropriate than PJ bottoms? More or less the same thing but with a funkier pattern

Thicker material. Less chance of see through.
And pants. If your leggings slide down, guests see your pants. If your pj's slide down, they see your arse crack.
Not even going to get into the Mallory Towers esq debate on pants under PJ's - just wrong! Gotta let your foof get air!

They’re just clothes?! It’s no different to wearing jogging bottoms and a hoodie. I probably wouldn’t if I went to bed in a silk negligée, but I can’t see the issue with this, especially in my own house! Luckily I have a lovely MIL who wouldn’t give a hoot!

If I'm expecting guests then yes I'll get dressed (as in leggings, long top, flip flops) but if you turn up unannounced you'll have to take me as you find me.... which is usually in PJ bottoms, vest, no bra

Personally, I would feel uncomfortable if I visited someone in their home and they were in pj’s. I’d feel like they didn’t really want me there. (difference if they were ill and I was visiting).

Is it so hard to be dressed in comfortable day clothes anyway?

If I'm at home, I'm in my PJs regardless of the time of day! Family from both sides visit, often with no notice, and don't bat an eyelid at my state of undress.

@pussycatunpickingcrossesagain

No. Wear what you want. Was she invited? Your DH can always compensate by dressing in a top hat and tails. 😂

love this!

@Silversprinkles

Why are tracksuit bottoms or leggings more appropriate than PJ bottoms? More or less the same thing but with a funkier pattern

Thicker material. Less chance of see through.
And pants. If your leggings slide down, guests see your pants. If your pj's slide down, they see your arse crack.
Not even going to get into the Mallory Towers esq debate on pants under PJ's - just wrong! Gotta let your foof get air!

Your PJ bottoms are thinner than leggings?? Where on earth are you buying these from? Also why are your clothes falling off your arse before you can catch them??

@heldinadream

#teamnotgivingaratsarse

#teampjs

This

@ChargingBuck ooh I do love them, I think if I was wearing them when my (ex) mil comes for a visit she'd want some for herself! But then she has a sense of humour, and she's always in her pjs when we visit her

I do wear pants underneath my PJs though (and thermal leggings and vest and a thick, oversized fleecy top).

@ChargingBuck

I agree. I blame all this “hygge” nonsense.

Insular, xenophobic post of the thread award goes to ...
{DRUMROLL}
... @Warmduscher

So all the people in the UK embracing “hygge” are Danish? Who knew.

Also why are your clothes falling off your arse before you can catch them??
@SliceOfCakeCupOfTea that mad me snort 😂

@ashorterday

s your MIL the kind of person who would make a massive judgment if you are in your PJs … if she is, so what … she’s not your judge and jury.

She probably would judge me, but only silently!

Or she might silently be jealous. 🙃

As you know she is coming to visit I think you should be dressed and definitely not in Pjs.

If she came unannounced and you were in Pjs then ok, personally I find a Sunday evening a strange time for visitors especially the MIL and would be right pissed off to not have my PJs on and having to entertain.

You're a better judge than any of us as to how your MIL would feel.

I have no issues wearing my pyjamas in front of my MIL. When we stay with them we all have a leisurely brunch in our pyjamas and it's rare that any of us are dressed before 11am. We help each other to food and drink in each other's kitchens. It's not like hosting a visitor.

FIL and his wife, on the other hand, have been in a suit and smart dress every time that I've met them. I think it would be very uncomfortable for all of us if I turned up in my PJs!

I know no one who would still be in their pyjamas when people visit whether that's close family, friends or acquaintances.

I live alone but on the rare occasions I have an early evening shower I'll put on clean casual clothes.

I don't feel dressed in pyjamas because they're nightwear and wearing them during the day lowers my mood as it would if I were unwell. If I am ever unwell, unless I'm bedridden I find it really perks me up to shower and dress myself.

I also don't understand why so many people find their day clothes so uncomfortable that they're really only comfortable in nightwear. Don't their day clothes fit them properly?

@SliceOfCakeCupOfTea MINE aren't. Some peoples are. I've seen a fair few ugly bums in my time that I could do without.

I would wear pjs when my MIL visits if that naturally happened, see her numerous times a week. I'v seen her in her pjs and scruffs too though.

They're called comfies in our house rather than actual pj as we don't wear anything to bed ( sorry tmi!) so it's more a pj type bottom half and tshirt/ Cami . Always clean and totally respectable for anyone arriving .