To have my pyjamas on when MIL visits?

[ashorterday]

MIL is visiting this evening. Today I've been out walking, come home had a nice bath and put PJs on.

DH thinks I should get dressed, I'm willing to compromise with a hoody over the PJs but the spotty trousers will give it away.

Am I a slattern for even considering it? MIL is too polite to mention it.

I think it sends a signal that you can’t be bothered and MIL isn’t important enough to you.
Would you stay in your pjs for all other guests or just MIL?

@ExtraOnion

I find it astonishing that people are bothered by stuff like this. Who gives a rats arse about what anyone is wearing ? Is your MIL the kind of person who would make a massive judgment if you are in your PJs … if she is, so what … she’s not your judge and jury.

This ^

@winniemum

I think it sends a signal that you can’t be bothered and MIL isn’t important enough to you. Would you stay in your pjs for all other guests or just MIL?

I find your post hilarious.

Have some self respect and get dressed. Nobody should be in pyjamas at 5pm, unless you're ill, working nights, or a baby.

Yeah I'd get dressed if someone was coming but I'm regularly in my pyjamas at 5pm on a weekend 😂

I don't think it's odd at all. The 'must get into my jammies so that I'm super comfy and cosy' thing seems to be a relatively recent phenomenon (for adults anyway). Did your parents or grandparents hang around in their pyjamas in the early evening or daytime or when they had visitors? And if not, was that really because they were members of the landed gentry in a period drama?

I really do think the pajama explosion has come along with the obesity epidemic. Too tight clothing and unforgiving jeans have been replaced by looser clothing that lets you forget your tummy and chub rub. No body shaming here, I'm overweight (although working on that) and totally recognise the comfort of a pair of pjs over squeezing into my jeans of an evening. Although the jeans are more effective at reminding me to stay out of the biscuit cupboard!

I think dmil thinks I only own pjs lol.
It’s your house.
When we visit her, I’m dressed but don’t think anything of putting on pjs and coming back down at 8pm in them.

Not if someone is coming to dinner or drinks, but if mil is stay with you overnight no problem.

@Silverswirl

Gosh standards have gone downhill havent they! My Nan used to change into a dress or skirt for dinner every day, even if it was just her and my grandpa. Just to look and feel nice for dinner. People don’t even get dressed out of what they slept / sleep in now it seems! 🤣

Standards haven't "gone downhill", they've simply evolved, as fashions & customs always do @Silverswirl.

I have pyjamas.
I never sleep in them. They're not for bed - they're for being At Home in.
Sometimes I even take the dog out in them. Nobody turns a hair. But we're a lovely rural community where individuals quirks & preferences are celebrated, not judged ...

[quote stingofthebutterfly]@BABAHOTEL I take it you're one of these mums that turns up at the school gate in your pyjamas and slippers. Very sad and I'm sorry you can't respect yourself. Get some help, perhaps.[/quote]
Oh dear!

You're showing your nasty streak, not very becoming!

I've lost count the amount of times in in my pjs and dressing gown when in laws come round. It's my house. If they don't like it then they can leave.

@ChargingBuck I'm the same, pjs are for being at home in, not for sleeping in.

Is it just me or is this place getting more and more bogged down lately with people intent on passing sneering judgement on just about everything?

@ashorterday

She comes every week, it's not a formal dinner just coffee and a chat up.

What's my relationship got to do with it 😂 DH just said "Aren't you going to get dressed? MIL is coming soon" Not "I demand you get dressed you filthy whore!"

Lmmmmmmaoooo I actually spat my drink out!

[quote KurtWilde]@ChargingBuck I'm the same, pjs are for being at home in, not for sleeping in.

Is it just me or is this place getting more and more bogged down lately with people intent on passing sneering judgement on just about everything? [/quote]
Very much so!

[quote stingofthebutterfly]@BABAHOTEL I take it you're one of these mums that turns up at the school gate in your pyjamas and slippers. Very sad and I'm sorry you can't respect yourself. Get some help, perhaps.[/quote]
Are there specialist counsellors for the terminally afflicted-by-pyjamas then, @stingofthebutterfly?

Can you provide links?
Because it's not use ticking someone off but not giving the help they so desperately need ...

[quote stingofthebutterfly]@BABAHOTEL I take it you're one of these mums that turns up at the school gate in your pyjamas and slippers. Very sad and I'm sorry you can't respect yourself. Get some help, perhaps.[/quote]
I also have lots of self respect! They're PHs not crotchless knickers and nipple tassels! I can't believe your level of nastiness!

I need help and I've got no self respect! Dear god!

This thread is an eye-opener!

If I'm in the house, I'm in pyjamas or at least lounge wear-type stuff. I don't get up in the morning and put outside clothes on unless I'm going straight out - if I'm not going out, I'd put comfies on (I sleep naked/in knickers, so not wearing what I slept it). If I was going out at, I don't know, 4pm, but WFH until then, I'm wearing joggers til I need to put outside clothes on. When I come back from wherever, the comfy clothes are going back on.

So yeah, unless you were someone I was trying to really impress, I'll be in some form of pyjama or joggers in the house.

I am glad you put on comfys, I wouldn't hand Ammo to anyone, and Pj's for your own home are fine but it would have put you on a wrong foot in your own home.

[quote stingofthebutterfly]@BABAHOTEL I take it you're one of these mums that turns up at the school gate in your pyjamas and slippers. Very sad and I'm sorry you can't respect yourself. Get some help, perhaps.[/quote]
Lmao are you okay!? "Get some help" hahahahaha

Glad you have decided to stick some clothes on op. I think it comes across as cba otherwise. I wouldn’t want a visitor to my house to feel uncomfortable.

Your house, wear what you want.

I'm often in my pjs and dressing gown if my MIL comes over. Though to be honest she usually just pops in and it isn't pre arranged.

If it was an organised evening I'd probably be dressed

I find this really divides people. At one extreme, people who get dressed in their own home before even going downstairs and, on the other, people who are in pjs at home the minute they get home.

OP I think you should see this thread as an enabling reason to treat yourself to a load of comfy loungewear.

I never had any pre pandemic - it was a straight choice between normal daywear or PJ's but two years of wfh has converted me and I now love my loungewear.

I would not have dared to wear PJs in front of my MIL - OMG the judging that would have ensued but I am pleased to say my own DIL happily slatterns around in nightwear in my presence

Sorry but it is funny how many people would actually be bothered by this. 🙈
I wouldn't give it a second thought, I feel bad saying it but am very amused by the fact some would assume it means you can't be bothered with the visitor/would make the visitor uncomfortable.

I wouldnt wear pyjamas for a visitor, no.

MIL stays 3 days when she comes. Should I never wear pyjamas when she is here? 😱

It’s all nonsense. Wear whatever you are comfortable in. I wear leggings and tops when I have visitors. These are just like pyjamas but are in muted colours. Why are clothes classed differently because they have different patterns?