Me and DH have separate finances. I went through a really horrible time in a previous relationship financially, I won't go into all the details here but I can't bear the thought of my finances being tied to someone else ever again or not having access to money when I need it.
I'm a saver, my husband isn't. But with both contribute equally to the household so I don't concern myself with it in the main.
After the last two years with Covid I wanted to treat my son to a holiday this summer. He'd be just 4 by the time it comes around so not in school yet. Found something relatively cheap and have been speaking to DH about it.
Here's the AIBU...
My husband has a child from a previous relationship who is my step child and obviously my son's half sibling.
My husband basically wants to go in the summer holidays all together but the only way to afford this is for me to use the savings I have accumulated to do so.
It wouldn't wipe them out but it would be a big chunk of it, more than I'm comfortable with. DH would be able to contribute some but not all of the additional cost.
Adding two more people and going in the summer holidays makes the holiday triple the price (and admittedly it's a different dynamic than I'd hoped for).
DH argument is that we are a family and it shouldn't matter to me if I have to spend some of my money on his older son.
And yes it's Disney Paris 