To ask... would you go to a hen party if you weren’t invited to the wedding? (Not even to the reception or night do? None of it...)

[HelloFrostyMorning]

So, say a work colleague, (or a friend,) is getting married, and it's strictly only close family and close friends invited, (60 in all from both sides.)

She's asking 36 people (some work colleagues and a few mates, and several neighbours,) to her hen party. Costs £95 each. (For coach travel to a venue 25 miles away, a meal, and live music.)

However, 20 of the 36 are not invited to the wedding. Not to the ceremony, nor the reception, nor the night do. None of it. (The other 16 are obviously, and are invited to all 3 sections.) The 20 not invited are work colleagues, neighbours, and friends. (Obviously not close ones!)

If you were one of the 20 not invited to the wedding, would attend the hen party?

YABU. NO I would not.

YANBU. YES I would

Asking for a friend…

Oh FGS, I realise if money is the issue, but I feel chagrin is applied, so often. People are offended when no offence is intended.
Just go,.......?

But, of course, if making a point is important to you then don't. It's quite simple really. How do you want to the the future with your colleague. Because if you don't go because you're 'piqued ", you may have have to consider how your future relationship will be with them?
Whatever your decision, make it without effrontery.

When I got married (admittedly 30 years ago) it was quite usual to invite people on your hen night who weren’t coming on the wedding. Work colleagues, neighbours etc. It was a way of including everyone in the celebration. Of course back then it was a night out, not a week away.

@AuntieStella

If a colleague was having a small wedding, but still wanted a party for workmates, then I'd go to that sort of do. I wouldn't expect it to be £95 per head though! More along the lines of meal out somewhere (covering brides costs) then pub with music or club, with price tag in line with other works nights out and perhaps a whip round for a gift for the bride.

Hen do proper only for those much closer to the bride, who wouid be invited to the wedding

This.

I am getting the impression that people might be thinking of different type of a "do" whilst all using the same generic term "hen do".