Would this offend you?

[FishGoBloop]

NC because this is outing

Say you went to a sibling's wedding where the bride had handmade all the favours and they were various little felt animals.

The bride gave you a cow, your OH a horse, and your

She sounds ridiculous. So do those being snooty on this thread about the suitability of the favours. It's a nice little personal gesture from the bride, sounds about right to me.

My daughter has a pig on her peg at school. Should I be offended by that? Pig, cow and horse are a lot more suited together than pig, giraffe and parrot.

Some people make so much fuss over nothing.

@VickyEadieofThigh

The person offended by this is deranged.

This and I imagine this is a reverse.

You’ve done NOTHING wrong. They’re nutters.

You should have made her a little felt rooster since she is clearly cockadoodledoo

@Ionlydomassiveones

What kind of person would don a little felt animal the bride had spent time making just to laugh at her? Grim. Why even attend someone’s wedding to be nasty to them in such a snide way?

Your boss sounds lovely too, you sound grabby and mean. Don’t like them, fine, don’t actively take the piss out of someone and bin a gift in front of them.

@Ionlydomassiveones

“All those complaining that it isn't good enough as a favour, what exactly would you deem permissable to celebrate you gracing them with your presence at their wedding?”

Something not twee, pointless and for children. I’d rather they didn’t bother. My boss would do this, give everyone ‘hand crafted’ felt crap as Christmas gifts. She enjoyed doing it and was tight. Every one of us used to bin them. Some people, before they even left the office.

Favours are tokens and they are not necessary. I’d be touched someone went to so much effort.

You do not come off well here. At all.

@arethereanyleftatall

I think she does have a tiny point I'm afraid, although the explanation of the baby liking farmyard animals should explain it. But, you've given her family a pig and a cow, which are well known insults, and no one else has anything like that - mushrooms, fishes etc are not insults. Depending on your relationship...ie if there is constant underlying tension and passive aggressive behaviour from both sides, then this could definitely be construed as insulting. If there's not, and you consider you had a mutually lovely relationship, then the explanation of the farmyard animals should have sufficed.

A fish = slimy A snail = slow A mushroom = kept in the dark and fed on shit

So no I don't think a horse (not an ass) a pig and a cow are out of line. I guess everyone could be upset if that's what they want to be. Hopefully most people would have more sense,

These gifts sound lovely and you would have to be really reaching to give them any meaning other than "how cute". Considering how generic wedding favours are I think it's a wonderful idea to make them so personal and thoughtful.

You would have to be really thin skinned to see an insult there. Perhaps you're hit a nerve. Is she a bit of a cow?

@Ionlydomassiveones

“But they made so many people laugh and they were poked into button holes and pinned to bags, stuck on hats. The photos were great.”

I suspect they were not laughing ‘with’ you. I wouldn’t offended, but I would think it was piss poor thing to give a new relative.

well that just goes to show that we are all different.

I would think it was nice, and fun thing, and be sticking it in my buttonhole and laughing 'with' you not at you.

People are offended by the strangest things.
'a piss poor thing to give a new relative' I take it that you missed the part where this relative had been given jewellery and an experience day out gift as a thank you?
A little bit of fun on the table that everyone got, is really not a thing to get on your high horse about.

YANBU

She is being ridiculous, OP. That's on her, not you.

Being devil's advocate, if you personalised everyone else's animal to them, might it not have seemed obvious to you that it was possible that someone would take a particular animal personally, even if you didn't intend it like that?

Cows are my favourite animal, and I would have been delighted to get a felt cow, but I could imagine, for instance, that a guest who worried about being overweight might have felt a pig or a whale was a cruel jest at her expense?

It was clear from the OP that she was the bride, so we don't really know the other side.

If there's been a few digs or a history between Op and their family then a cow and a pig could definitely be taken as meaningful. If she's been heard commenting on the baby being "big" or eating a lot/messily for example.
By the reaction I'd guess there is some history there, even if the Op doesn't think there's much.
There are other farmyard animals-why not sheep, or even cats, sheepdogs etc?
Especially if around them everyone else had a reason why they got what they had, then you would think that the cow at any rate was deliberately aimed at you.

Only the OP knows whether she did make an error of judgement (and I'd say giving them a pig for the baby and cow for the lady is a little unfortunate if it was at random) or whether it was deliberate knowing that she could do the wide eyed innocent reaction if challenged.

Your guest is bonkers. They sound like awesome gifts.

I think it's lovely and absolutely wouldn't be offended.

Okay so the photos that I have are all really outing, as if this post isnt outing enough as it is! And I only have the really rubbish failed attempts left so no way am I uploading those! But try to imagine this but 1/4 of the size (I know this is a crochet, some of the animals were crochet and some were felted some were kind of a mix but they all looked similarish). But essentially, they were all a tiny version of this (DONT LAUGH) in the same style.

Aww I would love this! My mum does felting and we have some amazing things she has made. DD got a set of moles for Christmas and she was overjoyed They're great wee favours!

(I know it's a completely ridiculous wedding favour but they made the vast majority of the guests laugh and it set off a really lovely atmosphere as everyone sat down and we really wanted to give out keepsakes)

It’s really easy to identify the posters on here who don’t see value in anything unless it’s cost a lot…

Bloody hell, I would have loved this. What a clever idea!

This reminds me why I am not doing favours at my wedding! Didn't do it first time either.

MN is full of people who attend weddings a) without apparently actually liking the people whose wedding they are going to and b) actively enjoy being offended by stuff.

I like to hope that in 'the real world', most of us love and care for the people whose weddings we attend and would value anything that someone has spent their precious time making to give to us.

TBH I’d rather have a little felt cow than some of the wedding favours I’ve taken home (to be polite) and then binned.

I gave at least 8 people pigs in crochet granny blankets that I had made, as part of their Christmas presents, and no-one thought I was calling them a pig! I also knitted a dragon for dh, without him feeling insulted.

I think your guest was being unbelievably touchy, @FishGoBloop, and your wedding favours sound really cute and thoughtful!

I think making felt animals is weird and some of the ones you gave to other people had a clear link to them whereas this sibling saw no link between themselves a cow, a horse and a pig.

To be honest, if you were trying to link people to their animals, maybe a cow wasn’t the best idea for a woman unless she has a known liking of cows. I actually suspect you were being rude.

This guest has some serious self esteem and paranoia issues.

I’m so sorry this has happened to you.

If it helps she sounds like a certain family member of mine.