Would this offend you?

[FishGoBloop]

NC because this is outing

Say you went to a sibling's wedding where the bride had handmade all the favours and they were various little felt animals.

The bride gave you a cow, your OH a horse, and your

@SNUG2022

If the one given to me was a cow, I'd think you were calling me a cow. I wouldn't ruin your wedding, but would think WTF. I wouldn't think ass and pig for a child meant anything.

Honestly?

It wouldn't even occur to me.

I love cute felt animals, I usually buy a new one or two from a local shop for my Christmas tree every year, I think they sound like much nicer favours than the usual generic shite you get given at weddings like the sugared almonds!

She sounds like a complete drama queen, I would leave her to her own self imposed misery.

When I read your first post, I thought she was nuts.

But now you've said that everyone else's favours had a special significance - a fish for the fish keeper, snails for the escargot lover, a replica of their pet dog - I'm not so sure that she doesn't have a point.

Certainly, the first thing I would think wouldn't be that the "special significance" for the person who got a cow or a pig was that their baby liked going to the farm and the zoo... I'm fairly sure that the first thing other guests would be thinking was that it was veiled dig that she got a cow as her "significant animal". Why didn't you choose zoo animals instead of farm animals? If you wanted to give them a farmyard set, wouldn't a sheep, pig and cow be a more obvious choice than a cow, pig and horse and have plausible deniability? Although I suppose a sheep could be an insult too. Why give the cow to a woman when it is an insult only aimed at women?

These sound adorable!

Who equates horses with asses?
Is he one?
Is the child a pig?

She obviously relates to the cow.

They sound like an utterly lovely wee gift to give guests. The guest is bonkers and no mistake!

And did she think you had time to hand craft passive-aggressive gifts for every person at the wedding, or only her family?

Is she your husband’s sister?

Seeing as you’ve said the person who loved snails got a snail. The person who loved gosh got a gosh. Etc

Why wouldn’t you think that her animal is also personal?!?

Logic really isn’t it.

I wouldn't love being given a cow tbh (unless everyone got one) but it's a very sweet idea and there's absolutely no way I would've made a scene or even mentioned it. Horse and a little pig for a baby are pretty neutral though.

Unless you have form for being subtly and creatively passive aggressive towards her then she was bang out.

@SNUG2022

If the one given to me was a cow, I'd think you were calling me a cow. I wouldn't ruin your wedding, but would think WTF. I wouldn't think ass and pig for a child meant anything.

This.

I would love a felt cow to be given to me as a wedding favour..even better I'd it was a Highland Cow! Much better than a miniature bottle of Baileys or Chocolate

@Nocutenamesleft

Seeing as you’ve said the person who loved snails got a snail. The person who loved gosh got a gosh. Etc

Why wouldn’t you think that her animal is also personal?!?

Logic really isn’t it.

It is personal. They like taking baby to the farm. They all had animals. Not everyone is going to be able to have one that is a perfect reflection of themselves.

It is a strange reaction, I personally wouldn’t make the link because I don’t tend to call people cows or pigs as an insult, but maybe if this was something a person did they would draw the link. However if bride was like, omggg no I was just trying to give you a farmyard set for the kid, that would be the end of it for me and would suffice as an explanation.

Are you sure she’s really not talking to you anymore? You could be reading into it.

Sometimes people just need a little break from each other but come back to the friendship like nothing happened.

@Ionlydomassiveones

“But they made so many people laugh and they were poked into button holes and pinned to bags, stuck on hats. The photos were great.”

I suspect they were not laughing ‘with’ you. I wouldn’t offended, but I would think it was piss poor thing to give a new relative.

All those complaining that it isn't good enough as a favour, what exactly would you deem permissable to celebrate you gracing them with your presence at their wedding?

@Ionlydomassiveones wow that’s mean! For what it’s worth, I would love a handmade felt animal OP!

@WhatScratch

I’ve found her spirit animal

Omg not seen that bat years 🤣

She's got issues.

She sounds bonkers. Perhaps you should have felted a variety of nuts for her (though I like the idea of a box of frogs)?

@Watchscratch

Didn't quote properly, about the bat 🤣

I wouldn't be offended, not even if the person was actually implying I'm a cow because cows are beautiful creatures.

But her even thinking you're insulting them in the first place is insane.

I think your favours sound whimsical and wonderful @FishGoBloop. I’d have loved getting one, as it sound like most of your guests did. Plus the effort you must have gone to is very touching.

The arsey guest sounds like an ignorant twat.

Fish not gosh.

Perhaps she wanted an owl.

@Ionlydomassiveones

“All those complaining that it isn't good enough as a favour, what exactly would you deem permissable to celebrate you gracing them with your presence at their wedding?”

Something not twee, pointless and for children. I’d rather they didn’t bother. My boss would do this, give everyone ‘hand crafted’ felt crap as Christmas gifts. She enjoyed doing it and was tight. Every one of us used to bin them. Some people, before they even left the office.

Like what tho? If you think it's a but naff you can just leave it behind, but favours are small tokens. Not comparable to a Christmas present.