... to be disappointed at 25th Wedding Anniv Gift from DH?

[OhhMeOhhMy]

... A 2 day stay at a really really nice hotel/spa with highly rated restaurant for me and my DSis.

First world problems I know :(

But I still feel unhappy enough about to NC, and make a post. On the positive side I have mentioned wanting to go there in the past. I do get on with my DSis (we're close, but she is not my best friend)

Don't know what I was expecting really, but not this!

AIBU?

I just read a comment that made me laugh "you sound ungrateful and hardwork" 😂 there is nothing wrong or u grateful about wanting to spend your wedding anniversary with your husband in a fancy hotel!

@Stepinside good observation about the disparity between the comments and the voting :) Very very different :)

Whether I’d be disappointed would depend on the context of my marriage.

If my marriage was great, we spent quality time together etc then I’d see this as a thoughtful gift.
If my marriage had issues and I thought he was trying to get rid of me for a weekend, then I’d view this as a crap gift.

You do need to tell him though why did he think this was a great gift.

Are you and DH also going to go out to dinner or similar, just the two of you to celebrate, or is that the only 'event' to mark your anniversary?

Is it booked for your anniversary date?

[quote MakingAComment]@Stepinside good observation about the disparity between the comments and the voting :) Very very different :)[/quote]
MN sees the word spa and full 'hun' vibe comes out -must be good.

Are you going to say what you got him or is it purely is one way street with this sort of thing?

Because if you got him something thoughtful and expensive then no YANBU.

If you got him sod all then you are

Oh OP I should be devastated. I'd be so excited until I saw he was palming me off with someone else for 2 nights. If it was with him it would be an amazing gift. I would be telling him exactly what I thought though.

Oooops he's got that horribly wrong hasn't he!

For our 25th DH arranged a trip to Dublin for us both staying in a 5 star hotel (he knew it was somewhere I wanted to go to)
I joked that for our 40th it had to be New York, and yes for our 40th thats where we went.
Sorry if I were the OP I would be disapointed that he thought I would prefer to spend time with my Dsis than with him, on a landmark anniversary.

Didn't he want to go?

Great present for a birthday, for an anniversary not so much.

I could maybe understand it if the couple has small children and the recipient is the main care-giver and housekeeper- it would be a lovely break away from the daily grind in those circumstances. But I’m assuming that after 25y of marriage the OP’s children (if they exist) are grown now, or nearly there, and she’s past the “I’m shattered and need a weekend to myself!” stage. I may be wrong…

This might sound strange, but IMHO it feels more like a very special birthday present than an anniversary one
This is the crux of it for me. Spa break with Dsis great for birthday or Mother's Day or Christmas. I'd still prefer a +1 so I could pick who I take but fair enough if he asked Dsis.
But an anniversary is about two people and one relationship

Is your sister already aware of the gift? If not, could you not go with someone else - your best friend maybe (if your DH doesn't want to go)?

The present itself seems thoughtful, as you say you've mentioned it in the past etc - your DH has tried.

However, I'd be a little upset that I have to share my rather thoughtful anniversary present with my sister/someone else. After 25 years of marriage it should be for me alone, or me and my DH - your sister is basically getting 50% of your gift.

It's more than I got for my silver wedding.
Come to think of it, it's more than Dh got as well!!!
🤣

I'd be worried that he wanted me out of the way.

What's he planning for when you are away?

So bizarre, does he want to get rid of you for the weekend or what?
A 25th anniversary is an occasion for you to go away together.
I got nothing for any special anniversary other than his face looking like a slapped arse. I am divorced now.
Quite honestly I'd be asking him why he doesn't want a weekend away with you.

What did you get him? Did you already book something for you to do together?

Very odd gift for an anniversary - why is it not a weekend for you as a couple? Have you asked him?
Does your DSis know about it, if not could it be changed to you and DH?

Wow you sound like the kind of person who needs to brag about what gift you've been given.

My parents went for a nice meal - for their 50th anniversary. No bragging required - happily married.

You do sound hard work.

I think after 25 years you both should be able to express disappointment to each other. More than that, I know it's a gift but dh and I usually let each other know/hint at something we prefer. I think yanbu to be disappointed though. You should be spending it with your dh.b

@YetAnotherSpartacus

I'd be worried that he wanted me out of the way.

What's he planning for when you are away?

Would you really though?

What did you get for him?

We need more info @OhhMeOhhMy

Would you rather be going with him? Is that the problem?

I’d be absolutely delighted with this as a gift, but I can see that it’s not the most romantic of gestures - go away with someone else and celebrate without me, dear wife.