... to be disappointed at 25th Wedding Anniv Gift from DH?

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... A 2 day stay at a really really nice hotel/spa with highly rated restaurant for me and my DSis.

First world problems I know :(

But I still feel unhappy enough about to NC, and make a post. On the positive side I have mentioned wanting to go there in the past. I do get on with my DSis (we're close, but she is not my best friend)

Don't know what I was expecting really, but not this!

AIBU?

Apologies for the lack of context, it was a quick post after DH told me this morning before commute.

• I understood we'd "done" our anniversary early with a ski trip in early Jan. I twisted my knee in the hotel, so limited my skiing

• I've nothing special arranged for DH. I thought the ski trip was it. Also, he's difficult to buy for, never interested in presents ... but he's easy to please IYSWIM :)

• I'd prefer to go there with him, but that won't be possible with his job. It's why we went away a few weeks earlier. Also, he'd have no interested in the spa part of the hotel

• DSis doesn't know about it, so I can ask someone else. DH knows she is "not well", but does not know anything of what happened (sexual assault), and in theory this would be great, but not at all the right thing at the moment (she is in counseling)

I guess I was just annoyed when I posted, train late again! I'll see if I can postpone until later. I hope that is possible.

@Shehasadiamondinthesky, oh wow!

I changed from YANBU to YABU after the update. Your and H had done something together for your anniversary and he presumably thought this was a nice add on?

What are you actually annoyed about OP?

After the updated YABU!

So you went you on a ski trip, the two of you, for your anniversary. You were injured - so he's thoughtfully got you another gift, that you can enjoy?

And you haven't got him anything? Because you think HE is hard to please? Sheeeesh.

Given your update, it's a lovely gift. Something you want because the skiing didn't go as planned. He's also thought of your sister, which would also have a positive knock on effect for you.

I've also changed my vote to YABU.

You sound ungrateful. You already agreed that the ski trip was the gift and now you've had this lovely surprise as a bonus and you're not happy?

Well that's quite the drip feed! Of course YABU then.

I don't quite understand why you are disappointed TBH. You didn't get him anything and he's got you a gift that also means that he has thought about your sister after she went through a hard time. He sounds very caring to me xx

Yeah, you're a terrible person sorry

In that case, given your update, it’s a little very thoughtful gift.

You’re feeling annoyed he surprised you and you didn’t get him anything else on the day itself.

Easily sorted.

Wow poor guy. Thought you were going to say he'd bought you a frying pan or something.

So you already celebrated early with a ski trip but he still got you a spa weekend with your sister who he knows needs a break too. You got him nothing but are unhappy. YABU obviously.

I’d love this if it was for you and him to do together!

So it's not an anniversary gift at all?!

Oh and YABbizarrelyU!

I also change to YABU after the update. I actually think your DH has been very thoughtful. You’d had a ski trip together for your celebration and he can’t get time from worn now. He realises your injury meant you didn’t get the most out of the ski trip (although surely you still enjoyed the holiday in general even if couldn’t ski as much as wanted?). He therefore arranged a lovely extra for you to enjoy. Then more thoughtfulness follows as he realises you might not want to go alone but that your sister has been “not well” and therefore might also enjoy a treat and some r&r at a lovely place. He seems pretty thoughtful to me OP! Obviously if he doesn’t know about the sexual assault he’s not in a position to think through that a spa might not be ideal for her right now but it doesn’t sound like he’s told your DS anyway so that is something you could easily work around.

Youve had a ski trip together and you're disappointed now? Seriously.

You are fucking unreasonable, ungrateful, grabby and hypocritical. Your original post lacked the details which you drip fed. I assume you were wanting a chorus of how you were hard done by. Looks like that ploy failed.

FFS the update takes the biscuit! WHT the hell are you annoyed with him if he couldn't go anyway?

Ok sometimes posting helps with getting clarity so I hope you have.

You both went on a ski trip for you anniversary.
You bought him nothing.
He bought you another gift of a trip away since you had such a bad time with him.
You feel annoyed.

I think it's a nice present, especially that he's been thoughtful about your dsis, and not his fault if he doesn't understand the full situation so thought this would be a nice break for you and your dsis.

Maybe you were hoping for something silver or permanent, like jewellery? That's understandable to mark a big anniversary, and I know you can't help the way you feel, but I do think (unless there's something I've missed) that he's being kind, and that's something worth appreciating.

I change my mind after your update. YABVU.