... to be disappointed at 25th Wedding Anniv Gift from DH?

[OhhMeOhhMy]

... A 2 day stay at a really really nice hotel/spa with highly rated restaurant for me and my DSis.

First world problems I know :(

But I still feel unhappy enough about to NC, and make a post. On the positive side I have mentioned wanting to go there in the past. I do get on with my DSis (we're close, but she is not my best friend)

Don't know what I was expecting really, but not this!

AIBU?

I think that it's strange that you've not told your husband about your sister's circumstances

Just had to respond to this. If a someone is sexually assaulted they get to decide who knows, and anyone they tell should absolutely keep that information to themselves. Its not family news to be shared around.

It really shouldn't need to be explained that you respect a sexual assault victim's right to privacy.

I have not read all the comments but I wondered if the poster's DH had thought that if he booked something for both of them that would be partly giving himself a present too? He was trying to be thoughtful by giving the OP something for her to enjoy. Hopefully you can plan something romantic together too.

Poor guy sounds like he wouldn’t have got it right, whatever he had done. Sorry op, but you sound very self absorbed. Give your head a wobble, and read some posts in ‘relationships’ where some people really have been neglected and treated horribly by their partners, then it might all be put into perspective for you.

You and your DH went on a skiing holiday he bought as an Anniversary present,.

He bought an additional present, a two day break at a Spa , plus restaurant, for you and your sister.

You bought him nothing but say you were unhappy with his presents.

What would he have to do to make you happy ?

Why are you disappointed and why did dh book this for you and your sister bratgern than you and him?

It could either be an absolutely awesome gift or a hurtful one depending on the answers.

As an aside you have given me a wonderful gift idea for my birthday , anniversary, or my mum's birthday. A spa weekend for my mum and me (with dh staying at home taking care of the kids). For me that would be the most thoughtful present ever. (might actually ask him that though he might feel bad if I'd rather go with my mum than him

Anyway that's me. Your situation is obviously different so I don't think you are bu.

Quite ungrateful really, as your Husband must have thought it would be special for you and your Sister. A lot of men don't seem to bother too much about anniversaries,unless they have been badgered into thinking about them, or given hints about what is acceptable to do on that day.

I think it’s a lovely present, especially on top of the skiing trip. You sound really spoilt, and selfish too for not getting your DH anything.

@ExConstance

I have not read all the comments but I wondered if the poster's DH had thought that if he booked something for both of them that would be partly giving himself a present too? He was trying to be thoughtful by giving the OP something for her to enjoy. Hopefully you can plan something romantic together too.

I think this anniversary has been pretty comprehensively celebrated, bloody hell. And if I was the OPs husband I'd not be too bothered about romancing her further with this awful attitude.

@AliveAndSleeping

Why are you disappointed and why did dh book this for you and your sister bratgern than you and him?

It could either be an absolutely awesome gift or a hurtful one depending on the answers.

As an aside you have given me a wonderful gift idea for my birthday , anniversary, or my mum's birthday. A spa weekend for my mum and me (with dh staying at home taking care of the kids). For me that would be the most thoughtful present ever. (might actually ask him that though he might feel bad if I'd rather go with my mum than him

Anyway that's me. Your situation is obviously different so I don't think you are bu.

Have you read the update? He did book something for the both of them. They went on a skiing holiday. Unfortunately OP injured herself, so didn't get to fully appreciate it. So her husband did something thoughtful and booked a spa treatment for her. He can't make it due to work, so again thoughtfully said she can take her sister who has been going through a bad time (he doesn't know what happened, so had no idea this treat could be wrong for her)

If ever there was a case for "RTFT" this must be it!

@ChargingBuck

Amazed you have not yet fathomed that the hotel trip is NOT the anniversary present *@JohnKettleyIsAWeatherMan*.

The ski trip was the anniversary present.
This is an extra. DH is working away, so gave his wife an additional random present to enjoy while he cannot be there, & to compensate her for hurting her leg on their ski trip.

Not that most people would need compensating for a holiday that didn't go to plan, but ... yeah, enough said I reckon.

Yes, I can read, thanks.

When a thread is titled '... to be disappointed at 25th Wedding Anniv Gift from DH?' and the first sentence is '... A 2 day stay at a really really nice hotel/spa with highly rated restaurant for me and my DSis' it is not unreasonable to conclude that the OP, at least in part, does consider the hotel/spa visit to be part of the anniversary celebrations, even if it is something extra to the main event, so to speak.

I’m sure your DH would be appreciated by many other women.

YANBU @OhhMeOhhMy and I am surprised at the poll result.

Why the F has he not booked something for the 2 of you together? The gift he got IS very odd.

After 25 years together you should be able to tell him???

Cough, cough... bollocks

@HelloFrostyMorning

YANBU *@OhhMeOhhMy* and I am surprised at the poll result.

Why the F has he not booked something for the 2 of you together? The gift he got IS very odd.

He has. They have been on a skiing holiday together to celebrate their anniversary. This was an extra gift for her as he will be working away.

@HelloFrostyMorning

YANBU *@OhhMeOhhMy* and I am surprised at the poll result.

Why the F has he not booked something for the 2 of you together? The gift he got IS very odd.

Cancel the cheque, @HelloFrostyMorning!

DH booked them a ski trip for their anniversary. Together.

The extra hotel gift is because OP hurt her leg skiing, because she had told DH previously she fancied this specific hotel, because DH knows her sister is under the weather, & because he is going to be away working.

What's odd about that thought & generosity?

When a thread is titled '... to be disappointed at 25th Wedding Anniv Gift from DH?' and the first sentence is '... A 2 day stay at a really really nice hotel/spa with highly rated restaurant for me and my DSis' it is not unreasonable to conclude that the OP, at least in part, does consider the hotel/spa visit to be part of the anniversary celebrations, even if it is something extra to the main event, so to speak.

The title is misleading, as I mentioned way upthread, no particular reason for you to have noticed my comment though.
But it's also not unreasonable to at least read all the OP's updates before swallowing the first post whole. Her dripfeeding made PP cross to the point of changing their initial vote - that's how misleading the title is!

Yes, I can read, thanks.
Um, never disputed that you CAN, @JohnKettleyIsAWeatherMan.
Just whether you DID. 'cos if you'd read OP's updates you'd have seen how outrageously entitled she is in her "disappointment" ...

Sorry. I am tired and have had 3 glasses of wine.

I guess I didn't read the OP's posts properly...

Although, why is she pissed off then???

Am I just drunk?

THANKS @ChargingBuck Yep, it is misleading, and dripfeeding pisses me off a bit.

@CallMeNutribullet

Cough, cough... bollocks

Sorry. I am tired and have had 3 glasses of wine. blush

Perfectly valid reason, & good on ya @HelloFrostyMorning

Oh I hadn't read the updates. Now I have but I'm even more confused. Why were you upset op? I mean, ever? This sounds like an extremely thoughtful present (considering he thought that her sister isn't well without knowing the specifics). Pity that op has decided not to post again as I'm curious about her reasoning.

I've read the update and totally changed my mind. Your husband was really kind. And if your sister doesn't know, you can take him along instead and have a nice romantic spa getaway.

Your husband sounds lovely and you sound really ungrateful

You had a trip away together, he got you a lovely extra gift, you got him nothing else

If you don't want to take your sister, don't. Take a friend