AIBU to tell my sister to not have a baby so near 50

[Shehasadiamondinthesky]

I know the answer is to mind my own godamn business but all the women in my family have world ending menopause and she's trying for her first at 48 with fertility treatment.
I just know she will be having a horrific menopause in a couple of years with one or two very young children and I dont know how she will cope.
Has anyone else gone through the menopause with young children and how was it?

[Sakura7]

@Adrianneanneanne

No one is guaranteed their parent at any age.

I mean no disrespect to people who had kids later, but chance of death tends to increase with age.

There has to be a cut off point, especially for men who can potentially father children well into old age.

Exactly.

On these kinds of threads you always get people saying "you could be hit by a bus at any age" but it's hardly likely, is it?

As for the PP suggesting this is a sexism issue, there have been threads on here before warning women against having children with a much older partner. Generally if someone thinks 48 is too young for a woman to have a baby, they'll tend to feel the same way about a man. The long term challenges are the same.

[BintheZoflora]

I think if this was before she decided to do fertility treatment and asked then fine

But if she’s already decided to go ahead she clearly knows what she wants to do and to inject your opinion now would just sour things between you

Fertility and children are a really sensitive and personal topic and I think if she hasn’t asked for your opinion you just need to support her as best you can despite your misgivings

[chaosmaker]

Completely agree with you OP.

[blyn72]

I understand your concern but all you can do is support your sister and stay out of it. It may not happen anyway.

[sweetheartyparty]

I wish her all the luck in the world. I suffered many years of infertility and those were very dark years. Soon enough it will be our of her hands but for now let her be and support her choice

[CleansUpButWouldPreferNotTo]

londonrach
What a horrible sister you are. You support your sister it's her decision not yours. Yabu and a nasty person. Re the menapause...alot of woman go through it with no problems..you no idea what hers be like and what age she have it.

Wow. It could be said what a horrible and unreasonable post this is.

[blyn72]

I agree with CleanUp. The op hasn't said she won't support her sister, just that she has misgivings. I think most people would.