To not want to share a room with my inlaws

[nestinginnl]

Myself, my husband and our 6 month old son are going on holiday to Hawaii in two weeks. He's from Southern California so we're tying the trip in with seeing his family. On the night we get back from Hawaii he's booked us a hotel room by the airport as the flight gets in late. This happened months ago. I just found out it's for all of us, his mother included, in one room. Not only that but a week later when we fly home there's another hotel booked to split the journey, this time for the three of us, his mother, and his sister (who is a perfectly well meaning person but I don't get on with her and find her very uncomfortable to be around due to multiple past-events).

I wasn't asked about any of this, it was just organised behind my back.

We are not broke. We do not have to save $100 on a room. This is our first holiday in years. It's a replacement for our covid-cancelled honeymoon.

AIBU to be feel upset and want separate rooms?

Yes - YABU, rooms are expensive, it's just two nights

No - YANBU, he's in the wrong, spend the money and have your own space

God no get him to book a separate room for them asap!

It'll be interesting to see whether anybody on here suggests you're being unreasonable. If they do I think they have serious problems.

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YANBU. Horrendous idea. I would die on this hill.

Yanbu.

I'd be tempted to book myself a nice single room and leave them to enjoy their family sleepover while I get room service and some great sleep

Definitely YANBU!
Pretty outrageous to have not even discussed it with you before booking - what was his thinking on putting you all in one room?

YANBU - I can’t think of anything more awkward! Although is it a family suite with interconnected rooms because I could probably cope with that?

Yanbu

No. No no no no no.
Just no.

@IncompleteSenten this is exactly my thought! I think I'll ask to see the hotel reservation and make myself a nice single room booking for me and the baby.

Yanbu
Having inlaws who live far away, the best holiday we had was separate apartments. You get to wake slowly, have a cuppa and shower without your inlaws seeing you. Then you are all lovely and fresh and able to cope with the day. It took a few holidays sharing houses to reach this conclusion!

Ew.

@Speakingofdinosaurs

Definitely YANBU! Pretty outrageous to have not even discussed it with you before booking - what was his thinking on putting you all in one room?

That we must save money! No idea why. Between his mom being generous and miles we've paid very little so far. I'd pay any amount to not share too

YANBU!!!! Wtf was he thinking.

Book a separate room for yourself and the baby.

@Olliphant

Yanbu Having inlaws who live far away, the best holiday we had was separate apartments. You get to wake slowly, have a cuppa and shower without your inlaws seeing you. Then you are all lovely and fresh and able to cope with the day. It took a few holidays sharing houses to reach this conclusion!

Sounds perfect.

They live far away... which is a blessing and a curse, because I've only met them a few times. I have no comfort level built up.

Oh no no, even if you were the best of friends this wouldn't work!

OMG! No don’t share a room!
Nightmare.
And surely they don’t want to bunk in with a 6m old that will wake, cry and need feeding?

Your DH has lost his marbles.

Book a room for you and the baby. If it's awkward tell them it's to save them from being woken up during the night.

I hate the thought of sharing with anyone except DH.

@TheChemicalMother

OMG! No don’t share a room! Nightmare. And surely they don’t want to bunk in with a 6m old that will wake, cry and need feeding?

Your DH has lost his marbles.

I only found out about this plan because my MIL messaged to say she'd booked all of us (SIL included) a room... I panicked at the wording "a room" and asked him about it. This is when I found out about the other room! So apparently no one cares about sharing with a baby who won't sleep except me?

No. Just no. I can barely tolerate sharing a room with my fiancé. His snoring and noisy trips to the toilets drive me mad. Never mind magnify that by many more people

Jesus wept. I’d freak at that.

Tell them on reflection you don’t think anyone should be asked to share with a baby so you (and DH?!) will book a separate room.

Can’t everyone including baby share a room and you have your own room. No one else seems to have issue with it?!

Madness. Hope you sort it out, OP. I’m feeling stressed thinking about it.

Good grief no.

NorthSouthcatlady
Because OP doesn’t want to be separated from her 6 month old baby? If she’s breastfeeding it’s a total non-starter for the baby to be in a separate hotel room, and if she’s not she probably still wants to stay with her very young baby.

@Diggersaursarethebest none of her posts actually say that