To not want to share a room with my inlaws

[nestinginnl]

Myself, my husband and our 6 month old son are going on holiday to Hawaii in two weeks. He's from Southern California so we're tying the trip in with seeing his family. On the night we get back from Hawaii he's booked us a hotel room by the airport as the flight gets in late. This happened months ago. I just found out it's for all of us, his mother included, in one room. Not only that but a week later when we fly home there's another hotel booked to split the journey, this time for the three of us, his mother, and his sister (who is a perfectly well meaning person but I don't get on with her and find her very uncomfortable to be around due to multiple past-events).

I wasn't asked about any of this, it was just organised behind my back.

We are not broke. We do not have to save $100 on a room. This is our first holiday in years. It's a replacement for our covid-cancelled honeymoon.

AIBU to be feel upset and want separate rooms?

Yes - YABU, rooms are expensive, it's just two nights

No - YANBU, he's in the wrong, spend the money and have your own space

I'm a southern American and most hotels have a mix of two beds and single beds in a room but I would never share a room with any in laws ever

• To a point yes, but a typical American room is 2 queens or a king--sometmes you get a pullout too. Most wouldn't let you book 4 adults. You could do it in a pinch, I suppose, but absolutely not what I would do.

Cramming parents + kids in one room (definitely done in North America) is just not the same as two adult couples and a baby.*

Agree. My mother, sister, aunt and her daughter would share a room with two queens because all from the same family.

I wouldn’t share with my in-laws and my DH wouldn’t have us either and vice versa. We don’t even stay with them when we visit them, we book a hotel so we’re all more comfortable. The bathroom situation alone would make me cringe.

@EKGEMS

I'm a southern American and most hotels have a mix of two beds and single beds in a room but I would never share a room with any in laws ever

You're going to cause even more confusion! In the UK a "single" bed means a twin bed. I think what you mean is one bed as opposed to two beds.

But, yes, you can usually either book a room with two queen beds (which could sleep four adults) or one king bed.

@IncompleteSenten

Yanbu.

I'd be tempted to book myself a nice single room and leave them to enjoy their family sleepover while I get room service and some great sleep

Haha! I would do this.

@Anonymous48

One of OP's later posts says 3 bookings.

@TurquoiseDragon you're right. I just looked at all of her posts and saw on the last one that she said three bookings. She didn't explain what the third one was though so it's all very unclear.