AIBU to wear this to a wedding?

[Needmorechocolate]

I’m going to a family members wedding in May, WIBU to wear this? Is it too white? www.phase-eight.com/product/verena-spot-maxi-dress-220451630.html#q=Polka&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=220451630&pos=22

@Needmorechocolate

Thanks everyone. The fact that it has divided opinion has made my mind up, I won’t wear it to the wedding. I wouldn’t want to upset the bride (or look like I’m heading for a day at the beach as some have suggested ). Now I just need to find somewhere else to wear it so I can justify the purchase because I still love the dress

Any outfit that has white as one of the main colours always splits opinions.

As it's a lovely dress and in the sales then keep it, if money allows, you then have something to wear to the next event.

I usually try to buy stuff when I see it rather than when necessary.

Glad you're not going to wear it to the wedding - good decision.

Other than a wedding, I think you could wear this dress loads - dress it up, dress it down. Definitely keep it. It's very versatile, day to evening type dress. It's really lovely

Red hat, bag and shoes and it will be perfect.

I wouldn't wear a long white dress to a wedding. Not because it looks bridal - you wont look like a bride, but because at least half the guests will think you're being rude.

I wouldn't have anything white, you'll only feel self conscious on the day.

I am now imagining a wedding where we all turn up in our own wedding dresses

What a thought! We got married in a registry office and I wore a knee-length cream dress and a cream hat. No idea what happened to the hat, but I think the dress may still be here somewhere. I doubt very much if it would fit me now and it wasn't a great dress anyway. I would particularly object to going back to my early 80s perm!

I think it’s lovely but I couldn’t wear a floor length white dress to someone else’s wedding. Would they care, not sure but it just doesn’t feel like the done thing.

You will not be mistaken for the bride.

It’s not about being mistaken for the bride. It’s about demonstrating respect to the bride.
She wears white, it’s one day, guests know this. If they wear white, it appears to be attention seeking and rude. Is girl code a thing? If so, it breaches it.

Absolutely no way, it’s a long white dress, very bad etiquette.

Its a lovely dress, really lovely, but totally inappropriate for a wedding, sorry.

The simple fact you had to ask the question and are getting mixed responses says that its not appropriate, the bride could be in the no camp.

@CantStartaFireWithoutaSpark

It’s not about being mistaken for the bride. It’s about demonstrating respect to the bride. She wears white, it’s one day, guests know this. If they wear white, it appears to be attention seeking and rude. Is girl code a thing? If so, it breaches it.

I agree. And even if you think it's silly there will be someone there who thinks you're silly for wearing it.

Plus the photos will look awful.

When I was 16 I wore a shortish skin-tight while dress with black detailing all over it to a wedding. Never thought anything about it at the time and no one ever said anything to me and now I look back and wonder whether the bride hated me from all these responses.

Now I'm a full grown adult I'd never do it.

@CantStartaFireWithoutaSpark

It’s not about being mistaken for the bride. It’s about demonstrating respect to the bride. She wears white, it’s one day, guests know this. If they wear white, it appears to be attention seeking and rude. Is girl code a thing? If so, it breaches it.

yes, I see that FOR YOU that is what it is.

But again, as many on this thread have said, for many of us, it just isn't.

none of this would ever occur to me as a guest or as the bride.

'guests know this'

except it must be just in some circles though, because in rl, I don't know anyone who cares, unless you wear something obviously bridal like a white lace dress, or white with white accessories etc.

would just not cross my mind that someone in a patterned summer dress which happens to have a white background was in any way at all breaching any etiquette.

This thread explains why some people think it’s fine to eat with their mouths open - basically some people don’t know basic etiquette! That’s it!

Ok it has polka dots so you’re not going to mistaken for the bride, but the bride wants to ‘pop’ in all photos and stand-out, which doesn’t happen if others are wearing mainly white dresses.
I’d avoid. They very fact you need to ask, suggests you know it’s borderline inappropriate

Well I wore this to a wedding and it was fine.

I think it's lovely. Team it with some coloured sandels and matching shawl.

@whatmagicword

Well I wore this to a wedding and it was fine.

I bet someone muttered about that one tbh

@whatmagicword

Well I wore this to a wedding and it was fine.

Was it your own wedding? Because otherwise that isn't fine.

God you lot are so easy to wind up.

@whatmagicword

Well I wore this to a wedding and it was fine.

Regardless of how you feel about whether it should/ shouldn't be offensive, the truth is that some people are bothered by these things.

If you are really set on the dress then I would be tempted to run it by the bride. It is white and long, regardless of the polka dots. I wouldn't choose it tbh.

I think it's fine, admit doesn't look at all bridal. Someone wore a black and white polka dot dress to my wedding and it would never occur to me to care.
Saying that, there are some really fussy bridezillas out there. Do you think the bride would care?

It will be lively with a fascinator and buttonhole