AIBU to wear this to a wedding?

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I’m going to a family members wedding in May, WIBU to wear this? Is it too white? www.phase-eight.com/product/verena-spot-maxi-dress-220451630.html#q=Polka&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=220451630&pos=22

I like it but then I wasn't a traditional bride - I wore a long coloured dress

These threads always make me inwardly chuckle! Being Asian, not only is it the norm but actually it's often expected for guests (if married) to wear their own ultra blingy wedding outfit to someone else's wedding. We are quite a frugal people and it seems dreadfully wasteful to wear an outfit only once!

I think it's okay, but not a good choice. It's lovely but I wouldn't wear it to a wedding. You'll definitely raise a few eyebrows. There must be something that's not predominantly white that you could wear. Just so you're not that person.

It's lovely and who gives a fuck if it's white? You're hardly going to be confused with the bride.

Thanks everyone. The fact that it has divided opinion has made my mind up, I won’t wear it to the wedding. I wouldn’t want to upset the bride (or look like I’m heading for a day at the beach as some have suggested ). Now I just need to find somewhere else to wear it so I can justify the purchase because I still love the dress

It's fine, go for it

It’s a lovely dress for a wedding, defo go for it

It is lovely. I see no issue and would wear colours like that if I wanted to.

It really is a bit far fetched to think that people could mistake you for the bride. I might agree if it was pure white, but it isn't and the polka dots look very nice. Add a colourful jacket or stole and that would top it off nicely.

I think if you have to ask you know you really shouldn't-

why risk making anyone uncomfortable- it is not your day

It’s lovely, buy it and wear it.

It is nothing like a wedding dress.

TBF the first review of the dress said they wore it to a wedding. I think it's lovely and agree with some PP that I really couldn't tell you what anyone wore to my wedding other than they all looked lovely

[quote Justheretoaskaquestion91]@TheKeatingFive

My bought brought along a friend of hers I fucking hate who wore a white jacket, white shoes and a white dress with a red pattern on it. At the time I thought maybe she just didn’t know but now I know what a bitch she is i am sure it was deliberate.

It’s not about being mistaken for the bride, it is about the principle
And respect. It’s the bride’s day, pick another fucking colour. There are many to choose from! Yes there are polka dots but the base colour and a good 80-90% of the dress is white. Why create waves on someone else’s big day?? Why?![/quote]
because for many of us we just don't see it as an issue?

Nothing like a wedding dress, bride really not bothered unless her MIL turns up in white lace?

I have no recollection of what anyone wore except that they all looked lovely and had made an effort for me.

@Utterlybananas

These threads always make me inwardly chuckle! Being Asian, not only is it the norm but actually it's often expected for guests (if married) to wear their own ultra blingy wedding outfit to someone else's wedding. We are quite a frugal people and it seems dreadfully wasteful to wear an outfit only once!

I love this, and I am now imagining a wedding where we all turn up in our own wedding dresses

It’s absolutely fine, it’s a polka dot.

I honestly think I only barely noticed what anyone else was wearing at my wedding... If I think back, I can only remember what one, maybe two people wore, and that was mainly because they were in some of the family photos I've looked at a few times since.

I don't think that dress looks bridal, and personally I think it's ridiculous when people act as though it's a mortal sin to wear white to a wedding. That said, if you're questioning it, maybe better not to. Since so many people evidently have a problem with anything white at a wedding, you'll save yourself some worry by choosing something else.

I don't think it's quite right for a wedding personally- a bit beachy and casual. Also, yes it is polka dotted but I would stay away from long and white for a wedding.

It’s beautiful I’d say definitely wear it!

I’ve always found the no white rule is for exclusively white dresses. This is polka dot! Maybe take a black pashmina (are they still a thing?) to throw round your shoulders if you want or wear a black blazer if you think you need to but I wouldn’t!

The first ‘Can I wear white to a wedding?’ thread of 2022.
I wonder how many there will be this year 🤔

It's fine- wear a black jacket and black hat, bag and shoes- you will NOT look anything like a bride or in any way upstage her- what a ridiculous rule people are spouting. The bride will more than likely be wearing a long lacy white/ivory dress like most brides.

And all those say "if you have to ask..."- People only have to ask because they know so many others follow this silly "no white dresses- even if they have a pattern on them rule!! which the other half of the population really think is silly.

I recently wore a white dress with navy flowers on to a wedding anf did feel quite uncomfortable - i didn't think about it when i brought it only the day before.

If your questioning it, i wouldnt do it - you will end up feeling self concious all day like i did!

A sister of a close friend of mine wore a black and white patterned (you could definitely see the white, it was obvious) statement dress to her sister's wedding - as far as I can recall no bridesmaids or just little girls.

I remember thinking there's no way I myself would've worn that to a wedding as there were far more other colours/patterns she could've chosen.

Her sister then kept on going about the surname of them both being like the title of a pop music band (Sugababes) and kept on drunkenly singing their songs and saying to her sister 'we're the Sugar Babes aren't we sister?!' to which her sister was cringing next to her.

@MisterMeaner

I'd wear it. Where does this ridiculous thing about not wearing white to a wedding come from? Aside from the fact that many brides don't wear white, who is going to mistake you for the bride? Literally everyone there will have been invited because they are a close friend or relative of the bride and groom, so they should jolly well know you're not the bride! Plus the bride is the one walking up the aisle, standing at the front saying the vows, posing with the groom for photos, riding in the fancy car, having more photos, sitting on top table, cutting the cake, doing the first dance. You'll not be doing any of these things. You'll be at the side holding a clutch bag, an order of service and a box of confetti. And even if someone did by some bizarre turn of events mistake you for the bride, what would happen next? You'll just say, "Actually, the bride is the one holding a bouquet over there, with everyone fawning over her" and the day would carry on. You won't end up accidentally married to the groom will you? People are weird. But if you're in doubt, ask the bride or choose something else.

This.

It's a perfectly nice dress and nobody could possibly mistake it for a wedding dress or the OP for the bridge. Why people get so uptight about weddings is absolutely beyond me. Mine is nearly 40 years ago and I can remember very little about it, certainly not what anybody else was wearing. What's mattered in those 40 years has been the marriage, not the wedding.

Bride! Not bridge, although you wouldn't get mistaken for one of those either.

Too white, don’t do it.