AIBU to wear this to a wedding?

[Needmorechocolate]

I’m going to a family members wedding in May, WIBU to wear this? Is it too white? www.phase-eight.com/product/verena-spot-maxi-dress-220451630.html#q=Polka&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=220451630&pos=22

[oviraptor21]

It's beautiful. I'd wear it.

[NeverChange]

If I were the bride, I wouldn't care if someone wore it at my wedding.

If I were a guest, I wouldn't wear white, ivory, etc for 2 reasons, 1. In case I upset the bride, 2. In case anyone else this I was rude

[Iamclearlyamug]

Wow it’s beautiful, might order one for myself 😍

[Justheretoaskaquestion91]

@Bluemamma

It’s a fabulous dress. It would look excellent with a leather jacket, just not to a wedding. Because its overwhelming colour is white. Not sure about a leather jacket to a wedding either tbh!

[Bluemamma]

Sorry meant to direct my post at @Justheretoaskaquestion91

[TolkiensFallow]

Lovely dress but too white for a wedding

[Justheretoaskaquestion91]

From Debrett’s, aka the absolute oracle of the etiquette market:

Is it now acceptable for guests to wear white?

In short, no. Despite a rise in guests considering cream jumpsuits and definitely-not-bridal white shift dresses acceptable attire, Debrett's say that wearing white to someone else’s wedding is still a no-go. “It is best to avoid white or cream and black,” the Handbook states. “Overly bright colours and patterns should be avoided as they may dominate photographs, and care should be taken not to overshadow the bride. It is not necessary for all the components of an outfit to match.”

[Bluemamma]

Blue top *

[Bluemamma]

@steppemum why do you say that? I honestly don’t see what is wrong with this dress.. I have been to many weddings (plus my own) and honestly I see zero issues with it. Ok it is white but with black polka dots all over it!! Has anyone ever seen a bride wearing polka dots? This dress will look fab with a black lether jacket. It’s 100% wedding appropriate. OP maybe ask the bride if she’s going to be ok with it? On my own wedding a friend asked me in advance if her outfit will be ok with me (white pants and a blue too) it was ok with me of course!

[Justheretoaskaquestion91]

Who made you queen of the rules?

The point of etiquette is that it’s rules for society re exactly these sorts of things. I don’t need to be the queen of rules - any decent etiquette book will tell you not to wear white to a wedding. Or eat with your mouth open. Etc etc etc

[steppemum]

@Justheretoaskaquestion91

This thread explains why some people think it’s fine to eat with their mouths open - basically some people don’t know basic etiquette! That’s it!

no, some people have different social set up etc.

Bloody rude.
Who made you queen of the rules?

[Crazycrazylady]

I think the fact that's it's white and long , I'd leave it off for a wedding.

[Hesma]

I think it’s fine and would accessorise with black or fuscia. It’s a lovely dress

[1FootInTheRave]

Absolutely not appropriate imo.

[shivbo2014]

If you're asking you won't be 100% comfortable wearing it. I think it's probably OK to wear but I wouldn't.

[MilduraS]

I think it depends on the bride and family really. I wouldn't mind a guest wearing that to my wedding but some brides or more traditional family members might find it rude.

[CeeceeBloomingdale]

It's too white and would be considered bad form by many

[HaveringWavering]

No comment on the “white at a wedding” issue but if you have similar colouring to the blonde model don’t get it- it completely washes her out. Looks lovely on the black model though.

[Allthecheeseplease]

I'm getting married this year and I wouldn't mind at all. Some people are way too precious. No one will mistake you for the bride!

[DillDanding]

Nothing remotely bridal about it. Wear it, it’s lovely.

[GreenerGrass103]

Gorgeous dress, I am tempted to buy it myself so thanks for the tip! But I don't think it's suitable for a wedding.

[mrstea301]

It's too white imo. It's a lovely dress but you can wear literally any other colour in the spectrum!

[GinPin2]

It is lovely, I would wear it. Maybe with a darker jacket.

[Candyfloss99]

If you are wondering if it's inappropriate then don't wear it. You'll feel uncomfortable.

[tartanbaker]

For the ‘don’t wear white to a wedding’ thing, someone once gave me a tip…if you screw your eyes up & look at it, is the predominant colour you can see white? If so, it’s too white for a wedding if you’re not the bride…..