AIBU to wear this to a wedding?

[Needmorechocolate]

I’m going to a family members wedding in May, WIBU to wear this? Is it too white? www.phase-eight.com/product/verena-spot-maxi-dress-220451630.html#q=Polka&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=220451630&pos=22

Lovely dress but I think it’s too white. I’d broach it with the bride first personally, see what she thinks.

The fact you even have to ask suggests it's a no

I love this dress! And I agree that with a jacket etc it would look lovely for a wedding.

Inevitably it would draw some attention because it is floor length and white - even with polka dots. So it's probably a no. But buy it anyway because it's gorgeous.

Lovely dress but wouldn't wear anything white to a wedding tbh.

People who wear white to weddings are arseholes.

I'd wear it.

Where does this ridiculous thing about not wearing white to a wedding come from? Aside from the fact that many brides don't wear white, who is going to mistake you for the bride? Literally everyone there will have been invited because they are a close friend or relative of the bride and groom, so they should jolly well know you're not the bride! Plus the bride is the one walking up the aisle, standing at the front saying the vows, posing with the groom for photos, riding in the fancy car, having more photos, sitting on top table, cutting the cake, doing the first dance. You'll not be doing any of these things. You'll be at the side holding a clutch bag, an order of service and a box of confetti.
And even if someone did by some bizarre turn of events mistake you for the bride, what would happen next? You'll just say, "Actually, the bride is the one holding a bouquet over there, with everyone fawning over her" and the day would carry on. You won't end up accidentally married to the groom will you?
People are weird.
But if you're in doubt, ask the bride or choose something else.

I would. It’s full of spots, it can hardly be confused with a wedding dress.

I love it!

How is it a long, white dress?

So many people really overreach to find fault!

I’m sure some brides wear different colours but I’ve been to many many weddings over the years and never seen a bride in anything other than a long white dress.

It doesn’t look bridal so it’s fine. Gorgeous dress

I think it’s a bit too white. So unless you’re going to wear it with a bright coloured jacket I’d avoid. So many nice dresses out there why risk it?

It’s fine but looks too basic for a wedding imo

How is it a long, white dress?

How is it not a long, white dress?

I am completely bemused by all the comments on wedding threads about not wearing white.

To me this dress is not white. It is polka dots, and it isn't remotely bridal.

But given how many people seem to think it is an issue, I would simply ask the bride/someone close to the bride.

I'd wear that, with bright pink or bright green jacket/accessories. I don't understand these comments, I have no recollection of my guests wore at my wedding.

Nope. It's too white - unless you want to wear it with a coloured jacket and accessories and keep them on all day. Wearing white is not about you being mistaken for the bride, but about you looking like you're trying to upstage the bride. I'd save this one for another occasion. It is a beautiful dress.

It's fine. I don't see anything wrong with wearing white. It's absolutely nothing like a wedding dress, so no way you can be seen to be distracting from the bride.

@diddl

I love it!

How is it a long, white dress?

So many people really overreach to find fault!

Well it's long and the base colour is white...

but about you looking like you're trying to upstage the bride

Absolutely nothing about that dress says 'trying to upstage the bride'

I have no recollection of my guests wore at my wedding.

Me neither 🤷‍♀️

I think it's fine - it is obviously not bridal. If you are worried, @Needmorechocolate, you could add coloured accessories. This is what I've done for ds1's wedding, next month - I've bought a dress that is big flowers on a cream background, and I'll be wearing a pashmina, fascinator and shoes in cerise.

I think it would be all about how you style it. Of you were going to wear a really chunky necklace in a gold maybe or a green, really funky or chunky shoes or maybe even a belt???? As is, it's a bit 'floaty white dress' but could be toughened up if you know what I mean? I would try it on with different accessories you already have to see if that makes a difference. Not necessarily wedding suitable but that's what I did with a dress I found a bit too 'pretty'

@TheKeatingFive

My bought brought along a friend of hers I fucking hate who wore a white jacket, white shoes and a white dress with a red pattern on it. At the time I thought maybe she just didn’t know but now I know what a bitch she is i am sure it was deliberate.

It’s not about being mistaken for the bride, it is about the principle
And respect. It’s the bride’s day, pick another fucking colour. There are many to choose from! Yes there are polka dots but the base colour and a good 80-90% of the dress is white. Why create waves on someone else’s big day?? Why?!

It's fine, it's definitely not a wedding dress. My take is you avoid long flowing white dresses

It is about the principle. And respect.

In all honesty that sounds like total hokum to me.

Given that literally no one is going to mistake these people for the bride, why the fuck would anyone care what they wear? White is just a colour, not some immense privilege granted by the wedding gods. Find something more important to think about.