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AIBU to wear this to a wedding?

166 replies

Needmorechocolate · 19/01/2022 12:58

I’m going to a family members wedding in May, WIBU to wear this? Is it too white? www.phase-eight.com/product/verena-spot-maxi-dress-220451630.html#q=Polka&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=220451630&pos=22

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lastqueenofscotland · 19/01/2022 13:19

It’s not bridal but i personally just wouldn’t wear white…

Lou98 · 19/01/2022 13:19

It wouldn't personally bother me if you wore it to my wedding.

However, some people do get funny about guests wearing white at a wedding, unless you're sure the Bride wouldn't mind, I wouldn't risk wearing it

Goldfishmountainclimber · 19/01/2022 13:20

I think it is better to avoid white. There are so many threads on here about brides being upset over small things.

Bunce1 · 19/01/2022 13:21

Colour and pattern- ok
Shape and length- not ok

TooManyPJs · 19/01/2022 13:21

Can I wear a long white dress to a wedding.....errr no. Polka dots or no polka dots. It's bad form and threatens podding off the bride. Just not worth it. And don't bother the bride with it she is v busy. Just wear another bloody colour. There are plenty to choose from.

HelloFrostyMorning · 19/01/2022 13:23

No. Too white. Bad etiquette.

Chely · 19/01/2022 13:23

I would ask for the brides opinion on it.

ThettaReddast · 19/01/2022 13:25

If you add some pops of colour it would be ok I think, but if you’re questioning it you might be more comfortable wearing something less white.

(As an aside, I was also a bride in polka dots)

TruffleShuffles · 19/01/2022 13:25

Regardless of the colour, I think it’s way too casual. Looks like something you would wear on a beach holiday.

Original poster
Needmorechocolate · 19/01/2022 13:26

@freelions I bought the dress on a bit of a whim just because I liked it. I’m now thinking I can’t justify the expense unless I’ve got somewhere to wear it though, so that’s why I’m wondering if it would be ok for the wedding. I do have another dress that I already own that I could wear instead and I can take this one back.

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ufucoffee · 19/01/2022 13:31

Nice dress but too white for a wedding

LittleGwyneth · 19/01/2022 13:31

It's a pretty dress but it's clearly on the dividing line between fine and not fine. I don't think you would be unreasonable to wear it, but is it worth the stress of wondering if people are looking at you funny etc?

Dubgirl1212 · 19/01/2022 13:31

It's lovely, wear it. It's polka dot so it's fine.

Bookworm20 · 19/01/2022 13:33

Personally I would not wear that to a wedding. The combination of it being primarily white, long and floaty would just rule it out for me.

And based on split pinions here, there are bound to be decent number of people at the wedding who would think it bad taste of you for wearing it. If you choose to, hopefully one of them isn't the bride. You'd feel pretty crap if you upset the bride for the sake of wearing a possibly controversial dress.

Hellolittlestar · 19/01/2022 13:34

Its usually about 50/50 split on opinions. If you decide to wear it and 50% of guest will thinks it’s a bit daft to wear white to a wedding why would you still chose to do that when every other colour is available?

I think it’s not appropriate for a wedding.

Ricksteinsfishwife · 19/01/2022 13:35

I always find it curious when women see a wedding invite and wish to don a long white dress. I’m sure there must be some subliminal thing going on there, there is so many other colours to pick from but for sone reason on here I often see threads from women saying can I wear this long white dress to my friends wedding.

Well yes you can, no one will arrest you but it’s more polite to try to not dress like you’re the bride. 😃

sadpapercourtesan · 19/01/2022 13:40

Nope. It's a long white dress.

Echobelly · 19/01/2022 13:41

I think it's fine, it's clearly not trying to be a wedding dress or anything.

nokidshere · 19/01/2022 13:43

Oh givover. It's a lovely dress and in no way comparable to a wedding dress.

Concestor · 19/01/2022 13:46

It's too white for a wedding. Even with coloured accessories.

CurzonDax · 19/01/2022 13:49

It's a lovely dress (I have something similar), but even with the dots - it long and white. I would avoid wearing it to a wedding - you may get a few strange looks from people.

I'm sure there will be another non-wedding occasion to wear the dress, as I said I have something very similar (but a little shorter), and have worn it out for a few nice meals with my friends/husband. In fact, I've just remembered that I wore it the night before my wedding (we stayed at the hotel with a few family members, and all had dinner together in the restaurant that evening - I had already worn it a few times before this, and so didn't buy it for this reason) - I remember I chose to wear it, as it was white, but not a wedding dress, and so would be suitable for a bride the night before the wedding. With that in mind, I definitely wouldn't wear it as a guest!

The wedding isn't until May, so you have plenty of time to buy something else.

KiloWhat · 19/01/2022 13:50

It's nice but I'd choose something else. It will look odd in the photos

shouldistop · 19/01/2022 13:52

White and full length - no

godmum56 · 19/01/2022 13:52

@irregularegular

I think it's absolutely fine! It's a nice dress, perfectly wedding appropriate, and I wouldn't think twice if I saw someone in it. The idea that white is offensive at a wedding seems so old fashioned! If you are at all worried that the bride might be sensitive about these things then you could ask her....
me too...especially now so many brides don't wear white themselves. I get not wearing something that could be mistaken for a wedding dress but I don't think this could be.
girlmom21 · 19/01/2022 13:56

It looks like a nightdress to me... maybe it's just because the model is very slim