DB wants half his ex's house

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DB was with his partner for the last 6 years. She has been very successful career wise and earns a high salary and had her own house before they met. Despite working himself (he earns about half what his ex does) he just moved in and did not pay a single bill in the whole 6 years. He did buy some furniture occasionally but other than that she paid for everything.

She split up with him a few month ago and he is now back at our parents house. He could rent his own place but it has dawned after all his bills he wouldn't have much left. He actually would have more than many I think he is so use to have his whole wage he has got a shock.

Anyway with encouragement of my parents he has decided he is going to see a solicitor to get half of her house . I don't have a clue of the legalities and doubt he will get anywhere. I try not to get involved in it all but I'm getting daily phones calls from him and my parents about it. Which is driving me mad so I have stopped answering most of them.

I know this isn't actually any of my business so please don't start with them comments. I feel like I am forced to be involved when I actually want to say it's wrong. I suppose the only reason I am asking AIBU to think that way is when you thinking of other situations like when a cohabiting couple have children and the mother doesn't work/contribute financial to the house. I certainly wouldn't feel the same in that circumstance.

Not a chance in hell.

I think I'd find it difficult not to tell him what a sponger he is. I can't believe your parents are encouraging him. Its pretty disgusting that this poor woman who has provided him with a roof over his head, might now have to pay a solicitor to respond to his ridiculous demands. He should be ashamed of himself.

@jade9390

It is worth a try. My brother owned a house and married to an old trout for about 3 months, everyone warned him that she just liked weddings. She got a few grand out of it.

‘Married’ being key to getting any money.

No excuse for ‘old trout.

@BlackAmericanoNoSugar

I'm assuming that you're in England, in which case he gets nothing. Other countries have different rules. My cousin lives in Ireland. She owned her house and paid the mortgage herself. Her boyfriend moved in with her. After a few years he starting using one of the rooms in her house to see clients. He didn't ask her permission to do this, he just told her he would and then did. When they split up she was forced to pay rent for business premises for him (I think for a year) to compensate for his loss of her house as part of his business.

Yes I remember a good few years back being out with my sister and some friends of hers, one of whom owned her own home. Her bf (god I hope she dumped him) after a few drinks told my sister that he planned on living with her for 5 years because he would be entitled to half her house then. Fucker

In order to have any claim he’ll need to supply proof of investment in the property. Bank statements showing he paid towards the mortgage and bills will be the least he will be requested to provide. He has no claim and will end up with a hefty bill if he tries to take it to court.

He's not got a hope in hell of getting a penny.

I lived with my ex for 10 years and had two kids by him but the key thing is I sold my house and moved in with him.

I got absolutely fuck all. The only way I could have had a claim would have been if I could prove that the value of the house had increased substantially during the tIme I'd lived there, and that I had contributed to that increase. I had, but proving it would have been a long and lengthy court battle and the only people guaranteed to make money out of it would have been the solicitors.

The key thing here is 'married'. Living together, common law etc is all bollocks.

Can't believe your parents are supporting him doing this.

Absolutely crazy.

She owes him nothing.

Did he pay food, gas, pill tax etc instead of rent?

Does he work at 10 Downing Street by any chance - is living (and partying) on a completely different planet if he thinks he is entitled to anything - he is dam lucky to have got away without forking out for 6 years

@Tigger1895

In order to have any claim he’ll need to supply proof of investment in the property. Bank statements showing he paid towards the mortgage and bills will be the least he will be requested to provide. He has no claim and will end up with a hefty bill if he tries to take it to court.

This isn't true. Paying any of the mortgage does not give him any kind of interest in the property.

Very wrong but some people turn a blind eye to morals when it comes to money.
I was scammed by some girl I knew husband she couldn’t care less.

I'm gonna be keeping every single part of my body crossed that he gets laughed out the lawyers office.
He contributes nothing, pays no bills, doesn't marry this woman but somehow thinks he is owed half her house?
Sorry but no!
He doesn't deserve anything!
So no, YNBU

@Owl55

Did he pay food, gas, pill tax etc instead of rent?

@Owl55 literally in the OP, in the first paragraph.

I'm kicking myself now, thinking of all the hotels and B&Bs I've stayed in throughout my life. Stupid me thought that the money I paid was just for use of the facilities for the agreed time - now I realise that I should have been entitled to permanent half-ownership of each of those rooms. Or does it only count if you don't initially pay them anything at all....?

OP, honestly, he will be laughed out of court.

If there is a solicitor willing to take this case on then they are a complete charlatan who will take your brother's money for a no hope case.

1. It was her house before he met her and he never contributed a single penny towards its purchase

2.They weren't married, so he has absolutely no 'legal' claim to the property.

I could add, 4, 5 and 6 but there's no point.

He’s being totally unrealistic and no solicitor will support this surely.

Do you think your DB might have given your DP’s the idea that he did contribute a lot more financially than he actually did? That might be another reason ( apart from them being worried they will be stuck with him living with them permanently)

Why are they constantly phoning you about it? What are you supposed to do with the information?

@LaurieFairyCake

Yeah, I'd warn her

Me too actually

I agree my only possible theory is that my parents are worried he will never move out from their house now. So are encouraging it in order for him to get some money to move out with!

And it will take him even longer to move out if he is throwing all his savings at a solicitor in a futile attempt to get anything from his ex.

He's a cheeky fucker.

I have only read the first page so far...

I think you need to have a good talk with your parents they may think this is how to get rid of him, or that he will learn his lesson and grow up when he gets humiliated.

but it could and very likely will backfire on them and he could become an even more entrenched freeloader, if he is supported in carrying on with his claims of injustice he just might blow it all and end up in debt and then they will never get rid off him and he will continue, theres nothing like having a bunch of enablers surrounding you to help you ruin your life and stick your head firmly in the sand about it.

This isn't down to you to solve.
Let him see a solicitor and present his evidence. It's highly unlikely he'll find anyone that won't tell him the truth

He may get a one of payment for whatever he put into the house like furniture or any work he can prove he paid for.