Was this a dodgy massage?!

[Dodgyornotdodgy]

I swear I am NOT a troll - MNHQ can confirm I am a long time poster who has NC. I would particularly like the opinions of masseuses/masseurs but anyone really.

I get massages all the time and this has never happened before.

Masseur (so male - not a problem, have masseurs fairly often too. Not sexist and not assuming all men are pervs).

During the leg portion of my massage he crossed my leg over and massaged the bottom of my thigh. The bottom of my thigh was over my vulva. It was extremely arousing, obviously. I didn’t really know what to say - he did it on both sides.

I guess my AIBU is - AIBU to think this was deliberate and he knows what he is doing?! Or am I just quite sex starved and bizarre?

I realise people will come on being like why didn’t you say anything but 1) I wasn’t really sure if he was doing anything on purpose ajd 2) to be honest it was pleasant!

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It’s not the arrow that people think is a penis, it’s the little penis at the top of his pelvis!

Okay everyone I didn’t do art GSCE at school!

I genuinely don’t know whether to laugh or not at this!

The paper knickers might be a red herring, unless they were the thong variety.

I can't recreate this at home, but you mean like this? My drawing skills are also questionable.

I understand exactly what you mean and yes, I’d say it was deliberate. Is this a place you’d 100% trust? Only asking as I read the court case of the masseur who had the camera filming on his laptop which he said was open for the soothing music / scene of tropical island or whatever.

@ReadySteadyTwins

That's not a leg. I don't know what that is, but it's not a leg.

Request immediate transfer to classics

It’s not a Willy either though! It says so on the label!

Massage therapists might be trained according to a variety of approaches and traditions, which could explain his - ahem - technique. Compared with sports massage, for example. But OP, since it sounds as though he didn't directly touch your genitals, it could be best described as a grey area. (His focus on the upper back thigh, not your genitals!)

If you get him again, just calmly state that you have a boundary regarding how far up your thighs you're comfortable with therapeutic touch.

Are you based in Hull and was the masseuse named Brian perchance?

You need to supply additional information of your own and potentially a diagram given the specific nature of this question!

Everyone who is asking if they can visit, he is in mainland Europe.

It's even funnier that his little stick erection was unintentional

That's not a leg. I don't know what that is, but it's not a leg

I don’t want to get bogged down in the details. My toes are irrelevant here

My dh is booked for a massage this afternoon. I’m glad it’s just neck and shoulders now. 😂

@debwong

Did he cook you a steak afterwards?

Damn. I thought I was shit at drawing, but this is another level

Based on the fact his hand was on the opposite / outer thigh rather than directly near the clitoris I would be inclined to think this was accidental. If he intended something inappropriate I suspect he would have been more direct, as with Kitfish above unless there was something in his mannerism afterwards at the time or after that made you question it.

Everyone who is asking if they can visit, he is in mainland Europe

Bugger ... did you HAVE to spoil it OP?

@DobbyTheHouseElk

They were a thong but that’s usual (known as a “tanga” here, for those internationals among us).

@BlowDryRat
Very close but he is massaging the part of the thigh you have written on. Everything else pretty accurate though/it’s not good etiquette to upstage someone’s diagram though surely?

That leg tho 😂😂😂😂😂😂

I was taught to massage the inner thigh and the back of the thigh up to the buttocks.
I must admit, I never massaged men on the inner thigh 😂

Are you I East Yorkshire and did his name rhyme with Ryan?

Am I the only one bothered by so many posters joking around about what could be sexual touching without prior consent?

I’m not really sure how I feel because it’s unclear to me if this was that or not.

Just to be absolutely clear. The op is saying she is unsure if the massage therapist touched her sexually without her consent.

Op whether you enjoyed it or not is irrelevant. It does not make you a creep. It does not make it ok that he did that. I’m not a massage therapist so I don’t know what the appropriate boundaries are
All the “send him round to me” and “lucky you” type posts make md really uncomfortable.

The op is asking if she has been touched inappropriately. That’s a serious question.

I suspect he would have been more direct, as with Kitfish above unless there was something in his mannerism afterwards at the time or after that made you question it

Ok but my feeling is that, if you got off on getting women off in secret like this, wouldn’t you make it as indirect as possible? He didn’t do anything that made me question it but I was obviously quite reading a fair bit into his behaviour. Eg he gave me a very nice face massage after and I wondered if that was intentionally erotic or I was just a bit turned on by that point.

@PurpleDaisies

I feel very confused

[quote Dodgyornotdodgy]@PurpleDaisies

I feel very confused[/quote]
That is the way many victims feel;

@BlowDryRat

I can't recreate this at home, but you mean like this? My drawing skills are also questionable.

Aaaaahhh I get it now!

I wish i had a pound for every woman on this thread who has crossed her leg over to see how it would work