AIBU- Fellow school mum drives every morning

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So..hope this doesn't out me.
We live in a very small close knit area. All kids attend the same school, lots of us live on the same few streets.
Every morning and pick up we ALL walk the kids to school, bar the few who have to rush off to work etc (it's a 5-10 min walk)
One parent on my street... drives! Big 4x4, she has NEVER once walked her DS.
She doesn't work, no where to rush off to. She has no mobility issues etc neither does the child..
Why does this iritate me so much??

Yabu- live and let live
Yanbu- she should be walking

It really is none of your business.

Why does it irritate you so much?

Why should she be walking?
Genuine question.
Her life, her decision, maybe she can’t walk or hates it, whatever the reason it’s her business only.

How do you know her medical details?

Why on earth would this be any concern of yours OP? How have you gleaned all this info on her family's mobility status and time schedules?

Get a hobby seriously!

None of your business whatsoever. I drive my DS. I have IBD and it can be set off by walking, even just a short distance.

Wow I can’t believe the comments
I can’t stand seeing people drive who could easily walk. It’s lazy, teaching their kids to be lazy, and damaging to the planet. YANBU
It’s the same here, people drive who literally live a 5 minute walk. And then they go to the gym for exercise. Madness

Are you judging the mobility issues on what you can see or what you definitely know? Some mobility issues are not immediately apparent, likewise other conditions such as anxiety or depression. Alternatively maybe she just can't be bothered. I doubt it will out you though as most schools have some parents like that.

Why does it matter to you? I would hate to be forced to make chit chat on a walk to and from school every day with a group.

Maybe she’s going somewhere after.

Maybe she’d feel like she had to have hair and make up done and doesn’t want to

MYOB

Lazy but it’s just none of your businesses, judgy people like you assuming you no all about her health too are the most annoying thing about close knit communities! And possibly the answer to why she drives rather than walking and making small talk with everyone

You have no idea why she drives. It could well be out of laziness but it could also be due to other needs that she has kept private from nosey neighbours.

And the thought of having to meet everyone to walk as a group like you describe would be enough to push me to drive even if I could walk!

It irritates you because she knows she should do better but doesn't care.

It irritates you because there are days you'd love to drive as well, but you try to do the right thing and you feel slightly martyred by the fact other people see your sacrifice and don't remotely five a shit about it.

Yep I’d think it lazy but it’s none of your business and I couldn’t get wound up! My friend has a little girl who went through a stage of flat out refusing to walk ANYWHERE. If it saves an argument about getting out of the door then why not.

Also an IBD sufferer, some days my feet are so painful that every step feels like I’m standing and walking barefoot on jagged rocks, even when I’m wearing super comfortable shoes. Would any of the other school mums know that about me? Of course they wouldn’t, they’d have no idea.
She might also have something wrong that she had no desire to disclose to you. Or maybe she just doesn’t want to walk. None of your business is it, though? Keep your judgements to yourself.

I have a pretty debilitating set of illnesses. One is called a hidden disability. I don't like to disclose it to others. It's shit enough to have to deal with it. It's 2.5 miles to school from my house. I drive every day. In a 4 x 4 as I can't get in and out of a low car. They had a walk / scoot / bike to school initiative last summer. My DD was the only one who didn't get a certificate. Oh how shit that made me feel on top of everything else.

There may well be 'nothing' wrong with her. But you have no idea of anyone's struggles behind closed doors.

@Sirzy

And the thought of having to meet everyone to walk as a group like you describe would be enough to push me to drive even if I could walk!

I agree with this. She most likely does it so she's not forced to join in with the group walk, especially with a group of people who are so judgemental. Poor women would probably be equally judged if she chose to walk and wanted to do so by herself.

She will be lazy, like the vast majority of the UK population.

Leave her be.
My neighbour did similar. With the added bit he had to leave earlier, and get back later, than if he'd just walk. His choice. No idea why he did but since he is generally unpleasant it suited me just fine.

Disabilities can be invisible op. How do you know her medical record? Or she might go somewhere after the drop off. It does sound like you're jealous of her lifestyle maybe. It sounds like you need to get a hobby having so much time to stare out of the window at others. No medals for being a martyr!

Yanbu. She’s putting other people’s children in danger, worsening air quality and making the school run less pleasant for everyone else.

@Nevilleslongbottom

She will be lazy, like the vast majority of the UK population.

She is. She's very "Amanda Motherland" so if there was a genuine problem as to why she couldn't walk trust me we would know

Assuming you don't have access to the family's full medical records YABU for judging.

What does it have to do with you? There's plenty decent arguments for walking but as PP's have said, you have no idea what her circumstances are, and tbh you sound jealous.