Is MN middle class? Feeling inadequate and that my life is boring.

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Is MN mainly full of middle to upper class posters?

Having read through some of the threads, especially tonight's holiday thread where everyone appears to be having multiple holidays this year, I'm feeling very low and inadequate, and that there's something wrong in my life

Oh well, comparison is the thief of joy and all that.

if I were weird enough to lie about my job I would pick an interesting one not my boring one!

Take your own advice OP.
Comparison is the thief of joy indeed.

I was told that I didnt understand a technical handbook by a self professed expert in the field- who offered a lot (of wrong) advice.

😆

I'm not entering a class debate again but I also think plenty of people are lying. I live in a commuter town outside of London and know plenty of people with fancy houses and plenty of money. They don't go nuts on holidays. They may have an occasional big holiday every few years but are as likely to rent a cottage or camp in the UK. Absolutely NO ONE talks about how much money they have and no one brings up class or seems to have middle class aspirations. So I don't know where these people come from I honestly don't.

@Lipsandlashes

One word to remember when you’re on the internet is ‘fabricated’.

Also this!

I also don't know lots of people (even the ones rolling in it) who book dozens of holidays so far in advance

Can someone please link the holiday thread ? I can't find it . Thank you

People lie on here about the most bizarre of things and clearly think the rest of us are too stupid to find out. You’ll see people posting about their new relationship who only ten days before were posting about their husband of several years. There was a poster who on a “show us a photo of your bedroom” thread tried to pass off a photo they’d pinched from the website of a luxury hotel in Paris as their own home. There was a recent “if you earn a six figure salary what do you do?” thread with dozens of posters claiming to be high earning solicitors / bankers / academics / property developers, when just weeks before they’d been all over the Coronavirus boards claiming to work in schools or hospital wards.

Take everything with a pinch of salt.

@mewkins

I'm not entering a class debate again but I also think plenty of people are lying. I live in a commuter town outside of London and know plenty of people with fancy houses and plenty of money. They don't go nuts on holidays. They may have an occasional big holiday every few years but are as likely to rent a cottage or camp in the UK. Absolutely NO ONE talks about how much money they have and no one brings up class or seems to have middle class aspirations. So I don't know where these people come from I honestly don't.

@mewkins similar scenario here. You are spot on.

Certainly some posters seem to be on the higher earning side, but you can't believe everything you read.

Earlier on a post everyone was suggesting that a poster who is struggling with money, simply just learns to drive. Like it is cheap and easy.

Holidays, a lot have carried them over. We have had some very lovely holidays in the past, none this year as we have spent it all on this house. Also many folk could be living on credit.

Couldn't be further from middle class, but we don't have children and save throughout the year for holidays.

We're rough as old boots.

Bob online and book a holiday then? £200 cottage-by-the-coast holiday is just as nice as... well, whatever other people do.

Surely this assumption that we all have a spare £200 to bob online and book a holiday with is exactly the kind of thing OP is talking about?

@Sunshinedreaming2022

Yes I think it is very middle class. And those that aren’t probably has aspirations to be. Ffs it even has a board purely for pedantics who like to criticise everyone’s grammar.

Pedants.

Pedantic is the adjective.

sorry, couldn't help myself.

There is probably quite a lot of pent up demand regarding holidays.
When it comes to multiple foreign holidays there are 2 types of people, those who have lots of disposable income and holiday splurges are just one element of a very luxurious lifestyle and then those who live for their holidays and try and spend little during the year so that they get away on multiple foreign holidays.

I know a family who live in a small house on an awful road but they head to Mexico, Spain and kids go skiing each year. I get they are making lovely family memories but I would always prioritise a nicer home - it’s horses for courses really

Hope you are ok op 💐 please don't let posts you read bring you down. I've not been on here long but what I have noticed is that there are loads of "fur coat no nicks on here" ie people who act like they think people with money act.

I love reading about everyone's planned 15 holidays. One poster had so many that she couldn't remember all of the destinations 😁 Meanwhile back in the real world...

Marshmallow - you got there before me!

Mumsnet is open to anyone. Some of those people will lie. Some of those people will exaggerate. But some of those people will be much richer than you or me, or much poorer than you or me.

The fact that you don't know people who have lavish holidays or huge mortgages or massive salaies doesn't mean they don't exist. Of course they exist. Rich people exist!

I'd ignore it, OP. Some of it will be exaggerated or made up. FWIW, I dislike holidays. I just don't get it. I'd rather spend my free time at home. Each to their own.

The fact that you don't know people who have lavish holidays or huge mortgages or massive salaies doesn't mean they don't exist. Of course they exist. Rich people exist!

I know people with massive mortgages & very high salaries who like expensive holidays. I just don't know anyone who has 10 abroad holidays booked against the faff of a pandemic. Everyone I know including myself has had holidays canx or postponed so booking another 5 abroad seems an unusual thing to do.

MNetterss come across as very environmentally aware except when it comes to multiple flights abroad.

Don’t worry about it, a lot of posters on here are mortgage free and own more than one house mortgage free and are 30! With thousands in the bank, hundreds of thousands in a pension and save 50-60% of their salary from their highly paid job every month, debt free, pay their credit card debt off fully every month, no car loans or any type of loan in fact, shop at Waitrose or ocado home delivery and live in big houses in the city or huge cottages in the country

I have a holiday abroad (4 nights) that was a Covid cancellation! Failing that it’s staying with relatives in the uk! I have a mortgage on one house and have debt…

we should set a thread for mumsnet normal people who have lower salaries, debt, none or one holiday a year and not barristers or doctors 😆

You need to read the thread about broken things that we put up with. So many of us live in rather crumbly houses, it turns out.

I would probably be classed as middle class by profession / income, but come from working class roots. My DH and I earn a lot but we also have a huge mortgage (our stupid choice to have a ‘fancy’ house) / childcare etc. We have one car, usually one European holiday abroad (which is lovely but not £££ and we go at weird times out of season). Honestly OP, from what I see, money and all that comes with it stops correlating with joy quite early on in the pay scales (though obviously having none or very little is frightening and a struggle for too many people).

Don' t feel bad OP, have you not seen all the holiday from hell threads on here before now ? (Straight face)