Friends wedding overseas , no kids... what am i supposed to do

[SunnySideUp2020]

A good friend is having her wedding on the other side of the world.
We had been talking about how exciting it will be to reunite for the special occasion since she got engaged in the summer.

I just received the invite. It says no kids...
and I had a baby early last year. She will be too young to stay with anyone especially in a foreign country.

What am i supposed to say? Sorry cant come because i have a baby? I mean she knows I do!!!

[appleturnovers]

[quote Migrainesbythedozen]@appleturnovers I think your attitude is the judgemental one. You don't need to have a "really posh, formal, expensive do in a swish venue and you're a bit of a perfectionist" to not want kids at the wedding. 99% of weddings are incompatible with children. It is a solemn Adults Only ceremony not a fun day at the local theme park.[/quote]
Says who??? Some people do want a solemn adults-only event, and that's absolutely fine, but a lot of people see it as a family event with all ages welcome. Why are you so determined that your point of view is the only correct one? It's getting weird at this point. The photos of my grandparents' wedding in 1959 shows an informal family get-together in my great-nan's garden with loads of children present. I attended several weddings as a child that were family-orientated affairs with loads of children. At my own wedding we had nearly a dozen under-5s and a load more older kids and teens and it was great. The children especially livened up the dance floor and since we had a hog roast it didn't particularly cost much extra and I can't think of a single downside to having them there from our point of view. There are also entire cultures where the very thought of a child-free wedding is out of the question. Just to reiterate, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with childfree weddings, I'm just baffled by your insistence that weddings are inherently adult events. It's like you can't even imagine something outside of your own experience.

[verytiredofbeingshoutedat]

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

You have two options

1. Go to aus as a family for the holiday as planned and on the day of the wedding you attend and dh does something else with the baby
   

1. Decline the wedding.

Essentially this is what everyone has been saying throughout most of the thread.

[JackTheHack]

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